How to tell ma

[Ryan679]

i know i am addicted to drugs and alcohol but the hardest part for me is how to tell my ma.she doesnt want to hear that her 16 year old is a pill popping alcoholic  thats not just something you blurt out you know and also once ive told her when i do get high or drunk ill feel like a **** for breaking a promise to my ma and me

any suggestions?

[MeganDowney]

Hi Ryan,

Ok, this is a tricky one because moms and kids are so delicate sometimes. Of course she won't want to hear it, but that's only because she doesn't want it to be true. BUT IT IS TRUE. So she will come around. :)

If you have been close until now and want to keep her in your life (gosh I hope you do) than you will need to tell her plainly and honestly. I can really only approach it from my own life and what I feel is....

- God, I wish I would have reached out to my mom when I was hurting as a teen. I closed off and she became THE LAST person I would have opened up to. Or any adult really. Any healthy adult could have provided some strength, guidance, support. But I simply wouldn't and I do regret it now.

- As a mom now, I would forgive and embrace 5 BILLION things I didn't want to hear if it meant being there for my kids. I simply do not care what it is. My kids have me to be strong, hard, loving, supportive - a good parent.  So don't worry too much about what you have to say. We've all had our share of moments growing up and we can take it as moms.

And please please please remember that you are SO MUCH more than the drugs and alcohol you have found in your life lately. I'm sure you have passions, dreams, friends, and a looooonnnng future ahead of you. You just need to work past this part so that you can enjoy all that is to come.

Keep us posted, ok?

Megan

[worried878]

If you feel u need her help..i would tell her
I am older tho...much older  (:
In a fit of depression./a wd crying spout i told my mom 2 weeks after i stopped..it was a mistake cos she couldnt help me...had I been thinking clearly, i wouldnt have told her...it only hurt her and i was hurting bad enuf without inflicting my pain upon her as well
A non-addict cant really put themselves in our shoes...if i had to do it over again,,i would not have told her
But u r 16...u need the support...and support is important to get thru stopping the madness..plus u need someone to hold u accountable and I am thinking u live at home?
anyway...it is good u realize this now..most folks ur age would not have the depth in their thoughts to realize they had a problem..and it is a huge first step...and it will save u from lots of misery later on cos this stuff doesnt get better/only worse

keep posting