I AM ADDICTED HELP!!

[lotsofgrapes]

Hey Guys,
Ok i need help, is there such thing as addicted to your boyfriend? because i think i am addicted, my boyfriend and i have been dating for nearly 2 years now and i am addicted. I get mad if i dont see him everyday and upset and somtimes i start shaking and i try my best to stop him from going out! also i get mad if i see him talking to other girls even when he is working. also i have nightmares that he is cheating on me and wake up crying when i know he is not, i need to stop this but i dont know how to. i wish i could just say have a great time with your friends instead of arguing with him to make him stay home! also if he doesnt call me or email me everyday i get really mad and distraught over it, and im sooo scared of losing him because i feel like if i lose him i will lose my life with it because i would not be able to cope with out him. HELP ME PLEASE. PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE BEFORE ITS TO LATE I LOVE HIM!

[katarina777]

But let's start with grievingwoman. no, this is obviously not a joke, and I remember from goint to some AA meetings some 25+ years ago, that you shouldn't compare yourself with others because you cannot compare and relate at the same time. You sound totally unwise and immature and you don't have a clue it seems beyond your own problem ansd whatever that may be. but, to tell you the truth, even people without addictions have problems and difficult lives, and the problem  lotsofgrapes is talking about is real and a very painful one as well. for you, 'grapes', I am not sure that you will get help much here or on the relationship forum, even if that one is really great. (I am very familiar with the other and not with this one, that's all) I need to give your issue more thought, but if you should consider seeing a therapist you must be extremely careful with that as well. 9i;ll talk about this more to you later)

And, by the way, for those who hav e used the word 'codependent' to diagnose this problem her, it does not surprise me how you came up with it because it's such a 'classic' when ever you mix relationships and AA and people problems, and families.

But nothing 'grape' has said makes for this diagnosis, not the least bit. her problem is that she is 'dependent' on him, and that is what she means by 'addicted'.
codependence has not even been in the picture yet, and it may or may not be, but considering that she is in pain about screwing up this relationship, i very much doubt it's 'co-dependence'. if it was, she wouldn't be talking here and now.

[addictedtoloratab]

To me, I am not a expert, but, I say just enjoy it.  Its not going to physically hurt you and it not bad for you.  I do agree with the forum, it does sound like you are co-dependent, but, the butterflies dont always last forever.  Dont worry, get some books on this and try to enjoy.. It kind of sounds nice to be addicted to someone that is totally in to you,,,Peace, G

[lotsofgrapes]

yes thank you for everyone who has gave me advice and i did post one on relationship. THANK YOU for all the people who directed me that way as i could'nt see it and thought this could be an addiction! and for you grievingwidow this is not a joke. what a nice way to make someones self esteem go even lower by thinking that problem is a JOKE!

[steedo]

Easy Now, she is just looking for help. I pointed her to The Relationship Support Forum here at MedHelp and I checked, she did post. Hope she gets help

[grievingwidow]

GIVE ME A BREAK!  Is this a joke?  The people here on this forum have real medical problems.  You just need to get a grip on yourself and grow up (that is, if you really are serious and not having fun at our expense).

[steedo]

I hope someone here can help you. I  hope you don't turn to drugs to help numb the pain with your relationship. Many people here have used painkillers to kill the pain both in their bodies and in their minds and now they regret it. Why not try talking to people at both forums and see what kind of advice you can get at both places

[Mis Take]

read a little here and I think you'll change your mind.  NOT A GOOD IDEA.  You really need to see a doctor.  There are many that can help in these situations.  Sometimes antidepressants/antianxiety meds can help.  Just don't make the mistake of taking something to relieve the pain of seperation anxiety or jelousy or codependancy.  Im sorry if this sounds harsh, but sweetie, you really need to talk to someone, in person, and get this problem under control before you get under this problem.  good luck

[lotsofgrapes]

thank u, but how do i stop from doing this, i was thinking about getting myself addicted on somthing else. even tho i wouldnt want to, i just want to save my relationship and give him room,

[oxysbliss]

Try the Co-dependant no more book!!

lol good luck!!

[steedo]

I don't know if this is the right forum for you,though someone else here may be able to help you. Med help does have The Relationship Support Forum

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/RelationshipSupport/wwwboard.html

[dyblue]

yes its called codependent its a mental state get help or it could be something else  a good shrink can help with those problems this forum is for people comming off of drugs there is a relationship forum maybe you mixed them up anyways I;d say your in the wrong place. just my opinion