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I feel so guilty

I feel so guilty

My bf decided about a week ago to go off Lortab.  He started by tapering down (was only taking 2/day to begin with, but for over 5 yrs), but then decided to see how many days he could go without any.  He went for 3 days CT and then I took one away from him yesterday.  I feel so guilty 'cause I know he was in some pain (he rolled his snowmobile) but I am sure that a lot of it is just his brain telling him he has pain.  I feel so guilty, like I am putting him through this pain and torturing him!!!  When he made the decision to go off them, he said it was for him and that he knows he is hurting his body.  Now he says he is doing it for me (no pressure on me right?).  But he shouldn't be doing it for me..
Can I expect him to go completely CT since he has gone four days without any?  Is there something that could possibly help with the pain but not cause addiction?  He won't take tylenol and if he takes Aleve, he takes 5 (not recommended to take more than 2).  What do I do?  How do I help him?  
The other thing is, I know he will always be in pain (he is an amputee).  Does that mean it is okay for him to take Lortab for the pain?  If it was just for the pain, I would be okay with it.  I don't know if he can tell the difference now though.  I just wish there was something I could do to counteract the pain and have him not thinking about the stupid pills all the time.
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If he is w/d he is almost done.  Don't give up now!!  It's all uphill from here.  He needs to figure out how to deal with the pain especially if he was using for other reasons than the pain itself.  Good Luck.  And don't forget he is responsible for his own addiction not you.  Support Support Support and trust your gut to do what's right.
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Dont feel guilty you did the right thing!!!! man i wish i had a girlfriend who would take my pills away so i couldnt take any!!! If he is on day 4 he is almost through the withdrawl (withdrawal)'s...If he is c/t then dont give him no more, not only would it start him back on day one but it will make him sicker then sh**!!!! You know i heard that when you take pain killers and come off of them, your body will actually put off a feeling that your in more pain then usual, when your not. Its just his body making the last desperate attempts to get pills (the pain is all mental). Make him take hot baths i mean HOT to where he can barely stand it. Just make him take some tylenol if he still wont only give him 2 aleve, thats it!!!

Trust me your doing great coming here and asking for advice and good job wwith taking the pills away your doing the right thing. Trust me if he makes it through and stays clean he will thank you for taking that pill away.

Keep posting, you will get great advice here

PS
This WILL NOT last...This CANNOT last...
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He might start doing it for you but as he gets clean and clear he'll realize he is doing it for himself as well. Don't feel guilty, it's a good thing you did, If he wants to get sober he really needs help, it went for 3 days, I'm sure you don't want to him to start over again, and he doesn't either. Just keep encouraging him. It feels great when the withdrawal is over and you can think clearly he'll want to stay clean even more. The cravings last a while but just support him as much as you can, he'll be so happy and grateful. And you're relationship will be 10Xs greater!

Don't feel guilty, you are helping him! He will thank you for it in the end.
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Just cause he is an amputee doesnt mean he is always in pain. Best thing to do is to keep with the detox. Afterword if he is truly in pain then alternate methods can be taken. There are non narcotic pain meds out there. Those meds wont work until after detox because his body needs to get back to normal. He is almost thru the worst. Try advil also.
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