I need help! Dad's an alcoholic

[Aruba417]

First off, growing up, my dad was a loving, God-fearing man and a good father. He was a hard-worker and enjoyed spending time with us kids and my mom.

Now...things have happened in his life and he's depressed. He has MS, which has messed with his brain to the point where I think it's effected his personality. He is mean and moody and always wants to start a fight, whether it's with my mom our one of us 4 grown children. He's on a ton of medications, and on top of that, is drinking way too much now. He is a mean drunk. He turns into this monster that's not him. I've started to really resent him. You can't talk to him about it because of course, "he doesn't have a problem with drinking". He blames everything on my mom, including his illness. We can never argue or disagree with him. Our family is falling apart. I love my dad, but I don't know what to do anymore. Two nights ago, my mom said she wanted a divorce. Now all of a sudden she says she and dad are okay and said that they "discussed" everything. My siblings and I know that nothing was resolved. This has been a cycle for about 7 years now. He's not going to change unless he gets help. But mom is part of the problem because she doesn't admit it either. I mean, she did the other day with me and my sis. But now she says she thinks my dad has his drinking under control. Is there anything I can do? I feel so helpless! None of us can confront him about it because it always turns into a huge fight!!! My hubby says we need an intervention or something. What exactly is that and how does it work? Who do I contact?

[Dpilot]

Try soem Al-Anon meetings. If you are in a big city look in the phone book. If not try yourchurch ministers, they usually know where there are some meetings including AA meetings for him. Don't know why but there seem to be more meetings at Presbertian churches so try one of them.
God Luck

[CATUF]

Goto http://www.al-anon.alateen.org

An intervention is typically where the alcoholic/addict is confronted by family and friends regarding the abuse and what they (perhaps after professional consultation) think needs to be done about it.  If you just Google the words INTERVENTION and ALCOHOL, you'll get a ton of info.

You might also check out www.aa.org

[Aruba417]

Thank you so much! I'm going to look it up!