I need help for my husband

[scarredone]

Here is a quick bio. My husband is BP, BPD, and an alcoholic.My husband was in the hospital for 6 months and had to have 5 surgeries due to necrotizing Pancreatitis brought on by his alcoholism. His surgeon has said if he drinks again it will kill him. He has now been home for one year and he was doing great. He was taking his meds, going to counseling. Now he is abusing his meds, drinking all day long, missing appointments and is cutting himself. Now due to a 'friend' he has learned to snort his Buspar to get high. I don't know how to help him. I feel guilty because I had to leave because it was affecting my depression and making me suicidal. I do not want to get a divorce, but he won't let anyone help him. How can I help him?

[Axl_0113]

I'm sorry you are going thru this....I can see that it's very hard for you.

Sorry to break it to you...but you cannot help somone that doesn't want to help themselves.  You can attempt to point them in the right direction, and do everything within your power to help them see the problems that they are facing....but no matter what you do, you cannot help them if they dont see the problem, and if they are not willing to change.  

I know this probably leaves you feeling lost and hopeless...but about all you can do is be persistant in trying to show this person how serious his problem is, and pray that he listens.
I mean- Im sure he understands the risks, and what can ultimately happen if he doesn't chill out with the drinking and drug abuse.....so, other than that...there's not much more you can do.  You can lead a horse to water....... you know?

Just be persistant...hopefully it will pay off.

[Some_life1976]

wow swettie your in a bad spot right nowand the truth is.............. you canT sounds like youve been fighting a good fight for a ling time with him. he knows what hes doing to himself if hes already gone through all he has with his health... the only thing you can do is sit him down and ask him to go to rehabe if he says no well you need to do what you have to do to stay healthy and i know this isnt what you want to hear but you cant make him want to be sorber he has to want it i guess you could call his doc and inform him of his issues but that will more then likey lead to more drinking i say that because i did that with my dad when i tried to get him to stay sorber for years i lost that fight 9 years ago he went into full out liver falier all the time knowing what he was doing to himself and me but anyway ........ you cant save him and you will go crazy trying hun sorry hang in there and feel free to post anytime you may need help someone will alway be here HUGS

[Some_life1976]

how are you doing hun?