Im at my wits END!!!!!

[what2donow]

I know this is the wrong forum for this,but I have come to think of you guys as friends now,so I need to vent.
My 6 year old is in first grade.She is so smart,beautiful and just special.She is nice to everyone and would give someone anything she has to try to be friends with them.My baby girl got off of the bus yesterday crying because a 4th grader is threating to beat her a$$ and also called her a fata$$ and an idiot.She is actually under weight so that suprised me,but who knows.I got on the bus this morning and told the bus driver about it and he seemed like he didnt know about that,but he said he always has a problem with that child.All of the other kids on the bus told me that it did happen just as Hailey,my baby,described.The bus driver said his hands were tied and he really couldnt do anything.That pissed me off.I called the school and left 3 messages,but no return call yet.I would like this taken care of today so my baby doesnt have to deal with another ride with this bully,but I cant get a return call.Is it wrong to by 2 boys icecream on the bus to protect her?hmmmm.....
Sorry guys I just had to vent cause im soooo mad!!!!

Love to all and please remember new hope in your prayers
Jennifer

[Want2BDone]

You could also tell the buss driver that if it happens again you will call the company, ie his or her employer. The buss driver would pay more attention to what happens on his or her buss. Really being the problem at hand. My friend was a buss driver....it works.

[what2donow]

Thanks for the advice.I did get a call back from the asst principal,and she said she was going to talk to the child.She said that she has had problems with this child bullying before.She said if she can get documention from the driver there is more she can do.She said that she will do this before the kids ride the bus today so I am going to see how it went when she comes home.
Im crossing my fingers,but if the child has already been in trouble what is the chance that she will stop now?

Thanks again guys,for letting me vent
Jennifer

[preggerswife]

I'm sure you'll get the call.  If not, I'd recommend emailing the principal.  

[uvlvrebel]

I encountered a similar problem with my 6 yr. old when she first started going to school and riding a bus... 4th garders- ugh!  When my daughter told me about the bullying I was floored and wanted to follow the bus to the child's stop, follow them home and speak directly with the parents.  But then I considered where it (the behavior of the bully) must have come from (E.g. the parents) and decided talking to them would probably do no good.  I called the school, talked to the principal discovered that they also have a zero tolerance policy towards bullies.  apparently someone a few years back was a bully and that individual on te receiving end committed suicide. The school was held accountable.  Maybe remind the school of their responsibility.  And when our children are on the bus- that Driver's hands shouldn't be tied.  that Driver is essentially the only grown-up standing between order and "Lord of the Flies".  Come on- he must assume some responsibility- it's HIS WATCH!  

I also explained to my daughter that the boy was acting that way because he was jealous of my daughter.  That maybe he wanted to be just like her because she was so nice and sweet and beautiful.  I taught my daughter, "sticks and stones..." good luck

[what2donow]

Thanks guys,for letting me vent.I just called the school AGAIN and I was promised a return call by 12:45.I was just kidding about the icecream bribe.....lol.....kinda.
I know that I am going to have to let her grow up and be hurt in life,but that is eiser said than done.She is my oldest daughter,but she was VERY sick at birth.Infact she was lifeflighted to Texas Childrens Hospital 22 minutes after I had her via emergancy csection.They didnt even let me see her.Then they flew specialist in from New York and UCLA.First they went to see her and then they came to my hospital and visited me.They told me not to name her because then I would be "attached" and she had a very low chance of making it through the night, and an even lower chance of making it through the week.They said since she was born and didnt have air for so long that if by some miricale she did make it she would not ever walk,talk, or be "normal".They even asked me if I had someone that could began making funeral araganments.Well, I just wouldnt except that and I checked out of the hospital that same day she was born and went to be with her.She was in Texas Childrens for 10 weeks and came home weighing 4lbs.She started walking at 8 months and 19 days old.By the time she was 18 months old she had a vocabulary of over 60 words which is HUGE.
So I know I need to give her space to not be my baby,but she is so special.
Sorry for getting all mushy and long,but i didnt want you guys to think im a crazy overbearing mom.
sorry so long guys.....

BTW Hailey can really protect herself,she has been in karate since age 3.Her uncle is an instructor.She has belts and everything.She is on Orange

Jennifer

[Clamity2]

Kids can be mean. My son has Down Syndrome. He is the sweetest guy on earth(in my eyes). But still there are bullys. If you don't get a return call. Call one more time and say this is call # whatever it is and if I don't hear from you I will call (the bosses name, super, prin. etc.)
I hope I don't have to deal with a bully in withdrawal. Our school states they have a 0 tolerance for bullys.

[PromisedLand]

my 2 step daughters (I call them my daughters but will use "step" in this post..were both sexually abused by their "father" at very young ages.  The youngest (they are 22 and 19 now) confided to a Jr high classmate what had happened and the classmate told a couple of people..One day on the school bus a boy yelled out
rather loudly "hey ..how was the sex with your Dad?"

we were down in the principal's office before the engine on the bus had cooled down and raised holy hell... the kid was kicked off the bus, suspended from school and I can't recall what else.

Jim

[GoingToMakeIt]

Go to the school principal. Make sure they understand that THEY have a problem that THEY need to take care of! The safety of the students is their responsibility when the students are in their care. That includes the Bus!

[MICHAEL_777]

Bullies have there own demons they are fighting.  Every one I've ever encountered had/has issues in their personal lives and the only way they feel they can express it is by venting their anger onto someone else.  Your daughter is going to have to learn this valuable lesson sooner or later.  Before involving the school and possibly making things worse; have her confront them herself.  As soon as she steps on the bus, walk straight up to them and ask them why they feel the need to mess with her.  Make sure she does not sit down and you stand outside the bus.  The bus driver can't take off with her standing and will be made aware of the situation.  If it gets out of hand then pull her back off the bus.  She may help them deal with their emotions and put an end to their bullying forever.  Love and Strength to her!

[avisg]

LOL hummm ice cream for protection i will have to remeber that one LOL ...i understand this one i just went thru it with my son . Go down to the school in person throw holy hell it worked wonders for me :)
avis

[road2recovery]

WEW!!  I may have had a problem kicking pills, but i never had a problem kicking someones butt if they messed with my kids.....
Go to the principle and make sure they bring this bully in and make them stop...Then take your and explain about bully's but also that she has to toughen up as she grows up life is tough....But i still always had there back...LOL
now that my oldest are 22, 18, 17, i am sure they have my back.....
r2r

[IBKleen]

I think bribing is really out there mom. They can't protect her forever.

Can you drive to the school and demand to talk to someone?