They are different organizations. Al-Anon was founded for those living with alcoholism, but these days, people living with any type of addiction are welcome because the disease is the same whether it's drugs or alcohol (and alcohol is considered a drug/mind altering substance).
Nar-Anon was founded for those living with someone who is addicted to drugs. There are A LOT more Al-Anon meetings than Nar-Anon. Try googling and you'll probably find one in your area.
Yes, it's hard not to make the details of their addiction our own, but when we learn we are powerless over another person, it becomes much easier to live with peace in your home.
I hope you find an Al-Anon meeting soon. One of the things you will learn is that all your "monitoring" and "checking up on him" are obsessions you must let go of. Finding straws all over the place is a sign he is using.....no matter what he tells you. Addicts = Dishonesty He has to be the one to WANT help and ASK for it. It's not something you can do for him. Al-Anon will give you tools to use when living with an addict.
I wish I could post a picture so that you would know exactly what I am talking about but anyway... A while back we had a wedding reception for my daughter and we got some of those decorative drinking straws. They are hard straws but are wrapped in some type of paper. You can bend them but when you do they don't close off, just put a kink in them. I keep finding those. I found one in his truck, shop and on a shelf in the top of the closet. Any ideas what that could that be used for? I thought all the straws they used for meth were short
Yay! Good for you. Let us know how it goes:)
Go to alanon. Everyone in there is affected by a loved one's drinking and using. It's your job to feel sane and serene, despite what the addict is doing. For now, if you don't know what to do, do nothing. The answers will become clearer if you're patient. Please check out meetings in your area. The relief you will start to feel is so worth it.