Just an observation....

When I first came to this forum, I read and peeped around trying to gain an understanding of addiction and what addiction really is and what  it means to be an addict. I posted questions, tentatively at first, but wow, people jumped in and answered my question. Asked more questions, more answers and a better understanding of addiction, lots of help from well meaning posters. I learned a lot and also learned to take the good with the bad, kind of like life. This forum reminded me people are the same, addict or not. We all have the same wants and needs. With my new understanding of addiction from the forum I have been able to step back and have more compassion in how to deal with my addict daughter. I have all of the posters to thank for this, each and every one of you.

One day, I go to the fboard and it was suddenly different... new inbox, journals, ways posters can contact each other directly.... and that is when I noticed the real change. People wern't posting to questions anymore, at least not that many. Questions started to be left hanging, the comraderie was gone. Where did all the solid, meat and potatoes posters, the posters you could always count on in the forum  go?   What was left was a lot of bickering and sidetalking posting but not a lot of concrete solid posting going on. Then I figured it out.... With the new forum format everyone started to talk amongst themselves and were leaving the posts alone, many newbie questions were going by the wayside, the forum was no longer a place where new people were getting solid helpful answers.  Slowly the regular posters began to wander in and out of the board but without the same dedication as before all the private messaging beacame available.

This forum is not the same as before all the changes. The ability to have private conversations has changed it. There are some changes to the board I do like alot but then in some ways I think they have unwittingly changed it's focus.

Is the change for the better or for the worse?

[NewLeaf]

Well, I take alot of the observation back - the postings and support to Bumpbaby1234 was historical, oldtime great forum help.

[FLaddict]

I wish I could post more and help.. my hands from my Fibro won't allow me to type much.. I am doing what i can.. some days after working I can't help out here..

[LIZZIE LOU]

hey girl...still out of town but i got to a computer tonight.

i think all of this is pretty much normal.   the forum goes through cycles and ppl move on...which is a good thing...means they are better.   the "old group" moves out and the "new group" moves in...and if you don't read and post on a regular basis, you kind of loose track of who is who.

i'm still here...but i also enjoy our talks on private messenger.

hope all is well...

kim

[NewLeaf]

I wasn't thinking of you or anyone particular, just musing over the ever evolving forum and pondering is it better or worse. I think things have fallen back into place over time.  Hope you are feeling better. I too can be keyboard chalenged on some days, it's even mouse chalegened....LOL 3 finger typing just isn't what it used to be.

[NewLeaf]

How was the horse show?  Im hanging in here . some days better than others.

xxoo  Cecile

[LIZZIE LOU]

the horse show was great...had loads of fun...BUT...omg was it cold.   i'm so glad that everything was inside and only had to freeze my arse off going from one building to another.  my aunt actually won her class and won a nice horse trailer, a saddle, and $8,000.00 in cash.

how are things going?  have you seen your daughter or the kids lately?  any news?  i know how hard this is for you and i am truly sorry you are having to go through this.   when will it ever end???????

heart hugs sent to you,
kim