Kids & detox?

[Jessica8487]

Ok Im new here so i will inroduce myself. My name is Jessica a 21 year old mother of 3 girls ages 1, 3, and 5..I have been addicted to ANY pain med i can get since i was 17 so about 4 years..off and on, meaning trying to stop then starting back..My question is has anyone had to go through the detox period while having small kids at home with you? I am on day one and having the terrible hot/cold spells..Telling my family is not an option so i will have to endure it while being a housewife and stay at home mom..Experiences please?? And also tips on getting through the day doing laundry cooking cleaning etc..Thanks!!

[Jessica8487]

Thanks so much.I think u r right about the mistaken being lonely for not having the pills..Why do we allow ourselves to put ourselved through this terrible roller coaster ride.. I have totally detoxed and was clean and happy. But all of a sudden the addict inside would come out of no where..Thanks all of you for listening and just being there.: )

[LisaM530]

P.S. The sadness will last as long as you let it. Mind over matter. THINK POSITIVE! Your life is about to take a turn for the better... be proud of yourself! This is a big deal <3

[LisaM530]

Jessica, I've heard many, many people refer to giving up pills being equivelent to 'a death'. It IS a loss. You may be confusing your lonely feeling with feeling lost, and alone in all this. I know you don't want anyone to know, but you have to find someone, anyone you can tell. I started out a week ago on my own. The only ppl who knew were my suppliers [obviously] and my brother & sis in law since they are addicted, too. Someone from this site advised me to tell someone, and before I knew it, I was telling everyone lol. Wow, what a difference it made in the whole 'alone' aspect. I would take advantage of your hubbys loooong hours and find yourself again. Get to know the old you. The you who loved life... the real you. Try focusing on the positive things in your life- ie. sobering up for your babies. It will be the hardest thing you'll ever do, but I promise- when you recover from this horrible mess, you'll NEVER regret it. :]

[gabby4405]

yes I have detoxed with kids I to have 3 girls 14,11, and 4 and it is scary because you start feeling like your a horrible mom and your neglecting your kids but the truth is your saving your life so you can stay with your kids don't let the devil persuade you into thinking I need a pill to be a good mom because the truth is we are much better moms without the pills and we will be alive which is much more important then suffering through a detox which is hell but heaven at the end getting clean is just the beginning staying that way is the hardest I to am starting a detox again because I thought I could use just occasionally and here I go again whatever you do get clean stay away from people that use and don't try the weekend thing it doesn't work GOOD LUCK

[Jessica8487]

Thanks everyone..Also this overwhelming feeling of being alone and like someone died is about to kick my butt..I feel like no one loves me or cares about me..My husband working llooonnngg hours doesnt help..i feel so sad..when does that go away??

[freeatlasttake4]

normally I wouldn't advise lying but you'll need some help.  So tell anyone who cares that you've got the flu or my story was food poisoning.  It explained the vomiting and diarrhea anyway.   If you can taper that would be better but if you're going cold turkey you're in for some rough days and if you took as much drug as I did taking care of a baby just isn't a fair expectation.  You'll be hard pressed to take care of yourself.  I actually was too weak to get out of bed for part of one day and ended up laying in my own filthy.  Okay not pretty but I am drug free.   Now with this image you know getting up witt a baby just isn't gonna happen.   I used to taper but i always ended up taking more drug later so I'm thinking that cold turkey is the only thing that worked for me.  Now if you can find some help with the kids but not for yourself  a few things that will help would be some over the counter meds for nausea, diarrhea, and gas pains also benadry will help with the runny nose and it will help you to rest a bit.  Expect to feel lousy so get bottle of water and some crackers for the bedside.   Most of all keep telling yourself that you will feel better again and you will be a better mom after you are drug free.  I know that for a fact as I too am a mom.  

[road2recovery]

I will leave the tramadol for someone else who detoxed from it...My Doc was lortab..With your mother in law ( even if she doesn't cook or clean lol)  I am sure she will help with the kids...
When we get to the point that we HATE it, and really want to stop, then we are ready...If i were you i would make a plan, like cooking a bunch of meals, doing a big grocery shop with goodies that the kids like, and all laundry etc...But I think with the trams you will have to taper or it is too dangerous...This place saved my life, so stay here, and there are many to help...
r2r

[LisaM530]

If you don't want anyone to know, the best thing you can do is follow roads advice. You have the flu of your life and can't even move. Your family won't know the difference. As far as housework goes- It would be unrealistic for me to say 'just get up and do it'- because I know firsthand how hard the first few days are. MY advice: ask someone to help you with your kids. You'd be surprised how much support you have when you are in need. Take a lot of hot baths, drink plenty fluids: water, green tea, coffee etc. Have you looked into the Thomas recipe yet? If not, please do so- as I wouldn't have made it to day 7 as easily without it. For the first few days, just veg out- reading, watching TV, taking baths... but keep your mind busy. By day 3, getting out of bed should be a little easier. The hardest part is breaking the habit & getting into a new morning routine. Take your vitamins, make your coffee (or drink of choice), brush your teeth, TAKE A HOT BATH- when you wake up, force yourself to do a few small chores. Who knows, you may be inspired to clean more than you ever have- knowing it's YOU getting things done & not the pills. Through all of this, keep reminding yourself WHY you quit and I promise you, it will get easier. You'll slowly start to 'feel' again.. It won't be easy, but with boatloads of willpower and redirecting your mind, you can do it. You won't ever refret quitting. I'll talk you like eagle told me when I first quit: You're already 4 years into this. If you don't take control of your life NOW, you'll be posting on this board when you're 60.
Visit back often...reading other peoples stories will also inspire you. Best of luck to you! <3
-Lisa

[Jessica8487]

Thanks for replying..Everyday is different depending on what i have or can get with some days not being able to get anything..I have to doctor shop having no other access to the drugs..On average say if i had a 6 ounce bottle of loritab elixer, i can drink 3/4 of the bottle..And the tramadol i usually get 60 pills so i take anywhere from 10-13 a day..So it just varies depending on what i have at the moment..My mother-n-law just moved in with us so she may can help with the kids but i doubt she will cook or clean.."mother-in-laws" uugghh! lol..I have got to stop for good this time..I hate the life of searching for a high EVERYDAY and if i dont get it then i would rather not be around anyone..Hopefully this forum will help!

[road2recovery]

Welcome...  First can you tell us how much are you taking a day, and mgs?  

I will be totally honest with you...Depending on your usage, it will be really hard with 3 little ones that age...But definetly not impossible...My kids were older and could do for themselves, but it was still hard, with having to cook, and laundry etc.Do  you have anyone that can take them if you say you have the flu, or strep throat?  even if it is for 2 days?
I cooked alot of meals, cleaned, and all laudry, bills, etc then quit...I beleive that with children we have to have a plan...Can you taper?

[Jessica8487]

Please can someone help me???