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Okay so i am writing you about my husband, I love him with all my heart don't get me wrong. But he has a problem. It all started 2 years ago. He went in for for emergency surgery and he had lot of problems he scar opened back up and they kept trying to keep it all under control, with pain meds and then when he got off he craved them every once in a while which is understandable. Then about 3 months after that he had to have surgery again and that wasn't a big problem. Then he tore a muscle and they gave him pain meds and steroids for his back. So he got off of them no problem and then about
Oh 4ish months ago he got them again and i honestly don't even remember why the docs gave them to him that time. But any ways they did. Then some one he knows offered him some and nows its very BAD BAD BAD habit. He takes like a pill extra at a time every next time he gets them because then he don't get the effects he did before.
Earlier in august he said he was threw with them because he doesn't have any thing to show for his money spent. Like movies or games or any thing you know what i mean? All was good he had with draws for like a day and that was it then oh Mr/s tempter came back around and once again he fell for it. Now hes on again. I love him lots and i guess it has been a problem for me as well because when he is on the pills he cleans the whole house and just has a great ole time and then i get time to do stuff for my self and don't have to worry about cleaning because he does it all for me.
I do feel really bad because i just don't know how to deal with it over and over again when he just lays in bed and is in so much pain. plus it seems the pills rule his life... its pretty much Pills pills pills .... pills pills pills .... all the time like when hes going to get more pills or how he can get more pills... and i give in and allow him to have because im tired of dealing with it.
Any ways i feel really bad that i have not put my foot down harder to make it a NO! NO! NO! its over with the pills....
Any ways before i just keep blah blah blahing
How do i help him get off pills while i keep my sanity?
Oh 4ish months ago he got them again and i honestly don't even remember why the docs gave them to him that time. But any ways they did. Then some one he knows offered him some and nows its very BAD BAD BAD habit. He takes like a pill extra at a time every next time he gets them because then he don't get the effects he did before.
Earlier in august he said he was threw with them because he doesn't have any thing to show for his money spent. Like movies or games or any thing you know what i mean? All was good he had with draws for like a day and that was it then oh Mr/s tempter came back around and once again he fell for it. Now hes on again. I love him lots and i guess it has been a problem for me as well because when he is on the pills he cleans the whole house and just has a great ole time and then i get time to do stuff for my self and don't have to worry about cleaning because he does it all for me.
I do feel really bad because i just don't know how to deal with it over and over again when he just lays in bed and is in so much pain. plus it seems the pills rule his life... its pretty much Pills pills pills .... pills pills pills .... all the time like when hes going to get more pills or how he can get more pills... and i give in and allow him to have because im tired of dealing with it.
Any ways i feel really bad that i have not put my foot down harder to make it a NO! NO! NO! its over with the pills....
Any ways before i just keep blah blah blahing
How do i help him get off pills while i keep my sanity?
Encourage your hubby to go the doc and see what he/she thinks about a standing presription for his chronic pain, IF he has it. If he does not prescribe him anything, then you are absolutely right, he should stop, but it is your husband who has to make the decision. I've been married to a wonderful woman for 25 years and we stay married because we don't tell each other what to do.
I'm spreaking as a Chronic Pain Sufferer. I don't think the craving to feel normal, not feel pain, and be able to function in the world EVER goes away.
Hey I read ur post 2 sorryhubby and that was great advice..... I feel the same its like I "do" more when im high clean,laundry, socialize and all around seem Happier, so why are pills so bad right? well im in day 7 of detox and i dont know how ive done this... My cravigz havent gone awaay yet........... How are you doing
he will always want more as his tolerance goes up..he should really stop now, its a horrible lifelong disease with no cure (addiction). and it will ruin him and anyone else in his life, i think you should get tough and have a real heart to heart talk with him about this,,, maybe he really doesnt understand what he is getting himself into...i had no clue...and if you love him then i know you will be there to support him while he is sick with withdrawals...he will be better in a week or so... the worst part is the depression and anxiety after he is done being sick, maybe his doctor would be willing to help in some way by prescribing clonidine (blood pressure med.) i couldnt have made it this far without clonidine...also he will have some sleeping issues also ask the doctor for xanax or klonipin for the anxiety and sleep...but use the 2 i just mentioned SHORT TERM only, as they are addictive also, but do help. and when he is done being physically sick he should get some one on one therapy... also some immodium ad for the bowel issues...and some anti depressant will help with the MAJOR depression and dysphoria he will have...
"when he is on the pills he cleans the whole house and just has a great ole time "
"plus it seems the pills rule his life... "
two very important quotes from you. the latter is end statement. The first one is the tricky part. he takes opiates and functions, happily, joyfully and lovingly. smiles, talks, walks, and goes on. with no pills its probably not like that. probably like a grey sky. just blah, bored, in pain and worth nothing.
He is all of those great things, its just the rush of opiates that push those endorphins/dopamine/seratonin through his brain and really motivate him. SO, he must quit. there is no way to live the rest of your life dependent. i'm going through it right now and much like yourself my girlfriend continues to say no but at the same time she allows it because i'm so much more pleasant and easy when i have them. its such a battle. i've smoked weed before, drank a lil' in high school but never had a hold like this. i'm 20 and face the biggest obstacle of my short life. and if i want the rest of my life to be worth anything, these pills must go.
Your husband must choose to quit himself. If he tries to do it for someone else (like yourself) he may not necessarily be able to resist the urge to just take a few more. I know for me to quit all up to me. Not to discount that my abuse affects others which in turn hurts me, but being high is the ultimate...I have to get back to my old natural healthy habits. sports, relationships, family.
you may have to intervene in some way...sadly enough its hard to figure out how without the ole' "me or the drugs" that is so hard, especially in a marriage.
I hope your husband is understanding of your worries. I think its great that you are there for him. A lot of people would allow something like this to break them. You seem very strong and confident and that is key with this.
hope something works for ya
"plus it seems the pills rule his life... "
two very important quotes from you. the latter is end statement. The first one is the tricky part. he takes opiates and functions, happily, joyfully and lovingly. smiles, talks, walks, and goes on. with no pills its probably not like that. probably like a grey sky. just blah, bored, in pain and worth nothing.
He is all of those great things, its just the rush of opiates that push those endorphins/dopamine/seratonin through his brain and really motivate him. SO, he must quit. there is no way to live the rest of your life dependent. i'm going through it right now and much like yourself my girlfriend continues to say no but at the same time she allows it because i'm so much more pleasant and easy when i have them. its such a battle. i've smoked weed before, drank a lil' in high school but never had a hold like this. i'm 20 and face the biggest obstacle of my short life. and if i want the rest of my life to be worth anything, these pills must go.
Your husband must choose to quit himself. If he tries to do it for someone else (like yourself) he may not necessarily be able to resist the urge to just take a few more. I know for me to quit all up to me. Not to discount that my abuse affects others which in turn hurts me, but being high is the ultimate...I have to get back to my old natural healthy habits. sports, relationships, family.
you may have to intervene in some way...sadly enough its hard to figure out how without the ole' "me or the drugs" that is so hard, especially in a marriage.
I hope your husband is understanding of your worries. I think its great that you are there for him. A lot of people would allow something like this to break them. You seem very strong and confident and that is key with this.
hope something works for ya
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