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Need help how to get rid of friend on coke(she refuses help)

My friend Lori (not her real name)is difficult to be friends with. She is always all wired up doing ten things at once never getting anything done and demanding we all do favors for her.

Her house was a filthy mess, so I had my friends mom, an elderly lady(used to be addicted herself to coke) meet her to clean it. My friend found a bag of coke(she tasted it-accused me and my boyfriend of being on it too) and brought it back to my house. I got very mad and flushed it. I then confronted Lori, and she swore it was "french clay". My friends almost believed her, but I put up my hand and said "NO". It was in a small baggie(the classic coke bag-i dabbled with it years ago), and I it explains everything. She knows I occasionally smoke pot(I know its a drug, but I dont act all crazy and weird)and she says its the same thing anyway. Well, I dont have any problems and I dont need any frends on drugs. I told her I would help her recover, but she doesnt listen.
She was supposed to pick up 10 dog shots for me(before I found out about the coke-she was going into town), they were to be refrigerated, but she came back 4 hours later, and they were hot. And now I have to argue with her because I will not pay her $40 for useless cat shots! She wont shut up long enough to listen about the shots.
She is terribly unstable, although working and making pretty decent money.
How can I tell her I will not pay her the $40 dollars and I cannot be her friend?
And now she says the price for the car didnt include the mirrors and lights ect. Help, what can I do? Thanks in advance for replys
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coke's fun. however, some people can do it recreationally while others can't. that's physiological.  also, u dumbasses saying...well gee you r doing drugs too..... don't realize that occasional pot smoking is nothing compared to frequent coke blowing
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hi Meegan,

don't be judgemental. i do know it is hard.  you are doing drugs also.  do you both know what pot and coke will do to you? I hope you don't ever get pregnant anytime soon.  if i were you, i wouldn't associate with a friend who was addicted to coke. worry about getting help for you. you say you don't do pot alot so, why do it at all? how does she work and do coke? Hello.  i hope she isn't driving. one hit can kill you.  your both in my prayers.
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Hi,  I had pretty much been a regular on this board and recently decided I missed being here,,these people helped me get my life back after my mom died a year ago on christmas day,,,I am also a nurse  I went to rehab 12 years ago and i was busted again in 95 but this time they threw in 12 felonies...i received treatment in lieu of conviction...what a mess but listen,  there is life after felonies,,,i have been the internet route,,the demerol, morphine, dilaudid  route  and anything else   after felonies there really is a life  trust me.....I can emial you and we can talk   but don't give up  if you wnat to write to me that is fine to...***@****           take care   ~~~cindi~~~
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I'm just jumpin' in here. I can't pose a question at this time, boards won't let me. I'm an RN, disabled. My disease is similar to M.s. I'm a junky frrom 20 yrs ago,worked in ICU-5yrs got burnt out, couldn't sleep, started with Tyl#3, advanced to writing scripts, stealing morphine, even used veins in my feet.Oucch, went to rehab, NA, worked in Home Health. Marrried at 30, child at 32,my dear husband became abusive, me, having the savior complex, I thought I could "fix" him.All it did was starting me using. Got caught 6yrs ago, calling in scripts for Darvocet. Felony. My abusive husband had some damn hold on me. I closed myself off as mydisability worsened. I had him kicked out 3 yrs ago, & let him back 3 months later.He's not an addict or alcoholic This last December, he started in on our 16 yr old son, I saww the light, finally. Callled the cops, got a Protection from abuse order & a lawyer.I'm taking Darvocet-4-6/day and Xanax, 2mg./ day, but from two different Dr,s.. I also got vics off the internet from a doc,60/2 refills. Well each time I got them., I gobbled them up in 6 days. Frrom my disease, I hae terrible leg pain, I walk like a drunk(ataxia) use a walker, have had many falls. I see a PT guy and a psychologist, I've not been honest with my therapist, don't want him cutting off my drug supply. To top it off, my "husband" walked in my housae yesterday, I could've called the cops, he said go ahead, I just want to die, I want to kill myself. Now I haven't seen him in almost 4 months, except in court, but I listened to his sob story, beforre I made him leave. What the s%^& is wrong withh me? I'm the disabled one who has to try & make a normal life for me& my son,disability isn't enough money. I'm going through OVR to try & get a job, but I have that damn felony,that's why I'm callin' myself creamie.. Please, anyone, help..My e-mail ***@****. I've been lurkin' for 3mo Thanks to you all Creamie.(for now)
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dog shots? cat shots? the price of the car doent include mirrors? maybe im old but what r u talking about? And because im not so young ive learned that some people thrive on drama and can feed other peoples promblems.I do know that if u flushed any thing of mine,that with todays prices ,id be pissed,wass it really coke?
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Um, not to put too fine a point on it, but YOU'RE using drugs, too.

Hello? splinter? rafter? eye?

Francois
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Just because you use drugs occassionally yourself; that doesn't disqualify you from being a judge of character.  I don't consider this as being hypocritical at all.  I've gotten myself burned by at least three cocaine and crack users and tend not to trust them anymore to the point of complete avoidance.  It's easier to avoid a problem than to confront and deal with it, sometimes. Anymore, I like to take a "wait and see" attitude with people like this. This can be pretty gut wrenching when that person is a very close friend or a family member.  Is it "tough love" or just plain common sense that we end up playing some kind of role for that person?  I'd like to think it's both!

J.B.
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meeghan , when we have freinds who are using it's a tough situation. It's alway best to confront them with another person.
Ask her if she wants help and tell her you will be there when she is ready for that help. Addicts using are in denile and they lie through ther teeth. So don't take it personal.
Just be there when that time come's ,when she opens up to the truth of her situation. Get a N.A meeting list and drop it off at her house. Get her a phone number of some girl in NA and leave that wit her to.
The situation can be a matter of life and death, so don't give up on her. when people get clean it is amazing the transformation
in thier personalty .They go from a real horses ass to wonderfully nice person and freind.
these situations don't happen for no reason at all, there is a greater purpose at work.                 michael
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