Ohio: Mission Accomplished!

[troubleinohio]

hey guys- I DID IT- We're out safely! Plans went through without a hitch! I did however forget one important thing that I came back for at 4:30 am this morning!!!!!! A STRAY CAT! i totally forgot him =(  He's a stray thats been hanging around for a least a year that I feed everyday. my husband hates that cat and said many times he was gonna shoot the poor thing if he ever go the chance. So i drove my moms car in 2 degree temps to come find that cat, lol. I even brought a thermos of warm milk for the poor thing. Threw him in a cat carrier cage my mom had and brought him back!
Anyhow, things are going OK so far. Yesterday after my husband came back home to find us gone and my note explaining things, he called my moms and basically said  "ok fine if this is how you want things I cant stop you but this is not going to be permanent"  and I told him that will all be up to him, whether he gets help for his depression and that he also needs anger management help and marital counseling for us both, and follows through with it. I highly doubt he will do any of these things. Time will tell.  

The kids are taking this super so far. Having lots of fun actually. THey like being at grandmas house and also love going to my sisters house which is right behind moms so its just a walk across the back yard to get there.

I feel strange though not having my own home anymore. It drives me nuts not to have the structure of duty anymore. I cant just barge into my mom and sister's homes and take over you know. BUt I feel the need to cook all my big meals still and do everyones laundry and cleaning and stuff, lol.  So will have to figure out something in that aspect.

oh btw, my son's face is much better, thank god!! I was so scared it was getting infected yesterday but it looks alot better now!

well thats all for now. thanks everyone for being here for me!!!!!!

[road2recovery]

I am SO proud of you!!!  u did the right thing, and i was very worried for you and your kids...
PLEASE be safe and don't go back...he has alot of work to do , and don't even try it again unless you are 100% sure he has done it all..

Did his friend go over and if so, what did he say in the mood he was in?  angry?
etc.......
He will probably get more angry as time goes so PLEASE just be carefull...

how far is your mom from where he is?
good luck
r2r

[taekwondo_fighter]

now we're talking.... i'm happy... i thought about your situation throughout my weekend...   i finally just had a chance to sign on...  i'm glad you are ok..  dont ever second guess you leaving...  you had no choice...   stay strong!

[mimi1313]

I'm so glad you got out of there. You definitely don't need that on top of everything else.
I PM'd you some numbers. Please use them anytime.

Hugs!
Melissa

[liscamdave]

Honey, we are so darn proud of you. YOu are a strong woman, alot stronger then most poeple I know. I am so proud of you and we are here for you....

xo, Lisa

[NautyOne]

OMG !!!   Woman I am soo glad you did it!!!   I have to tell you though, I am a very worried about you because of something you said.  I want to tell you that I have been exactly where you are right now.  I am---as I told you before ----worried about you being at your mothers.  Only you know his possible potential for violence---or think you do.  Dont let him fool you that he is taking this ok.  It is the coming days and weeks or even months that he may start to brew.  If you start to hear him getting more agressive about you not being there.......Please get out of mom's. I have been reading your posts for a while now and every time you have talked about your husband it sent chill down my spine because I was reading my life......I don't want to force myself on you, but If you need someone to talk to.......PLEASE PM me.  I can't stress enough .........I know what you are going through and wont judge you in whatever decision you make.  Don't EVER blame yourself NO MATTER WHAT.........I will leave it at that.  I am here if you ever need someone to talk to.  Please Be Careful.

Luv,
Nauty.............
National Domestic Violence Hotline: [phone]

[GoingToMakeIt]

Way to go. Be strong in this. Don't be bullied. Let him know this WILL be permanent unless, He changes.

[dove3053]

I think you did the right thing. I love cats and to go back and get your stray was great. Once you start feeding a cat for a year he's not a stray.

I have to cats I took in. The thing is they weren't the strays I was.

Love Dove

[confused456]

Hi. I do not know your situation because I am new, but from what I read, I assume that you and hubby both were on the Vicodin? I am just curious cuz I am in that exact situation, thought maybe you could offer me some advice? Any would be helpful. I did a post called "Scared of losing kids" if ur interested in knowing any more on my situation. Thank you. I wish you and your family the best of luck.

TLS

[toxictome]

You did it. Although you don't have your thigns surrounding you right now...you have peace of mind and are in a safe place where people love you. This break is also good for the kids...keep strong...get your ducks in a row....make your hubby accountable for his actions....
You are sooo strong...
Keep posting when you get a chance..we're here!!!!  hugs

[avisg]

Gald to hear , Like lizzie said stick to your guns ....Make sure he get ALL the help he needs before you go back ........Make sure you put you and the kids first ........ I am here if you need to talk.
avis

[Avalancheblanche]

Can hear the relief in your note.  So glad things are ok.  Keep us posted!

[LIZZIE LOU]

hey girlie...thanks for the update.  i have been thinking about you.

stick to your guns...make sure he understands that it is up to HIM to make things better.  

hugs,
kim

[sickcookie]

Congragulations,I am so proud of you for having the courage and strength to leave with the kids.We all need our moms ,now take care of yourself you must be so tired.Keep us posted and Good Luck  ps Lucky cat ha ha