Percocet addiction & mental illness and family?

This isn't about myself it is about my fiance.  He has battled addiction for many years due to significant medical history.  He finally had a year free and clean of all narcotics then the same doctor that had addmitted him to detox for the oxycontin started writing scripts for Percocets. In 6/06 he started on 5mg twice a day now he writes him scripts for 100 pills 10/325 EVERY 16 DAYS. He is an opiate addict and has been for over 10years.  His doctor is aware of this yet continues to write scripts despite the fact I have called him every two weeks when he gets the scripts to tell him he took 100 pills in 4 days.  He is a bi-lateral amputee and is wheelchair bound but he is only 47 years old.  

So now we deal with 4 days out of it completely staying awake all night of course so as not to miss a moment...then the next 4 days in bed recouping ...then the next week of intense anger because since I won't pick up the scripts anymore the anxiety over getting then combined with what I feel is a mental illness makes for a very difficult situation.

I have called 911 when I found him unconscious .. bottom line they said there was nothing they could do...I brought him to a psych hospital that felt that since his problem is controled to twice a month at this time he didn't require inpaitent treatment..

I just don't know what to do anymore.  

Any advice?

[rooftrash]

Hello!and welcome.That is a lot of percs.Is he in a lot of pain?Does he want to get  over the pills?

[Srcsweet2]

Thanks for your answer 100 10mg every 16 days not because of pain but because he has convinced his Doc he is in pain.  His pain is emotional .. he has lost more than just his legs in the past 5 years.  His buisness, family etc...

He was doing fine up until 11 months ago since then he has just begun to cycle down.  He is in the BS phase still.  I realize he has to want to get off of them but I also feel this doctor should never have written them to begin with.  This doctor has admitted him to detox already three times!

His mind set right now is that of anger and sadness... lashing out at me mostly.

[rooftrash]

I'm sorry for you.It is a tough situation.I think the doctors hand out pain meds way too freely.Maybe some counseling and intervention is possible.He has to want to quit.but it sounds like he has been through pure hell and he is masking his mental pain with drugs.I think he needs to try to deal with the root of the problem as hard as that may be.Try talking to him when he is high.It's usually not like trying to talk to an alcoholic when he or she is drunk.see where his head is .ask him the pro and cons of his addiction.Tell him how it is effecting you.and how you feel.do it in a calm voice.do it where the light is low.light makes me agitated when i am high.i feel calm in low lighted places when i am high.Talk to his doc and explain how you feel.If you need any thing.there are alot of good people here.OH! don't let the soap opras around here scare you.God Bless ............Bruce  32*daysc/t

[Srcsweet2]

I have spoken to the Doctore repeatedly... and a "pickle" isn't exactly what I would call it...hell .... he is stressed tonight because I refuse to fill the script so he is going back and forth between charming and angry!  

I have tried all that calm talking..silence during the temper tantrums...I continue to live my life as best I can... but it's taking it's toll... if he had legs it would be a matter of get out... but given the fact he can't live alone and him mother recently died .. he honestly has no place to go... I have actually left him at the doctors office telling him I will not tolerate this anymore.. but he some how manages to get a ride... Even the ER after he overdosed sent him back! via ambulance!

Meanwhile I work 6 days a week to barely make ends meet and he makes me sleep on the love seat!  

I am so very tired and now sore!

Thanks for your replies

[Peete1974]

It sounds like you are in quite a pickle.  Unfortunately the ball is in his court right now.  He has to be the one to want to be clean.  Until then there isn't much you can do other than try to talk to him about it and see if being clean is what he wants or not.  I wish you the very best of luck with this.  Take care.
Peete

[lil_rab2005]

Wow, I really have alot of sympathy for you and your husband.  That is a terrible situation for you both.  I don't have any real advice in that situation but I wanted to drop a line and tell ya that this is a really nice place to come for advice or just come and get some support when you need an ear to talk to.  I love this forum.  Alot of people on here that are willing to help or listen.  Including myself, if you need anything I'm here usually at least once a day to look at posts.  Thinking and praying of you, Lil.  :)

[Srcsweet2]

After nearly a year of fighting the battle against addiction...depression ... and medical issues.

My Patrick has lost his battle.... on April 26th only 7 hours after telling me he was sorry for everything... his body was found.  He passed away in his sleep... the man who brought love back to my soul... lost his battle to live.

I will miss him forever

[marcatj]

Sue... if you ever need a friend, please feel free to PM anytime.

I would love to be here for you if you need anything.

Again - I am so very sorry for your loss.

warmly,
mj

[rjs0000]

i feel so deepley sorry for and your husband.I must say you r a very strong women and i hope everything is well for u and your family ifs theres anything i can or anyone of us can do dont be afraid to ask