Please Help me

[9164bird]

My brother is 44. He's addicted to pain pills of any sort. He said he'ssnorted them and run them. He's in trouble with the law, has been severly beat for stealing. Nothing seems to help. We are in the process of sending him to a intreatment facility. He says he wants help, but continues to do thngs. My question is he's been clean for 13 days, but is still having dreams and talking to people that aren't there. He seems to have memory loss. Is that possible? He really seems to have lost part of his mind. Is this part of it or is he playing us for fools again? Anyone knowing about this problem, please help me. I am loosing my mind trying to help him.

[ochooked]

Treatment in a facility is probably the best thing for him.  Yes, the drugs can wreck his mind but only time will tell if it is permanent.   Getting clean is very important if he is going to face a judge at some point --- those who show they have cleaned up are far more likely to not serve hard time in prison.  I applaud you for trying to help him but the truth is until your brother really wants to get clean, there is little you can do.  It is so hard to watch a loved one do this to themselves - you feel so helpless.  All the best.

[wannabefree330]

ochooked nailed it!  So true that you can run yourself ragged trying to 'fix' him, but until he has had enough of the life he's living, he won't get better.  If he will agree to inpatient-jump on it....and FAST...before he changes his mind.  Rehab today is different than it once was.  They try to make withdrawl as comfortable as they can.  He will have to learn how to live life once he gets out though.
Best thing you can do for him is get help for yourself.  The entire family should be going to alanon.  Just as he is addicted to drugs, those close to him learn behaviors to cope with what he is doing.  those behaviiors are unhealthy for you, and him.  You will be able to learn what you need to do in order for HIS addiction to stop controlling YOUR life.  Not that you'll leave him out to dry, but you'll learn how to stop enabling his using and behavior.  Just try it out.