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Ranting and Raving Here!!!
are you guys sick of my daily check-in posts yet? lol. You probably will want to skip over this one anyhow as I have a vent i need to get off my chest!
does anyone else have a lazy spouse??? omg I swear i am going INSANE here!!!!! my husband will not get off his lazy *** yet again today! He just mopes around hour after hour here and wont do a damn thing to help with the house! He makes it worse in fact, he is constantly shedding dirty clothes all over the place including right in the front living room - on the chairs, couch and even in the middle of the floor!!! It drives me crazy!! He has like 30 pairs of shoes/workboots and gloves that he leaves in the middle of the floor in every room too, I am not kidding!! He leaves dirty dishes everywhere, takes electronic gadgets apart and leaves a zillion pieces of **** and wires laying all over the place! someone please tell me Im not the only one suffering this! I have been up since 5 this morning which is around my usual waking time most days. I immediately have to go out in the cold and throw heavy logs into the woodburner to get the fire going again to keep the house warm and then my day starts- the usual laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning and bathing the kids as soon as they get up every morning. Today, he hasnt left the house ONCE even. Ive been loading logs into the fire every hour today since 5 am!! He's been screwing around on the computer half the day watching stupid youtube videos, eating and taking said electronics apart. I want to strangle him! It makes it so hard to get my chores done around here with him and the kids underfoot not to mention Im pretty resentful that Ive been busting my *** all day long with my back hurting while he did nothing! (does my resentment show??? lol).
I just dont know what to do with him anymore. His work load is nil to none lately with the cold weather, just not many customers, and even when there are, half the time he doesnt answer the phone and avoids people so he wont have to go out in the "cold barn" to work (he has a heater in there, so its not like its that bad). (he works from home- he's a mechanic and has his own shop here) The only time lately he ever leaves the house is to occasionally chop wood out back. How can i get him motivated to get off his ***?? Im ready to scream my head off at him, my temper is about at its end here. So many times Ive had to bite my tongue from grabbing ahold of him and screaming DONT YOU HAVE SOMETHIGN TO DO?? GET THE HELL OUT OF THE HOUSE FOR AWHILE AND DO SOMETHING!!"
is that bad?? lol I cant help it though, it just makes me so mad that I work so hard in the house everyday with the kids and the chores and he does absolutely nothing to help out and makes it worse being a slob. And I also know that he will probably want sex tonight- hell, he's all rested up and rarin to go!! Will he wonder why Im too tired and aching?? Why Im mad and dont want to?! He probably wont. He'll get mad at ME instead for not wanting to have it. I bet you.
am I being out of line here?? being a *****??
sorry for ranting here, as you can see though Im not in a very good mood right now, lol. And now Im roasting a chicken in the oven, which took a lot of work preparing including the peach cobbler i just took out of the oven that we will have for dessert. I have been busy non stop all day long. I just cant wait to eat dinner, and lay down on the couch and relax with the good new book i started last night! (yeah right, in reality I'll get stuck washing all the dinner dishes and have to give the kids a 2nd bath tonight because they got extra dirty today since their morning bath!)
Ok sorry for the long rant here! Im just super stressed out in case you hadnt noticed lol
anyhow Im at day 25 and still clean as a whistle!
does anyone else have a lazy spouse??? omg I swear i am going INSANE here!!!!! my husband will not get off his lazy *** yet again today! He just mopes around hour after hour here and wont do a damn thing to help with the house! He makes it worse in fact, he is constantly shedding dirty clothes all over the place including right in the front living room - on the chairs, couch and even in the middle of the floor!!! It drives me crazy!! He has like 30 pairs of shoes/workboots and gloves that he leaves in the middle of the floor in every room too, I am not kidding!! He leaves dirty dishes everywhere, takes electronic gadgets apart and leaves a zillion pieces of **** and wires laying all over the place! someone please tell me Im not the only one suffering this! I have been up since 5 this morning which is around my usual waking time most days. I immediately have to go out in the cold and throw heavy logs into the woodburner to get the fire going again to keep the house warm and then my day starts- the usual laundry, dishes, cooking, cleaning and bathing the kids as soon as they get up every morning. Today, he hasnt left the house ONCE even. Ive been loading logs into the fire every hour today since 5 am!! He's been screwing around on the computer half the day watching stupid youtube videos, eating and taking said electronics apart. I want to strangle him! It makes it so hard to get my chores done around here with him and the kids underfoot not to mention Im pretty resentful that Ive been busting my *** all day long with my back hurting while he did nothing! (does my resentment show??? lol).
I just dont know what to do with him anymore. His work load is nil to none lately with the cold weather, just not many customers, and even when there are, half the time he doesnt answer the phone and avoids people so he wont have to go out in the "cold barn" to work (he has a heater in there, so its not like its that bad). (he works from home- he's a mechanic and has his own shop here) The only time lately he ever leaves the house is to occasionally chop wood out back. How can i get him motivated to get off his ***?? Im ready to scream my head off at him, my temper is about at its end here. So many times Ive had to bite my tongue from grabbing ahold of him and screaming DONT YOU HAVE SOMETHIGN TO DO?? GET THE HELL OUT OF THE HOUSE FOR AWHILE AND DO SOMETHING!!"
is that bad?? lol I cant help it though, it just makes me so mad that I work so hard in the house everyday with the kids and the chores and he does absolutely nothing to help out and makes it worse being a slob. And I also know that he will probably want sex tonight- hell, he's all rested up and rarin to go!! Will he wonder why Im too tired and aching?? Why Im mad and dont want to?! He probably wont. He'll get mad at ME instead for not wanting to have it. I bet you.
am I being out of line here?? being a *****??
sorry for ranting here, as you can see though Im not in a very good mood right now, lol. And now Im roasting a chicken in the oven, which took a lot of work preparing including the peach cobbler i just took out of the oven that we will have for dessert. I have been busy non stop all day long. I just cant wait to eat dinner, and lay down on the couch and relax with the good new book i started last night! (yeah right, in reality I'll get stuck washing all the dinner dishes and have to give the kids a 2nd bath tonight because they got extra dirty today since their morning bath!)
Ok sorry for the long rant here! Im just super stressed out in case you hadnt noticed lol
anyhow Im at day 25 and still clean as a whistle!
From a husbands standpoint - I have heard that hydrocodone gives you a shot of energy..........................................................................
sounds like every man I've been with, but what makes me think twice about 'bitchin' about it is this: (And 'bitchin' is what I did best back then) He works from the wee hours of the a.m., comes home exhausted as heck, and I was a stay-at-home mom for a while.. So, I SORT of had it easy, but at the same time, my job was never done! When my youngest son had colic, I'd stay up all night, every night, for like a month! My husband would get rest for work the next day, which left me without sleep continuously!
But, that all changed once the little one got over colic..
He used to throw his clothes on the floor beside the bed, on the couch, in the kitchen on a chair, on the floor in the living room, make a dang mess in the kitchen, which meant I would be cleaning up AFTER I had already cleaned the kitchen 20 times..
The man I'm with NOW, of two and half years, does the SAME EXACT THING! Which only means, I may complain once in a while, but haven't for quite some time now because I listened to what my counselor told me- She said, "Be glad you have a man there that DOES make a mess---- better than coming home to an empty home!"
VERY true.. After I had divorced the kids' father, I was single for quite some time.. no mess from HIM (only from the kids), but I was also doing EVERYTHING alone! But, that was MY choice..
Honestly, what I started doing was taking clothes baskets and setting them either beside the bed, in the livingroom, and other places where he'll lay his clothes.. I find MYSELF doing this all the time, too! Leaving my clothes all over the dang place, especially shoes, socks, sweatshirts, jackets, you name it- but of course I clean them up.. I once read something about 'Wanting the PERFECT man'.. stated that we'll drive ourselves freakin' crazy if we're going on searching for that 'perfect' man.. even if it means searching for perfection in the man we have NOW! I drove myself nuts constantly!
These are the only things that helped me.. :D.. blessings!
Alli
But, that all changed once the little one got over colic..
He used to throw his clothes on the floor beside the bed, on the couch, in the kitchen on a chair, on the floor in the living room, make a dang mess in the kitchen, which meant I would be cleaning up AFTER I had already cleaned the kitchen 20 times..
The man I'm with NOW, of two and half years, does the SAME EXACT THING! Which only means, I may complain once in a while, but haven't for quite some time now because I listened to what my counselor told me- She said, "Be glad you have a man there that DOES make a mess---- better than coming home to an empty home!"
VERY true.. After I had divorced the kids' father, I was single for quite some time.. no mess from HIM (only from the kids), but I was also doing EVERYTHING alone! But, that was MY choice..
Honestly, what I started doing was taking clothes baskets and setting them either beside the bed, in the livingroom, and other places where he'll lay his clothes.. I find MYSELF doing this all the time, too! Leaving my clothes all over the dang place, especially shoes, socks, sweatshirts, jackets, you name it- but of course I clean them up.. I once read something about 'Wanting the PERFECT man'.. stated that we'll drive ourselves freakin' crazy if we're going on searching for that 'perfect' man.. even if it means searching for perfection in the man we have NOW! I drove myself nuts constantly!
These are the only things that helped me.. :D.. blessings!
Alli
I also am a husband that also many times fit the description of your husband. I think that 98% of us guys would, at least at some point. VicodinHelp is right on the mark!!! When I get the attention, not just sex, that I want (need) I help more around the house than when I feel that I am being neglected, or just feeling sorry for myself. Let’s face it, us men are really simple creatures love us, feed us and stroke our egos and we will swim through shark infested waters to bring you a glass of lemonade.
Also, while we shouldn’t need it, a list of what you would like us to help with and then positive reinforcement when we do good helps a lot ;)
Also, while we shouldn’t need it, a list of what you would like us to help with and then positive reinforcement when we do good helps a lot ;)
I truly appreciate your input here, its nice to see things from a man's standpoint! And I do see where you are coming from. Yes my husband is the breadwinner too, albeit very erractic- never know how much work will come in week to week. Sometimes none at all, othertimes swamped. THats how it goes when your self employed sometimes though. So dont get me wrong, I am not taking for granted that he brings in all the money. Its just that when he hasnt worked for 2 weeks straight or more, i think he should help me out around here instead of doing what he's been doing. Aside from my bad back and pain issues, I am SEVERELY anemic and get exhausted very easily. I was having blood tests taking every month for awhile until my insurance quit on me, to make sure my levels didnt go too low that i needed a blood transfusion! So anyhow, I tire very easily.
and all the daily chores around here leave me utterly exhausted
I do like your idea of foreplay, that is great, I will have to try that, lol
and all the daily chores around here leave me utterly exhausted
I do like your idea of foreplay, that is great, I will have to try that, lol
How have you stayed clean so long? And what were you taking? What helped the most in the first week or so?
well, my wife would probably say I AM YOUR HUSBANDS CLONE.
I have a had a lot of down time - between careers, mid-life crisis, health issues, etc. We have 6 kids and my wife has done the majority of the house work (still does). I have very little defense for myself.
EXCEPT
When I was younger I left the house around 5:00 a.m to go to work and often didnt return until 5:00 or 6:00 p.m. and after dinner would fall to sleep on the living room floor.
fortunately I no longer work those hours
My wife once accused me of being lazy - which I tend to be - but she made the accusation in front of her mom. I certainly did not like that
BECAUSE
although I might be lazy, in 30 years of marriage she has been able to be a stay at home mom (with the exception of a brief part-time beer and pizza money job). And just so you know, prior to marriage she told me she wanted 5 kids and wanted to be a stay-at-home mom.
I have never been late on rent or mortgage payment. We live in nice home in a nice neighborhood. We have NO debt other than our mortgage and car payments ( car payments already paid for this year).
It really bothers her when I get lazy - because I dont have a regular paying job. With the exception of maybe a few months in the last 30 years I havent received a regular paycheck. Its always been piece work, contract, or commission.
So here's the deal. She does the house work. I often cook, but she does the bulk of the housework. We have a gardener for the yard. What's to complain about? We both have our jobs. If she wants to go out and get a job outside the home and me start doing the laundry or whatever - I'll adjust.
Here's something to consider though - I have thought at times that my wife is a "fair weather" friend. IOW - as long as the status quo is maintained, bills are paid, she's happy. Once when we were having a difficult time financially (difficult - but still current on all payments- and still eating well) she got to talking about leaving to go be with her sister. I resented that too.
Tell you what - instead of blowing up at your husband why dont you tell him (you've already admitted he's a sex begger) that you would like to have really great sex with him tonight but you are a little run down. Tell him that instead of foreplay, you would like some help with the laundry and bathing the kids (or whatever).
Light a candle at the dinner table.
Have a great nite.
Then - unload on him the next morning.
I have a had a lot of down time - between careers, mid-life crisis, health issues, etc. We have 6 kids and my wife has done the majority of the house work (still does). I have very little defense for myself.
EXCEPT
When I was younger I left the house around 5:00 a.m to go to work and often didnt return until 5:00 or 6:00 p.m. and after dinner would fall to sleep on the living room floor.
fortunately I no longer work those hours
My wife once accused me of being lazy - which I tend to be - but she made the accusation in front of her mom. I certainly did not like that
BECAUSE
although I might be lazy, in 30 years of marriage she has been able to be a stay at home mom (with the exception of a brief part-time beer and pizza money job). And just so you know, prior to marriage she told me she wanted 5 kids and wanted to be a stay-at-home mom.
I have never been late on rent or mortgage payment. We live in nice home in a nice neighborhood. We have NO debt other than our mortgage and car payments ( car payments already paid for this year).
It really bothers her when I get lazy - because I dont have a regular paying job. With the exception of maybe a few months in the last 30 years I havent received a regular paycheck. Its always been piece work, contract, or commission.
So here's the deal. She does the house work. I often cook, but she does the bulk of the housework. We have a gardener for the yard. What's to complain about? We both have our jobs. If she wants to go out and get a job outside the home and me start doing the laundry or whatever - I'll adjust.
Here's something to consider though - I have thought at times that my wife is a "fair weather" friend. IOW - as long as the status quo is maintained, bills are paid, she's happy. Once when we were having a difficult time financially (difficult - but still current on all payments- and still eating well) she got to talking about leaving to go be with her sister. I resented that too.
Tell you what - instead of blowing up at your husband why dont you tell him (you've already admitted he's a sex begger) that you would like to have really great sex with him tonight but you are a little run down. Tell him that instead of foreplay, you would like some help with the laundry and bathing the kids (or whatever).
Light a candle at the dinner table.
Have a great nite.
Then - unload on him the next morning.
TOO FUNNY!!!! I was just getting ready to ask if anyone had a husband that can sleep all day with no worries! It's noon & mine is still laying on his scrawny A$$! I guess he knows I feel better, so I shouldn't ***** too much.He did take care of the kids the last 4 days. If you call playing, doing a puzzle, cooking microwave dinners & chicken nuggets doing something...you get the idea. I guess they try, MAYBE! I think we all have some situation the same just different zip codes. Hang in there & congrats on staying clean! We wonder why we wanted to feel numb in the 1st place? ALL THE FRIGGEN WORK & EXHAUSTION???? Have a good day!
thanks for all your input ladies (I noticed no man answered this post so far, rofl)!
Well its now after 11 and the husband isnt up yet! We are supposed to go visit my family today and leave around noon! Looks like we will be late....and it looks like I have to be the one to go clean off the new snow off the car too before we leave. Maybe I should go out there right now and get some of the snow from it and throw it on the husband in bed? that might get him up, lol
just kidding, Im not that big of a *****! Im just frustrated right now is all. Im hoping a good nice visit with the family will cure everyones sour mood!
Well its now after 11 and the husband isnt up yet! We are supposed to go visit my family today and leave around noon! Looks like we will be late....and it looks like I have to be the one to go clean off the new snow off the car too before we leave. Maybe I should go out there right now and get some of the snow from it and throw it on the husband in bed? that might get him up, lol
just kidding, Im not that big of a *****! Im just frustrated right now is all. Im hoping a good nice visit with the family will cure everyones sour mood!
It sounds like its time to start doing what best for you and the kids . It sounds like you are a single parent living with a roommate instead of a husband .You deserve so much more then that in life , I am wondering were you using to numb the unhappiness ? I know i did for a long time . I used to accept a husband that had high expectations for me and none for him self .When i got clean I realized how I was letting him treat me and what I was giving my kids as an example of what a marriage was what they were seeing is mommy busting her *** to make daddy happy and getting nothing for herself .I of course had countless "talks" with him they did nothing. So this last June I decided this was it I was done . I was going to get my house in NY ready and at the end of this last year I was coming home . I did not tell hubby at this point I was like why bother . I went home for four days started getting things ready told my mom and dad . I really no longer cared at this point. I wasn't even upset anymore .So I came back and I don't know were jerk husband went, the man I married reappeared . At first I was like yeah this will last a week like it does every time .I am not sure if he found out i was going to leave or whether he had time to think while I was away . Slowly over this last Summer we both figured out that we still loved each other and it was worth making it work .I will tell you this sweetie there has to be both of you working for your marriage . I know you have said in the past that sex is a huge thing for him .I would stop that until your needs are being met if you ever need to talk let me know
avis
avis
Well its now the next day since I posted this. I couldnt get back on the puter last night to read because he was sitting here using it again til the wee hours!! GRRR!! I ended up collapsing of exhaustion right on the couch in the living room! I was so tired that i actually fell asleep with a bottle of opened Dasani water in my hand!! Not kidding! He woke me up around 1 a.m, or so to rudely interrupt my sleep to ask me why I didnt put the noodles away (it was only a tiny side dish and few leftover after the chicken and I was gonna give them to the dogs instaed of putting in the fridge, and waste a tupperware dish for a few stupid dried out noodles) So anyhow he woke me up and THEN the water botttle fell out of my hand and spilled all over my damn book, can you believe that? LOL So anyhow, things didnt improve last night. Earlier, I as expected, ended up "helping" give the kids a bath right when I was in the middle of checking the chicken every few minutes to see if it was done yet. Husband thought he was gonna be a big man and give them a bath- he ran the water and got them in the tub and then came back out here to the computer!! I screamed at him, you cant leave them alone in there for even a second, they could drown just like that you idiot! So i had to leave the chicken alone and go finish their bath, dry them, dress them and then finish the meal. I am telling you i wanted to shove the husband in the oven at that point! We have got to have a serious sit down talk, and soon. He cannot EVER do that again with the kids' bath, ever! Being a lazy slob is one thing, but what he did last night was downright child endangerment and I will not sit back and allow that for one second. I may be meek and timid around him sometimes when he does other things, but mess with my kids and I turn into a rabid mamma lion!
So anyhow, he is mad at me now because I went off on him about the leaving the kids in the bathroom. Today we are gonna have a real talk about everything because I cant take it anymore. Im doing all these things to improve myself, my health and my life, and he is sitting idly by and not doing anything and Im not gonna let him drag me back down with him.
So anyhow, he is mad at me now because I went off on him about the leaving the kids in the bathroom. Today we are gonna have a real talk about everything because I cant take it anymore. Im doing all these things to improve myself, my health and my life, and he is sitting idly by and not doing anything and Im not gonna let him drag me back down with him.
Trouble, I don't mean to laugh at your frustration but I am laughing my *** off. Everyone I know that is married seems to have the clone of your husband. What is with these guys. I had a husband that was identical to yours. Divorced him, and now he takes me out on dates and treats me good.lol If I got on my x he would go in the yard and plant something among the weeds. I would tell him why do you bother planting when you won't do the up-keep. Then it would be like he was beamed up to the mother ship and leave shovels and tools all over the yard. I was out in the heat one day staining the drive-way and he heads out the door and says I'm going on the boat to go fishing, bye. It just floors me that they think if they go to work that , that is all they need to do. Grrrrrrrrr. It still makes me mad. All I can say is, I do miss his paycheck. lol Speaking of paychecks , he would mix his up in the daily newspaper , then when I threw out the newspaper it was my fault. This happened several times.
I know this post is going to get record responces. lol You have to laugh because it seems they all came from the same mold.
Do as Magi says and immitate him and see what he does. I know you have to take care of your children, but try as best you can.
Thought.......Why is it women care for their children and when the husbands have the kids they say they are babysitting ? You don't babysit your own kids !
I know this post is going to get record responces. lol You have to laugh because it seems they all came from the same mold.
Do as Magi says and immitate him and see what he does. I know you have to take care of your children, but try as best you can.
Thought.......Why is it women care for their children and when the husbands have the kids they say they are babysitting ? You don't babysit your own kids !
awh hell...we're ALL married to THAT man...lol.
i have found that husbands tend to use the excuse..."i didnt know" mentality...which we all know is a bald face lie. how could they not know that there dirty clothes are not gonna walk to the laundry room...how could they not know that the glass is not going to move from the counter to the dishwasher? i mean, come on...it takes a brain surgeon to figure things like that out...hehehehehe.
i agree with greebs...i have learned the hard way to leave my husband lists. remember that men are visual creatures (or at least that is the excuse that is used to excuse their obsession with looking at women...lol) if mine needs visual...he's got visual...right there in black and white. every saturday he wakes to a new "honey do" list on the refrigerator. now granted...this is not the little everyday nuiances...this is the BIG BOY list. but i have found that if i dont have to do "my" job PLUS the "man's" job...i am a whole lot happier :)
p.s. this is a fine example of why you hear so many women joke around that they pray that in their next life, they like women...lolololol if we could just figure out a way get pregnant (with only little girls)... without a man...the "species" would soon be eradicated!!!!!!!!! but then...who could we biatch about? hehehehehehe
i have found that husbands tend to use the excuse..."i didnt know" mentality...which we all know is a bald face lie. how could they not know that there dirty clothes are not gonna walk to the laundry room...how could they not know that the glass is not going to move from the counter to the dishwasher? i mean, come on...it takes a brain surgeon to figure things like that out...hehehehehe.
i agree with greebs...i have learned the hard way to leave my husband lists. remember that men are visual creatures (or at least that is the excuse that is used to excuse their obsession with looking at women...lol) if mine needs visual...he's got visual...right there in black and white. every saturday he wakes to a new "honey do" list on the refrigerator. now granted...this is not the little everyday nuiances...this is the BIG BOY list. but i have found that if i dont have to do "my" job PLUS the "man's" job...i am a whole lot happier :)
p.s. this is a fine example of why you hear so many women joke around that they pray that in their next life, they like women...lolololol if we could just figure out a way get pregnant (with only little girls)... without a man...the "species" would soon be eradicated!!!!!!!!! but then...who could we biatch about? hehehehehehe
I would have a talk with that boy, which, if he's like my husband, in one hear out the other. If that fails, think of going on strike. Take care of yourself and the kids. Pile his dirty laundry and shoes on the couch where he sits, put his dirty dishes on his side of the bed, ask him what he's cooking for dinner tonight. Immitate him, sit and do crosswords or whatever when hes just hanging around. I know it would be hard to do, but it sounds like he needs a real eye opener. Tell him if hes not gonna do anything, either are you. If you must cook, make sure its something he doesn't like. Think of it as a little mini vacation for yourself. Don't worry about the housework, it'll still be there when you come back. lol. Good luck with this, what ever you do. I know first hand how a husband like that can make you insane!
Great post...i can laugh now because i divorced that man...(well, one like him). You are definately exhausted at night...you need to tell him in a non accusatory way what you told us,and then stop the sex, don't feed the fire, make p+j's for dinner every night, and maybe he'll start getting the picture...good luck....take care of YOU....keep posting...it's GOOD to get those frustrations out. The bad thing is, we can only change ourselves....
I'm feeling your pain...my ex was like that. He woudl mope around, just like Eeore. Maybe you should leave the house. Get out and do something. Since he wants to hang out in the house leave him a list of things you would like done before you get home.
Just don't go shopping at a gun shop while out....it would be to tempting :-)
Just don't go shopping at a gun shop while out....it would be to tempting :-)
You have my husbands clone.....lol. I was laughing so hard reading your post because it is my husband to a tee......down to the electronic take-aparts, dishes, work boots, la la la.........Only thing missing is .......does he leave the lights on EVERYWHERE he goes?? If so, that is really creepy. My hubs has been home for months now and I want to commit suicide.......well, maybe murder. We have a construction business and in California--Construction has bottomed-out. I feel your pain sweetie, I really do.
nauty.....................
nauty.....................
A lot of people go through horrible periods of depression with prolonged bad weather. I feel bad for him if he one of those people,but he must help you and the kids. I would talk to him again and make sure he knows how you feel. Hugs!!
I agree with lookthrewu...
i use to deal with that all the time....Mine works away alot so that is good...but when he is in he stays up my butt and follows me around while i am cleaning..
Well a few months back i was like you, i had just had it....So when the kids went to bed, and of course he wanted sex, i said no...He turned it on me and got mad..Well i sat up in the bed, and things just starting coming out my mouth and i had no control...It ended with If you don't start helping out, i rather be alone....Because you will be one less i have to pick up after...And he knew i meant it..
Things have been 100 percent better since then....And if he starts slacking i remind him...
This is way too much for one human to be doing....I am sorry , but he needs to know how you feel!!!!
good luck
r2r
i use to deal with that all the time....Mine works away alot so that is good...but when he is in he stays up my butt and follows me around while i am cleaning..
Well a few months back i was like you, i had just had it....So when the kids went to bed, and of course he wanted sex, i said no...He turned it on me and got mad..Well i sat up in the bed, and things just starting coming out my mouth and i had no control...It ended with If you don't start helping out, i rather be alone....Because you will be one less i have to pick up after...And he knew i meant it..
Things have been 100 percent better since then....And if he starts slacking i remind him...
This is way too much for one human to be doing....I am sorry , but he needs to know how you feel!!!!
good luck
r2r
LQQK, I tell you I want to hit him over the head with a frying pan when he's like this.
The thing is, he CAN be a very hard worker when he wants to be. He can do a 12 hour day doing an engine job and think nothing of it. He CAN clean house like nobody's business if he feels like it. Its so frustrating though when he gets in one of these lazy/depressed spells! I think it is partly depression, but he refuses to get help for that. he wont get on ANti-D's, or try therapy or anything. He just likes to be miserable at times I think and I get fed up with it when things get the way they are right now. I have suffered depression myself my entire life yet I manage to do what I gotta do. Its not fair that I have to do every single damn thing around here, know what i mean?
The thing is, he CAN be a very hard worker when he wants to be. He can do a 12 hour day doing an engine job and think nothing of it. He CAN clean house like nobody's business if he feels like it. Its so frustrating though when he gets in one of these lazy/depressed spells! I think it is partly depression, but he refuses to get help for that. he wont get on ANti-D's, or try therapy or anything. He just likes to be miserable at times I think and I get fed up with it when things get the way they are right now. I have suffered depression myself my entire life yet I manage to do what I gotta do. Its not fair that I have to do every single damn thing around here, know what i mean?
You have every right to do so. I want to physically kick your husbands arse right now!! Tell him to get up,he needs to help. How disgusting he is. That is very selfish. Have I mentioned that I want to kick his arse?Honey, we are here for you and your a rock, I tell ya. I am so proud of you though at day 25. You are an inspiration. Now tell your hubby I said he is a lazy,good for naught (fill in spaces here with your choice)
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