Roxicet Abuse --- PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR INPUT

[punkieghose]

I have been around drugs for years, and even had a substance abuse problem of my own, which have sucessfully overcome. Opiates were never my drug of choice. The lethargy and the nausea really weren't things that appealed to me. But I am awfully curious to see if my boyfriend is...

We have been dating for two years now. Before this onset, I was aware that my boyfriend was snorting Roxicet for recreational drug-use, "Blues" we call them. He always told me when he was on them or doing them, and I never really cared, I would be a hypocrite if I did. But since I cleaned myself up from the various uppers I was doing, he started selling Roxicets. Since I had removed myself from my drug of choice, I figured it would be safe enough to remove myself from them all together. I asked him kindly to stop dealing and using.

For a while, it really seemed as if he stopped. He didn't have money all the time, he didn't seem out of the norm, until recently.

It started when he met up with me after hanging out with his friend. His eyes seemed far away, red even, I didn't notice his pupils. His voice was hoarse, and he was mumbling a little. We started doing "the deed" and he couldn't keep it up. It was weird, but I didn't think about it. He was also hanging out with a friend who has a BAD opiate use problem. From time and again, I got the feeling that he was using. His eyes were red, pupils small. Slurred speech. He started nodding off when we watched TV. He also complained of never being able to get sleep, blaming it on stress. Both of his best friends use Roxicets as well.

One day I had the pleasure of reading his text messages. One was two the said friend "Could you get me two?" The next text message said "Did you get those?" I'm not an idiot. I confronted him, asked him what he meant by those messages. He said he didn't know, and claimed to not remember writing them. Of course, not wanting to be made a fool of I slowly pryed it out of him. He said he just wanted them for New Years, but swore up and down that he hasen't done them and was happy he didn't get them.

A few days ago, he started telling me he was getting sick. He said he had a terrible migraine, along with body aches and a runny nose. But I remembered that he had no money, so doing the math in my head. I figured he was withdrawing.

Today, he got paid. He was with his opiate abusing bestfriend all day. When I met up with him I immediately had the feeling he was on them. His voice was hoarse and mumbling. His pupils were constricted and wouldnt change, regardless of the light int the room. I noticed from time to time, him sniffing and rubbing his nose. He also blamed his behavior on depression, and the fact that he was nauseous from not eating all day...

I would appreciate any input you could give me, and perhaps any stories of your own, which can relate to my boyfriends symptoms. I am very concerned and I do not know how to bring these concerns up to him. He automatically gets defensive, and almost offended. He asks why I don't trust him and says things like "you know our relationship is way more important to me than drugs, that's why I don't do them"

please tell me i'm not a crazy suspicious girlfriend, and please please please share your stories with me

[Ga Guy]

He's using. You have two choices, stay around until he overdoses or hits bottom and seeks help...or leave him and hope it opens his eyes to his addiction and seeks help. I hate to be so blunt, but I know that behavior because I WAS that behavior. God bless, GaGuy

[starfish1963]

He is using without a doubt.

[merrymaria]

yes...i think he is...all the signs are there....hope he gets some help soon before it s too late...good luck to you...maria

[bluespence]

Yes he is using and you know it too! The best way to deal with it is to be direct and confront him. If you already know he will lie then give him his choice...or just tell him to call you when he is sober. If he is getting defensive when you ask him questions that is a true sign he is lying to you. I used to be married to a man that made me think I was crazy, I allowed him to make me doubt myself all the time. I finally got the confidence to leave him because I knew I wasn't crazy...TRUST YOUR GUT, you know what is going on! Good luck!

[worried878]

sounds like he is using..just from what u wrote..i think u know this as well..honesty is alot to ask from someone using..but i would still ask

[cathy5841]

hi, i would say he is using...BUT...there is that remote, outside possibility her is not.  so ask him to set your  mind at ease to please take this drug test...you can buy one at cvs...sad reality is you can not believe anything an active addict says....i know cuz i have been there...sorry you are going through this,  be sure to protect your own recovery,,,

[punkieghose]

today i watched him go in to bathroom, i heard a pill fall onto the counter, a card scraping and crushing the pill and him snorting it. i confronted him, he lost it.  he stormed out of my car and told me i could drug test him. he got legitimately furious and defensive. was i just imagining what i heard in the bathroom? he was in there for a very long time. I dont think i am wrong, but he is convincing me that i am.

[LostGirl321]

Hunny you're not crazy HE IS USING

[nicole518]

First I'd like to say that I know exactly what you are going through. I, myself am going through the same thing. YES, he is using, if you would like to hear what you already know. You, yourself as a recovering addict should understand that he is sick and needs to seek help. Unfortunately as I have learned, it isn't something that you can make him do. It will be only by his own decision that he will get better. Usually people with such a problem won't seek help until they hit a "bottom". The only thing that you can do is focus on yourself and your own recovery from both your addiction and the effect of the pain that his addiction is causing you. Seek Al-non meetings in your area as well as AA. it is a program that is proven to work, if you are ready and willing for that. Best of luck, it isn't easy, but remember that you come before anyone as hard as it may be to do. God bless you.

nicole

[nick30]

the thing that concerns me most is thyat you have got yourself clean and want to get away from all that, and he's still using. talk to him. let him know you are serious about wanting to stay clean. make an ultimatum if need be. but don't put up with it. you deserve a boyfriend who will help you grow, not one who has this stuff around you. best o luck

nick

[greeneyes16]

My son was also on roxicet ..Spent also of money on them ...Claims hes off... Your boyfriend needs suboxin to get off this drug ......  Go with what you believe ..Evereytime  my son came home  & was on them I knew .... His movements were different ..He never nodded off a few time ........  With the help of Suboxins & NA meetings ..He seems to be doing good ...He even came clean with his girlfriend of 4 years ..But she is not going to support him ... Shame on her ...You seem like you are a wonderful girl friend ..... I also go on a web site called Daily Strength ..Its really helped me ...I'm also greeneyes16 on there ..... check it out .. Hang in there it truly will get better .........