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Dave
I believe that your approach of supporting you son emotionally is a good one. You don't want to alienate him right now. There may come a point when you may have get tough with him. As everyone here has pointed out, you cannot force your son to get sober. He has to want it himself. You can only be there for him & be prepared by having detox & treatment center information available.
It must be very hard to watch your own flesh & blood destroying himself slowly with opiates but I think he will come around & realize that he has to make some serious changes in his life. If his parents are there to support him mentally, physically & spiritually, then he will have an important edge working in his favor.
Good luck to you & your family!
Chad Buckler
Chad B
Doesn't sound like H to me - sounds like coke, meth or some other stimulant. But, I don't know all that much about H, so I found a good site that lists symptoms (www.noalasdrogas.net/drug_info.htm) and cut and pasted from there.
If he was supposed to be taking drug test in connection with the crack charges and he just quit, my guess is that he's not going to be home much longer anyway. It's VERY unlikely that he "just quit" Court-ordered tests, but is still staying clean. If an addict in Recovery engages in highly suspect, irresponsible behavior, 99 times out of 100 they're using again. And if they're using, you CAN NOT trust them - "dogs bark, fish swim and addicts lie." Anyway, a bit of that info from that site is below. :
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HERION The short-term effects of heroin abuse appear soon after a single dose and disappear in a few hours. After an injection of heroin, the user reports feeling a surge of euphoria ("rush") accompanied by a warm flushing of the skin, a dry mouth, and heavy extremities. Following this initial euphoria, the user goes "on the nod," an alternately wakeful and drowsy state. Mental functioning becomes clouded due to the depression of the central nervous system. Other effects included slowed and slurred speech, slow gait, constricted pupils, droopy eyelids, impaired night vision, vomiting, constipation.
COKE/CRACK Short-term effects of cocaine include constricted peripheral blood vessels, dilated pupils, increased temperature, heart rate, blood pressure, insomnia, loss of appetite, feelings of restlessness, irritability, and anxiety. Duration of cocaine's immediate euphoric effects, which include energy, reduced fatigue, and mental clarity, depends on how it is used. The faster the absorption, the more intense the high. However, the faster the absorption, the shorter the high lasts. The high from snorting may last 15 to 30 minutes, while that from smoking may last 5 to 10 minutes. Cocaine's effects are short lived, and once the drug leaves the brain, the user experiences a "coke crash" that includes depression, irritability, and fatigue.
METH Immediately after smoking or intravenous injection, the methamphetamine user experiences an intense sensation, called a "rush" or "flash," that lasts only a few minutes and is described as extremely pleasurable. Oral or intranasal use produces euphoria - a high, but not a rush. Other effects include irritability/aggression, anxiety, nervousness, convulsions, insomnia.
I used heroin for several years and have been off for a long time but from what you are saying it doesn't sound like he is using heroin at this time... heroin doesn't really make you talk alot or have trouble sleeping.. If you truely believe he is using it may be something else he has moved on to.. Has he ever played with other drugs that you know of??
There are some bad parents Dave, and some that really screw up kids even though they might
not even realize what they are doing to the mental health of their own children......
A lot of this is realized as "core issues" and I have heard some really sick stories in rehab.....
I also had some very difficult times with my own father who was really nuts at times......
Don't confuse core issues with excuses there very much different...........
He's gone.
The Airedog is gone.
RIP AIREDOG
methodone generally doesn't have any speedy effects... any other clues you can give me to help..
- Fed Up Girlfriend
Rapid withdrawl as you called it, would make someone pretty out of it.. tired but unable to sleep, depressed, nauseous, diarreah, extreme moods ect..
Being on methodone itself can make a person look the same as they do on heroin.. it is a very strong drug and still has many of the side effects as heroin does.
I assume the methodone clinic does drug tests on him.. If so he would be coming up dirty if he is using and they would kick him out.
Just an FYI you will probably not get many responses since you posted on a thread that started in 2001.. some members do not have their settings to where they can see old posts.. only new ones created.
I live in Dublin but I come from Poland .I came to Ireland and I got schocked, I've never seen so many drug ussers , every second person is on cocaine and every 5th on heroine or methadone detox. I met my boyfriend over 2 years ago. Everything was great till i started to nottice that his attitude dramaticly changed. He was iritated all the time, tired and sleepy lost his weight drasticly. He had a tiny pupills and big appetite on sweets(especially chocolate). Couldn't sleep at night, he was sweatting and scratching all the time. I knew that theres something wrong, but I come from different country and never had a chance to met and drug usser in my life and i wouldn't know the symptoms. Anyway he was compulsive liar. The things started be mising on me. At the begining i felt that the loves me, but when i was susspecting his addiction he stopped give a f$% about anything. I newer cryed in my life when one night i went down stairs after him to a bathroom and after couple minutes pushed the doors, and saw him sitting ont he toilet and in one hand he was holding the tin foil and in another pipe size like ciggarette and the lighter. I couldn't move , he was shocked,he got angry and told me to get out.........I left him that time for 2 week, after that he was calling and asking me to come back ,saying he will go to the clinic and start to heal himself. And he went on Methadone program. After sometime I started to find again a small bags with a rests of a powder, bits of tin foil etc. He was dissepearing again....today I'm 2 years with him I gave him too many chances....I think he's on heroine again. All the symptoms starting to come back.... I can't catch him red handed anymore.... If he is I know he will hide it good....Please anybody who is a bit more experienced than i am tell me how to check. I even started to go through his things...I cant find anything. But deep in my soul I just know that theres something wrong just like two years ago......do they ever change? Please Help...
I was reading this thread and felt i needed to get this off my chest. When i was using i was up to anywhere from 6-10 bags a day sniffing it. I was stealing and robbing from anyone it didn't matter who and changed me into the very thing i used to hate years ago.
Getting treatment probably is the best thing to do but for personal reasons i dont want to explain I am unable to get any treatment at all ever.
Does anyone know how long it takes to get all the receptors in the brain to recover? And if so do they recover on their own because I feel like this drug as sucked the life out of me and i just want to get back to normal and be happy with life.
what should i do?
does it sound like he's on H?
should i confront him again?
when we were together, he was the best boyfriend i had ever had, honorable, smart, talented, creative, an amazing lover, he would do anything for me...
since we broke up i have felt like he doesn't care about me anymore but he always calls me up and insists he loves me forever...
please give reflection if you have any...
if he IS on heroin i'm afraid so is the whole town we live in because a lot of kids act like it... i moved from the city where my circle of friends was hit really hard by drugs and so i feel like i am a positive role model but i guess no one cares to look up to anything anymore, their life is too empty... there aren't good jobs to be had and nothing to do unless you're a MAGICIAN who can create their own reality without drugs and hardly anybody's that anymore!
She then found a nearby friend to live with, joined an outpatient center, got a p/t time and comes by often. Our fear is when this boyfriend gets out of jail she will again drop everything for him. Another fear is her saying she wants to prove to us, we can trust her, so she can come back to live with us in a few weeks. If she goes back on the heroin, we will again have to make her leave. The waiting of what she will decide is the worst part for me.
We know, we're not the cause or cure. Just wish she knew how serious we are in our stand. Any suggestions on how we can have her know without a doubt, we mean what we say so don't relapse! Thanks
We also noticed that a few things were missing from our home, like tools, but he said that they were at a friends home who was borrowing them. About 3 weeks ago our son came to us again and told us he was doing herion and needed help. We were this time able to get him to go a detox place. While he was in detox I went through his things. I found he had taken things our ours and pawned them or sold them.The detox place normally keeps people for 7 days or more. Our son promised he would stay until he was clean. Our son checked himself out early after being there only 3 full days. He said he was clean and off drugs, we were not sure we wanted to believe him, but were doubtful. Our son is showing signs of doing herion. Not sure, I have not found any drug stuff like I had before. But he has been lying since he has been out of detox, he has been asking for money from people, which he should not need, since he lives at home and has food here etc... I am concerened he is stealing now from other places to get his herion. But dont know for sure. His two best friends believe he is doing herion again, as well as his girlfriend. I have asked him if he was doing herion again and he said no. I think this time he does not want to tell us because he knows how much he has hurt us the last to times we went through this. As well as he is not probably wanting to try to go through detox again, since he knows how bad it can be. The detox place we took him to the second time he asked for help did have meds to help witht he withdrawal symptoms. We plan on all of us getting together this weekend and confronting him with what we feel and know. God willing he will admit to us all he is doing herion again and needs help and this time will stay longer in detox until he is truly clean. Our concern is that he is only on our health insurance until the end of the year, then we are not sure what type of help there is out there for those who do not have insurance.
Another concern of ours is how is he paying for this drug. He has no job right now, so that is why we feel he is stealing. We are concerned that now he could get caught for stealing and thrown into jail and then have a record. That would make getting a job hard when he does get clean.
My husband and I are just broken and sadden over this. We love him dearly and its so frustrating so see him not able to stay away from it and make it through detox. Each time he has spiraled down more with each time we go through this.
Thanks,
Ann
first it was oxy addiction and then he made a new friend who i know uses heroin and now spends all his time with him and i suspect he is using too but he denies it
he has recently begun complaining about random throw up sessions but claims he thinks its an ulcer due to stress....spends all his time with his new friend and stays in his house a lot (which is weird cuz he used to be a big party animal) and he has let his body go from 8pack to flabish and has bags under his eyes and his mom said she found a pipe around the house
but again i dont know if im just being crazy, thats how he is making me feel, but i really do wonder and wish i could know for sure and help :/
i asked to drug test him and he freaked out and said he wouldnt pass anyways becuz he did vikes a few days ago and a "real friend" wouldnt make him do one
im so sad to watch someone get lost to a drug :( i miss him