Aa
Terrified grandma; advice?
I'm new to the forum. I have a 20 year old son who is a heroine addict. His 26 y.o. girlfriend & mother of his baby is also a heroine addict. Baby is 5 months old. A few weeks ago, my son did a short subutex detox, but within a week, he went back to drugs. They've lived with me for 18 months. I've talked and talked & also paid for the subutex and the trip to the neuropsychiatrist, but my son didn't even follow the doctor's directions. I set up guidelines, like tellin them they have to go to NA meetings, but they make no effort. They have no car, which leaves everything on me on top of working a full time job. If they really wanted to get clean, they would be voluntarily going to meetings & even finding a ride if that's what they need. Baby's mom thinks she has me fooled into believing my son is the only one with a serious problem, but I know better. I have to work full time and they're home everyday with the baby. Neither will go get a job, both just keep playing me, basically. They fight and argue and act ridiculous around the baby. They get high with the baby in the house. I've wished & hoped too long & realize I must do something to protect my beautiful innocent grandbaby. I've contacted an attorney and plan on telling my son & the g.f. they have to sign custody over & leave the house or the state will intervene & take baby; one or the other. I think my son will accept this easier than the mother because this is actually the only way he will be assured of his son's safety. Mom is supposed to get a car soon & an ex-boyfriend is supposed to be getting out of jail within a week & I know that she won't think twice about running with baby, & then my son may never see his baby again. I'm hoping and praying that losing custody will motivate both of them to find help. I've come to the conclusion that I CAN'T help. So many people get on these forums and talk about being there for their kids, but I've tried & it only seems to enable them. They make promises but don't keep them. They build up my hopes and then dash them back down. It's all a game & it's got to stop because it's putting baby at risk. Are there any other grandparents out there who have gone through this? I'm really not sure what to expect from either of them when I approach them with this. I'm hoping they're cooperative, but know that anything is possible ~ including a violent outburst. Both have been high for several days now. If I can catch my son when he's not high, I think he will be more reasonable. Best case scenario is both of them cooperating, but I think it's not likely. I also realize that the statistics for them actually recovering are very low & that I will most likely need to retain custody of my grandchild for a long, long time; perhaps his entire life. It just rips my heart out to be put in this position. I have to kick my son out - MY firstborn child and MY son, in order to protect HIS son. No mother should ever have to make this decision.
YES DCF WOULD DEF. FORCE THEM TO TAKE A DRUG TEST IF YOU TOLD THEM THE SITUATION EVEN IF THEY DIDN'T SEE THEM HIGH.....THE ONLY PROB WITH THAT....IS THEY MIGHT TAKE THE BABY AWAY FROM THEM FOR A WHILE BUT THEN AGAIN IT WOULD DEF. GIVE YOU THE OPPURTUNITY TO TAKE CUSTODY BCUZ YOU COULD TALK TO THEM AND THEY WOULD CHECK YOU OUT AND YOU SEEM LIKE A GOOD PERSON FOR THAT....SO IT COULD BE A GOOD THING TO DO THAT!!! GOOD LUCK!!
You both bring up alot of good points & confirm my hopes & fears. I would "hope" that if it comes down to DCFS getting called in, they would do drug tests & then work up some kind of case plan for the kids - pushing them into counselling and rehab and parenting classes, etc., but on the flip side of the coin, I fear getting an overloaded caseworker & things NOT going in my favor / the baby's favor. You can read my journal to see how things went yesterday.
Believe me, I've been telling them they HAVE to get jobs & I've been telling them how difficult a time I'm having keeping up with the bills. My son had a couple of jobs for short periods of time. He worked at Jack in the Box for a couple of months, then quit and worked at Denny's for maybe a month & lost that because he was always calling off or his car was giving him trouble, then went to DQ and lost that job because some jerk kid was harrassing him up there (THAT actually wasn't his fault; the kid was no associate of my son's in any way. My son stood up to him when he came over to my house starting trouble with my daughter's b.f. & he didn't like it) He's a H.S. drop out and I ordered him test booklet study guides for the GED, but he went through one of them, failed it, got discouraged, and has never picked them back up. Now he's attempting to get on at another restaurant in town. Waiting tables or cooking or washing dishes is all either of them will be able to do because most other places drug test. The g.f. has some limited experience in retail, but says that doesn't pay enough. My son had a checking account back when he had a job, but he overdrew it and then just let the charges start wracking up on it day after day after day after day. Didn't even call to ask anyone to close the account. Won't talk to anyone from teh bank when they call the house. They also gave him a $500 line of credit (God only knows why they went and did that), which he, of course, used up, and he now owes that, too, in addition to all of the penalities he's incurring because he isn't making any payments. He didn't take care of his car (did no maintenance on it whatsoever), so that blew up & now he has no transportation. I could tell him he owes me a certain amount, but he won't honor it. He has NO honor at this point & no concern for anyone else's trials or burdens but his OWN. And my son isn't married to his baby's mother. She's 6 years older than him, too. He did recently, somehow, get a medicaid card. I spent $300 getting him to that doctor and then getting his first prescription for Subutex. I'm on a VERY limited income. I bring home about $25,000 a year and am supporting 5 people on that. Of course, everything goes by your gross income when it comes to getting any help and I'm always just barely over the cut off. As far as getting help, I honestly feel that until they go out and seek it for THEMSELVES, it's not going to "stick", or last. Thank you for your kind words. All of the support is helpful.
Dearest Grandma, Your Son & Daughter-in-Law have no idea what you are doing for them!! They are so fortunate to have you I just hope they realise that!! This is very difficult, and no I do not blame you for letting them stay as they do have a place to live and you are able to keep an eye on the baby. Would they consider some Family Counseling? I hope that you will seek some Legal Counsel, just to get an idea of what your rights are, I would not call the DFS in unless you see abuse of the baby. Perhaps you could tell your Son to be a real Man and get a job so that he can pay his share of the bills, he needs to be told that he is taking advantage of you!! Perhaps you could tell him that he will owe you X amount as of this date for his share?? It would be good if your Son & his Wife could be seen by an addiction specialist, you mentioned that he did a Suboxone Taper? Since he is back to doing the same thing perhaps he needs a more long term treatment with it, at least that would be better than him bringing illegal drugs into your home and associating with the people that have them. Perhaps they both would take it ? Does your Son have any type of Insurance? I am just trying to think of things that he might do to avoid having an illegal element in your home. You and your Family are in my Prayers, I pray that G d gives you the wisdom to know what to do. Take Care, r
That IS better. it sounds like they're starting to get a handle on things in NJ (I've heard some of the horror stories...not that NYC is winning any prizes! )
Of course, NOW they need to budget for more caseworkers. How about we vote on a 15% salary cut for state officials (gov., supreme court, DA, etc) to cover the cost??!! I'm sure they're noble enough to go for it! :)
...and I had a feeling you'd say that to my question. I've been trying to decide if that's a good or bad thing. I'm on the fence with it. Thanks for answering the totally unrelated theoretical question.
Of course, NOW they need to budget for more caseworkers. How about we vote on a 15% salary cut for state officials (gov., supreme court, DA, etc) to cover the cost??!! I'm sure they're noble enough to go for it! :)
...and I had a feeling you'd say that to my question. I've been trying to decide if that's a good or bad thing. I'm on the fence with it. Thanks for answering the totally unrelated theoretical question.
I know, you're absolutely right. Not all case workers are like me, and most of them ARE overloaded. In New Jersey, the division has been going through some serious renovations and reworking, due to several negative things that have occured in the past. There are now limits on case loads and more staff, and things like that. KK, why don't you do a Google search on DCF involvement in your city... see if anything comes up on the statistics or any horror stories. Maybe they have had the same problems and are going through the same changes. I will also look into it. Sav, I'm pretty sure that for prescription drug abuse with a legit script (meaning in the eyes of the law, you are allowed to have it), there would have to be some overwhelming evidence of neglect. If there was only possible neglect, and the home was normal as you say, the first step is always intervention and setting up the parents with services. A case plan, implementation of goals, parenting classes, anger management, drug counseling, financial assistance if the neglect is a result of financial problems... anything relating to the neglect. Without signs of physical abuse, or neglect that is REALLY bad, (such as leaving children alone, or not feeding them), there are usually a few interventions before children are removed.
Yeees...that's a very positive interpretation of what they're supposed to do. But people should be aware that there's how the law reads, and how it's enforced. The two can be VASTLY different.
I'm not saying this doesn't happen, but you have to remember you're dealing with overloaded case workers who are usually jaded and quick to make a judgement. These workers also have their own belief systems and prejudices and while it's assumed they are fair and impartial, it's often not the case.
But...you work with what you've got. Right?
I'm curious, say you have a case of supposed prescription drug abuse with a legitimate prescription. Signs of possible neglect, but nothing concrete and clear cut. What would DCFS do in this case (assuming they investigate and find a normal, somewhat dysfunctional home. :) )
I get the impression you work with DCFS from what you say, if I'm wrong, ignore the question, or feel free to put in two cents. That's what we all do, after all!
I'm not saying this doesn't happen, but you have to remember you're dealing with overloaded case workers who are usually jaded and quick to make a judgement. These workers also have their own belief systems and prejudices and while it's assumed they are fair and impartial, it's often not the case.
But...you work with what you've got. Right?
I'm curious, say you have a case of supposed prescription drug abuse with a legitimate prescription. Signs of possible neglect, but nothing concrete and clear cut. What would DCFS do in this case (assuming they investigate and find a normal, somewhat dysfunctional home. :) )
I get the impression you work with DCFS from what you say, if I'm wrong, ignore the question, or feel free to put in two cents. That's what we all do, after all!
DCFS doesn't really need a court order to do anything. For example, if we got a call that a child was being neglected or abused and we got to the house and saw that they had no electricity, or the kid was sleeping on the floor, we would take them right there. In my brother and sister's case, my Grandmother called DYFS because my father and step-mother were on heroin. DCF came and took the children and told her two weeks later that she would have to take them. She got custody because the case worker saw that she was a good person who could provide a healthy living environment. I don't know how St. Louis is, I live in New Jersey. What we would do if we got to a house and there was no physical evidence, such as spoons and drug tools, we would order a CADC evaluation immediately, which would involve a drug test. The tests coming back positive would be enough to take the child. More than likely, he would have to stay with a resource family until the judge granted custody, and your son and his gf would have to be kicked out of your house. The courts would put them through all kinds of treatment, counseling, and testing, so you would win that way too! Of course, I think this should be a last resort if they can't get off drugs and straighten out themselves. They have one more chance, and make that clear to them. If they don't get better, then tell them they can either give you custody the easy way, without a fight, or the hard way where they will probably go to jail.
Order of visitation (limiting parental residency) is used usually in divorce cases. It states that the the parent in possession of the child cannot move out of the immediate area since it would deprive the right of the other parent of their visitation rights.
It can be applied (depending on state, I believe) to additional guardians of the child who have a vested interest/relationship in the child's upbringing. Usually it means (in this case) the mother would have to stay within (traditionally) a maximum of one day's worth of travel. It also requires the mother to keep the party with visitation rights informed of her residency. Any violation of this generally means forcing the mother to remain in he locale of the other parent or transference of custody of the child to the other parent and arrest and incarceration of the offending parent.
The problem is twofold; either proving that you're a legally acknowledged interested party, or getting your son to acknowledge the danger of her running and agreeing to file such a motion on his own behalf.
This would be something to discuss with the lawyer. Generally it would be shown you were an alternate guardian if you were seriously involved in the child's life, but you tend to need a paper trail showing you'd done the purchasing of standard needs (food & clothing) for the child, papers showing you dealt with the enrollment of the child in school, took care of it's medical needs/visits (etc...).
It's easier to do (well, sometimes) than seizing guardianship. You don't need to prove the burden of neglect on the parent's part, although it is implied. You also can hopefully avoid the involvement of CPS.
It can be applied (depending on state, I believe) to additional guardians of the child who have a vested interest/relationship in the child's upbringing. Usually it means (in this case) the mother would have to stay within (traditionally) a maximum of one day's worth of travel. It also requires the mother to keep the party with visitation rights informed of her residency. Any violation of this generally means forcing the mother to remain in he locale of the other parent or transference of custody of the child to the other parent and arrest and incarceration of the offending parent.
The problem is twofold; either proving that you're a legally acknowledged interested party, or getting your son to acknowledge the danger of her running and agreeing to file such a motion on his own behalf.
This would be something to discuss with the lawyer. Generally it would be shown you were an alternate guardian if you were seriously involved in the child's life, but you tend to need a paper trail showing you'd done the purchasing of standard needs (food & clothing) for the child, papers showing you dealt with the enrollment of the child in school, took care of it's medical needs/visits (etc...).
It's easier to do (well, sometimes) than seizing guardianship. You don't need to prove the burden of neglect on the parent's part, although it is implied. You also can hopefully avoid the involvement of CPS.
" However, they have to see something substantial in order to intervene. You don't want to run the risk of them not seeing anything significant enough to remove the children, then leaving, and your son's g.f. being able to take the kid and run."
Believe me, this is one of my biggest fears.
When you say they have to see something substantial, could that include looking at mom &/or dad & being able to tell they were high? If a DCFS worker came in and suspected the parent(s) were high, could they force them to do a drug test or would they have to get a court order? Since they live with me, I'm afraid if I got the wrong caseworker, they might say that I knew all along the parents were using drugs, so I'm just as negligent as they are, even though I've been trying all along to get them to stop using.
Believe me, this is one of my biggest fears.
When you say they have to see something substantial, could that include looking at mom &/or dad & being able to tell they were high? If a DCFS worker came in and suspected the parent(s) were high, could they force them to do a drug test or would they have to get a court order? Since they live with me, I'm afraid if I got the wrong caseworker, they might say that I knew all along the parents were using drugs, so I'm just as negligent as they are, even though I've been trying all along to get them to stop using.
What is an order of visitation on my behalf (or my son's) & how would it lock the mother into not being able to leave? These young men who father children with girlfriends don't ever stop and think just how powerless they're going to be if the mother decides to up and take off with their child.
Well, there really wouldn't be a legitimate reason for my son to be involved in getting a restraining order against the mother because my son is high as often, if not more often, than his g.f. is. Neither of them have ever done anything to hurt the baby or given me any reason to think they would intentionally hurt him. I'm afraid they will accidentally hurt him when they're high. As far as the St. Louis County courts go, I don't have much faith in them. I got my divorce there and the stupid GAL appointed my kids gave their Dad unsupervised visitation with them even though he had been accused of 4 VERY SERIOUS charges against a 12 y.o. girl. He's in prison now for those charges. The STL courts did NOT protect my kids. That's all part of this whole scenario. There are risks no matter what avenue I consider taking. I just need God to give me a crystal clear answer, but I know it doesn't usually work that way.
I live in St louis too, and it seems to me maybe a simple way for you and you son is to go get a restraing order. that will give him custodyplus the time for you to get you case ready for a battle if that is what is in store. Plus th gf will know how serios you are about this babys safety. all you have to do is go to clayton and the courthousr ask to talk to the court clerk and explain your situation and they will walk you thru it from there. Good luck and remember god never puts no more on us than we can bare to manage.
This is why I don't talk to my family anymore. to much stress. Give me a banzai tree, my navel, and the possibility of enlightment through` solitude anyday. :)
Seriously, it looks like you may have to do the lawyer thing. If he's a good lawyer, he'll warn you that CPS workers will normally assume EVERYONE is at fault and will not hesitate to lie to you to get the information they require to pull the child out of the family entirely and place them in fosterage. Remember, they will interview both sides and you know how THAT goes.
That said, what about getting your son to agree to an order of visitation on your behalf? It would avoid all the unpleasantness and lock the mother in the position of not being allowed legally to leave the immediate area with the grandchild. I'd say have him do it on HIS behalf, but he'd have to be ready to accept she's willing to run off with his child, which I doubt he is.
Seriously, it looks like you may have to do the lawyer thing. If he's a good lawyer, he'll warn you that CPS workers will normally assume EVERYONE is at fault and will not hesitate to lie to you to get the information they require to pull the child out of the family entirely and place them in fosterage. Remember, they will interview both sides and you know how THAT goes.
That said, what about getting your son to agree to an order of visitation on your behalf? It would avoid all the unpleasantness and lock the mother in the position of not being allowed legally to leave the immediate area with the grandchild. I'd say have him do it on HIS behalf, but he'd have to be ready to accept she's willing to run off with his child, which I doubt he is.
I don't think you're nuts, because I have seen my grandmother bail my father out and give him too many chances. The love of a mother is strong, and it is hard to show tough love. It is great if they are serious about getting clean, and if they really know that you are serious. But if they screw up one more time, you have options. I work for DYFS, and I can tell you that one call to them gets an investigator to the house immediately. No one will have a chance to run. However, they have to see something substantial in order to intervene. You don't want to run the risk of them not seeing anything significant enough to remove the children, then leaving, and your son's g.f. being able to take the kid and run. If the environment was deemed unsafe for the child, relatives are given priority in adopting them. Placement in foster care is a last resort. However, the case worker has to see that you can provide an immaculate living environment, and the offending parents cannot be living with you. These are the things you will need to have in place if this goes down. You will need to get them out of the house first. Then make the call to have the child removed. Going to court may not even be necessary. When my half brother and sister were taken from my father and his wife, my grandmother got the call the next day that said, "Congratulations, you have yourself two kids." DYFS is the only agency authorized to remove children without a court order. They have a lot of power, so you want to make sure that you make it clear to the investigator that you want the children. Subsequently, you want to show your caseworker that being in your home is in the best interest of the child. Just wanted to give some advice from a legal perspective! Good luck,
Oh, and this didn't go over well with my fiance', just like I expected. He gets so upset because he feels like I don't stick to my guns and I just keep allowing them to walk all over me and continue taking advantage of me, and he's RIGHT. They are. They do. Everything he tells me is true, he just doesn't understand all of the things involved like he would if my son were HIS flesh and blood and my grandson was HIS flesh and blood. He doesn't understand the fear of losing one or both of them because he doesn't have that bond; that connection; those parental feelings you get when you ARE connected. It really does put a damper on our relationship, which is just one MORE aspect of all of this that is unfair to me. My son just doesn't get how full-circle this issue is & how deeply it affects every single aspect of my life. He is SO selfish, and so is his girlfriend.
Yes; believe me, I have that fear & feel like I'm treading water & barely staying afloat because none of my options are "safe". I just hate it that I will always have the fear of my son's g.f. taking off with baby. I've supported them for nearly 2 years & they still live with me and I am SO attached to my beautiful grandson. She gets ticked off at my son and threatens to take the baby all the time & it just makes me so mad & scares the **** out of me. It's so bad, them both being addicts, because they both blame each other for everything & neither of them will take responsibilitiy for their own behavior. Both of them are so stupid, though, that they just don't get it that other people in town are starting to talk & that if they don't make a major change NOW, it's just a matter of time before someone makes a call & DCFS comes knocking on our door. Too many people are becoming alarmed & concerned for baby's safety. I don't think the g.f.'s mom is really in touch with how serious her daughter's addiction is. I think she puts all the responsibility and blame on my son, who is 6 years YOUNGER than her daughter. They are both addicts. I have a fear of g.f. running to her Mom & playing the "he's such an addict & he's a bad father" game & then Mom buying into it & sitting back and watching the g.f. hook up with some other drug addict (which I'm very convinced she will do) & dragging my grandson off to live with a stranger who would be even more dangerous to him.
This seems like one of those "dammed if you do and dammed if you don't" situations & I've had way too many of these in my life. I would like to think that this would be a wake-up call for them, but I have, sadly, lost faith in anything waking them up. They are still in denial about how bad (or risky) their parenting is when they're high. Not only is their parenting an issue, both of them have been sponging off me for over a year & a half & neither are working, but keep promising to get jobs. So, what do I do? Kick them out and lose track of my grandson? They know how attached I am to him and know I don't want to lose him, so they continue to take advantage of me.
I am definitely in a catch-22.
This seems like one of those "dammed if you do and dammed if you don't" situations & I've had way too many of these in my life. I would like to think that this would be a wake-up call for them, but I have, sadly, lost faith in anything waking them up. They are still in denial about how bad (or risky) their parenting is when they're high. Not only is their parenting an issue, both of them have been sponging off me for over a year & a half & neither are working, but keep promising to get jobs. So, what do I do? Kick them out and lose track of my grandson? They know how attached I am to him and know I don't want to lose him, so they continue to take advantage of me.
I am definitely in a catch-22.
Be very careful. I've been talking to someone else in your exact situation who moved to get custody of her child's child. The whole situation blew up in her face (mostly at that point I was trying to prepare her from a legal perspective of what to expect and prepare for, what to be sure the lawyer is doing, etc..).
It's probably a good idea to put off using the lawyers and the system as long as possible. Once unleashed, the legal system can be an uncontrolled beast, wrecking havoc in the lives of all involved indiscriminately.
It's probably a good idea to put off using the lawyers and the system as long as possible. Once unleashed, the legal system can be an uncontrolled beast, wrecking havoc in the lives of all involved indiscriminately.
That is one tough battle you have going on there. I too am now a grandparent and it took my daughter getting pregnant to get clean and I'm so proud of her for doing it. She was bad,hooked on crystal meth and anything else she could get her hands on. I found 7 can of glade in her room onetime. I'm like what the hell is all this glade for,well she was huffing it to get high. I'm lucky that she was smart enough to quit when she got pregnant and hasn't relapsed. Seems though that it runs in the family. Like father like daughter. I really hope things work out for you. Heroin is not an easy drug to quit (never did it) i've heard the horror stories. Sure wish there was more we could do for you. God has a way of making things work out though.
I read your post & do not envy your position. You seem to have a very good handle on it. I like your levelheadedness. I will be praying for you and the entire family and situation. I also read your new profile. Very tough place they have put you in. If you ever need more direct talk or prayer, please email(send message) I need to go now. Keep us all posted.
Well, I told my boss & he wasn't too judgmental. He just said, "well, hopefully they understand that you're serious & this will be the wake-up call for them" My brother just called & I told him a very short version of my change in plans (drug testing them & giving them another chance) & he didn't seem too judgmental. My biggest worry is how my fiance' is going to react. He's been wanting me to kick my son out for a long time & he gets tired of watching me being hurt & the stress of all of this really does put a strain on our relationship. I'm just hoping he doesn't make me feel worse when I tell him tonight. I'm really dreading it. He can't help the way he feels. He worries about me & wants to protect me from my son hurting me over and over and over again, but at the same time, he doesn't love my son the way I do & doesn't have the same connection, the same concerns, the same worries. It's so hard to explain. I didn't tell him until the last minute about my plan to ask the kids to sign over custody and I was SO adament that I was going to follow through with this. Now, I just wish I never would've told him because he's going to feel like this is just one more threat I've failed to follow through on.
i wish my mom could get on here and talk to u....yeah i think u should maybe not share much with these people who love u....sounds like they r kinda judgemental...maybe u should just get on here and vent or do whatever u need to do.....do u feel like its your fault? im asking this because my mom thinks its her fault that i WAS an addict (she just found out like 2 weeks ago) and if u do what could ur son do or say toprove its not? if your thinking its your fault all i can say is it isnt....i wish i knew what to tell my mom to make her feel better.....im sorry for your situation i feel for u greatly....im praying for u and your family.....god bless u
Well, if sharing my heart wrenching experiences can help anyone who is struggling with addiction understand what the people who love them are going through because of their addiction, perhaps I've made some small contribution. My son is only 20 years old, though, & his baby is only 5 months & I don't think he has a clue what I'm going through as his Mom. He only sees his own pain & his own struggle. I love my son so much & I love his baby just as much & I love his g.f., too. I've tried to get him to understand that I don't WANT to take his baby from him. I'm 41 years old & don't have some overwhelming desire to raise another child at this point. I'd love nothing more than to just enjoy being what I am - GRANDMA. I raised 3 kids & it wasn't easy then & I know it's even harder now, especially if you throw in issues like "mommy & daddy are both drug addicts so I have to live with my grandma" & all of the psychological attachments with that on a child. I want them both to be healthy & of a sound, clean, sober mind. I want them to have their own home & be able to go visit my grandson or go pick him up and take him somewhere for the day or have him spend the night or the weekend and then take him back to his parents' loving, capable, open arms. I am so afraid of making the wrong decision & also very tired of being the one who seemingly has to make all of the tough decisions. There is overwhelming stress added by people who love ME and are worried about me & feel like I'm not making the right decisions. It's so easy to stand on the outside when it's not YOUR child and say, "I'd just kick him out". The people feeling that way have never worried that making that decision could backfire & make matters worse; that making that decision could cause more harm to THEIR grandbaby than a possible alternative. Most of the people around me who get frustrated with me for not sticking to my guns or for not making the decisions they think I should are people who've NEVER had an addicted child & have never had a grandchild in the same situation mine is in. Sometimes, I think I need to just STOP sharing any of my plans or any of my information with anyone on the outside because doing so actually only adds to my stress when the plan gets altered. I know, I'm rambling. Maybe I need to be on another thread with other parents?? Thank all of you for the support you've given me the past few days. For those out there who pray; please keep me and my family in mind.
your post just made me realize what i've done to my own mother....she,like u is a very strong woman but recently ive really brought her down...she thinks my addiction was her fault....even though it wasnt....as a mother myself i can understand why she'd fel that way....thanks for your post ...it lets us see how our addictions affect the people who love us so much.......thank u
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Addiction: Substance Abuse Community
Is treating glaucoma with marijuana all hype, or can hemp actually help?
If you think marijuana has no ill effects on your health, this article from Missouri Medicine may make you think again.
Julia Aharonov, DO, reveals the quickest way to beat drug withdrawal.
Tricks to help you quit for good.
A list of national and international resources and hotlines to help connect you to needed health and medical services.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
