Stay in touch with us. We need to know that things are OK. Good luck. You guys are going to make it.
As of right now, my husband doesnt have a screen name. I will try to encourage him to vent in some way, weather its this forum, another one, a journal. Something. As for keeping the house stocked, i will go to thr grocery store a few times probably, to keep well stocked on bananas, blueberries, slimfast, special k protien water, gaterade, bottled water and everything ive found on any list around. i'm also gonna get him some word puzzles, magazines, books, i set up his playstation in the bedroom, and while he's detoxong i will stay on the couch, plus its a tradition in our family that on the weekends we sually alway camp out in the livingroom together, so i'll just do that w/ my daughter while daddy has "the flu". ans then next week when he's feeling a bit better, ooopps, mommy caught what daddy had. that what we will say to our families too. and the way it works out when my weekend starts, my daughter will be starting feb vacation si i wont have to worry about waking up early when my hubbby has to go back to work, my kids are late sleepers, so hopefully that wont be an issue for me.
Sounds like THE plan.
May I suggest that U and hubby sleep in seperate beds during both detox times. The one detoxing will need his/her space to flip flop in bed life a fish out of water!
Thomas Recipe helps w/appetite. Have house well stocked w/foods before each detox.
Cool Mentol Creams helps w/burning aches along w/hot baths w/epsom salt.
Have laptop nearby person detoxing so he/she can vent!
I look forward to hearing from you both. What is hubbys screen name?
Well, I've been 2 both AA & NA & I have 2 say that it will help u TREMENDOUSLY & it's a GREAT way 2 stay clean. The ONLY difference between them is that one is specified for alcohol & the other the other is narcotics-but they both do the same thing-they both encourage u to quit & stay clean-but the AA is geared more for alcohol-but it's still a drug. So, my advice, go with your friend-it'll be alot easier to attend with a friend-no shame or embarrassment, plus u can get a sponsor who will be there to call whenever u feel the need to use again. This is a GREAT idea!!
You've made a good decision to do it separately, for the kids sake and also so you can help each other. Two people in withdrawl in the same place would be not be a pretty picture. I think it would be best to give him one more week, he'll be much more patient and clearer. Look at the thomas recipe and use the amino acids and vitamins to help get your brain and body back to normal. Make sure to not take those suboxone unless you/he is in full withdrawl (all the opiates out of your system) or you'll have really really bad withdrawls. you could use them to lessen withdrawal but you should keep tapering each dose down to even half doses, quarter doses to even shavings. Of course this will take longer to get off but may be a bit milder. Half of the battle to recovery is knowing what may cause relapse and being ready for it. Like knowing about the money, its good that there are 2 of you and you can keep each other accountable. Invest it or do something FUN with the kids and remember how good life can be when not under the control of a substance. You'll also have alot more money not blowing it on pills. Be proud of yourself for continueing to better your life. Failure is only a life lesson to figure out how to do something differently and thats exactly what you're doing! A famous rehab quote is "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a DIFFERENT outcome". Wake up every morning, say a prayer, and say "I Can Do This!!!!"
Speaking of after care is there a bug difference between AA and NA. One of my very close friends has been a recovering alcoholic for about 2 or 3 years now, she attends AA meetings on a daily basis, she knows a little bit about whats happening in my life and said she'd love for me to go to some meetings with her. Will I benefit the same from an AA meeting as I would and NA meeting? Has anyone done or been to both? Is this forum part of a good after care plan. I woul dlove to hear some ideas or plans that have worked for others.
Glad you're here....sounds like you guys have thought this out carefully and it ...sounds like a plan to me. I like that..got the flu ..gave it to the other!!! Good luck and I'll be on here supporting you...you can do this....
When your tax $$ comes..you should still be on here posting...that way you'll be less tempted to spend it on the wrong things.....we'll talk about that nexxt week...AFTERCARE...the things we need to do to STAY clean,,cuz to be real honest..if you don't have a plan for aftercare (something to deal w/ the mental part...the recovery ...dealing with the issues that keep us out there using)..your chances of relapsing are high.
Take care and keep posting!!!!
Well if you need someone to hold the money, I volunteer. Not sure you'll get it back, though. LOL Getting clean will be so much better. You will get your life back.
oh we're up to 2-3 80mg oc's a day each. Some days more some days less, depending on our money situation. I'd say this has been going on for about a year and a half. If not a little less, the past 6, 7, 8, months its been an everyday thing. Sometims we try to not do anything for at least a day or two to give ourselves and our wallets a break but its that rollercoaster, as soon as we get $$ thats the first thing we think of. One reason why we wnat to quit so bad it because our tax refund will be comming n and if we're all messed up it willgo to all the wrong things, at the samt time when it comes in we'll only be cllean for about a month so it still makes me very very nrevous to come across a large ammount of $$$ while in the very begining of recovery. I'd like to give ot to one of our parents to hold on to but both sets our very judgemental and we will get 101 queations if we even asked for ten bucks out of it ya know.
Thanks guy's. Angel, thats so awsome that you feel good on day 4. Did you do a taper or c/t. Yes, I will completely cater to him while he's "in the bedroom" we have a porch that we go out in sit on right off our bedroom so its perfect if he or myself wants to get some fresh air or read a book outside. I just have a good feeling about the way we chose to do it, i really think its going to work for us and our situation, being that we cant tell family at all. When my time comes to detox ( next friday) you can be i will post as much as physically possible. Even though my husband is a great help he doesnt get the mental part of it.I get really bad anxiety and he just doesnt get it ya know, so I will definitely be leaning on you guys for support.
u have made the right descision to stop....ur story is alot like mine and my husbands...we were also oxy addicts (80,gs 3-6 a day) we both quit c/t and r now 2.5 months clean.....how long and how much r u taking?
Well,I'm really rooting 4 u! I never tried Oxy's-but I'm on day 4 of Lortab detox & 2day was the 1st that I've been outta bed & I feel great! I'm sooo proud of myself!! I know that it's probably gonna be harder 2 detox off of Oxy's than tabs..??? But, if u put your mind 2 it & cater 2 your husband as much as u can w/out getting frustrated that you're doing EVERYTHING w/the kids-it'll work out!! GOOD LUCK!!
Good luck with this. I am impressed with your decision. You can do this. Keep posting, we'll be here for you.
yeah, we checked into it but there's only a few where we live and they all have really long waiting lists. A friend of ours gave us 5 to start of with but my husband said since he has the time to w/d by himself with nothing to worry about he might not even take the suboxone route. He thinks the w/d's will be over sooner if he just roughs it out. I dont know about that though. I know it seems really close toether but it's either this way or we try to do it together again, which has proved time and time again it just doesnt work for us, we always fight over who gets more sleep or who feels better then the other. We figured this way, the one who is detoxing at the time has no worries while the other takes care of lifes duties. I've also talked to one o my close friends, who I confided in about our problem and she said she would help out by stopping by and helping with the kids or whatever, especially if he still feels bad that second week while I'm detoxing. He usually feels better after a week so he's fairly confident that he'll be up to par to be there for me, thats why he's going first. I have to say this is the first time Im looking foward to detox. Just because i know Ill have no worries about the house or kids or anything like that. I can just stay in bed if i want and try my harddest to sleep through the worst first few days.
it will be a fun place in two weeks when you both are going through it. That may be too close together. Have you thought about a Suboxone Dr?