Trust issues

Question

Hey everyone,

I have a pretty serious problem.... So i was doing a load of laundry today which is something that as little of a task as it is was something i could not do only two months because of how bad my anxiety had actually gotten. i know that sounds stupid, but its true... anyway, that isnt my problem. the problem is that while i was putting some of Masons clothes in his drawer i found 4 of MY xanax. i didnt even know he liked them! nevermind the fact that he took them without me knowing or that he was hiding them in his sock drawer, but we lost a vey good friend to a lethal combo of xanax and suboxone. he knows better than that! should i confront him? should i just let it go? i have never had any trust issues with Mason, not even when both of us were using... im just so dissapointed... Mason is coming home in a week from monday and from what he tells me, he loves the program- i feel like im just making a mountain out of a mole hill about this. what do you guys think? i could REALLY use your advice on this. thatnks everyone. much love.

*Kristen*

nick30 · Answer

whoah whoah calm down, no-one thinks anything bad of you, just like we didn't think anything bad of mason at the time. given the fact that both of you have struggled with addiction it is ok to wonder what was going on. he probably just forgot to tell you, or he might have thought that it was no where near as serious as the meth and not even worth mentioning.

chanandalerbong1 · Answer

thank you all for being honest with me about what Mason had told you all. i really appreciate it. now i feel like a complete a hole for even questioning it. your wife tries to kill herself and then wonders why you have something to help you relax... god im so stupid. you all must think i am terrible....im not even going to bring it up i dont think... he already came forward on his own about the meth relapse and i really do trust him which is why i was a little hurt when i saw the pills in his drawer... it does make  a lot of sense now... i cant believe i pushed him to have to take  xanax (which i call the devils prescription).... thank you again all for informing me of this. i really appreciate it...

*Kristen*

kim715 · Answer

Kristen,Nick is correct.Mason did tell us he had taken the xanax while you were in the hospital.He didn't feel that he could tell you at the time because of all you were going through,but he did tell us about it.None of us beat him up about it though,to be honest hon,many of us understood what a rough time it was for the both of you and thought we might have done the same thing,considering the circumstances.I think when you bring it up to him,Mason will tell you the truth about everything.All the best......Kim

broknbck · Answer

well there is a time to speak up and there is a time to keep quiet.
only you know what time it is. trust your instincts.

nick30 · Answer

Hi Kristen. I think he admitted to us doing a few little things when you were in hospital. considering what both of you were going through then I would not make much out of it. I don't see any problem bringing it up but I don't think it's a huge issue. 
Let the past be the past, and help each other move on past this rather difficult part of your lives. 
I wish both of you all the best.

Nick.

goldenarm · Answer

Could be he was trying to detox off something with them, or who knows, or even got them elsewhere,you guys should just talk about it like you do everything else, i wouldnt put to much on it, thats just the type of relationship me and mine have as well. Been following your story for awhile,come along way, congradulations,please dont let something like this get in the way of everything both of you have accomplished..

outotown · Answer

Yes, confront him in a very loving maner, since he is in detox in house, this was something he must have done before he left. So he my be ok, now if it is something he has done while in the program confront him and both of you go tell his Dr. Good Luck with this Aaron

beatingthis · Answer

Hi Kristen,

How are you feeling?

I would bring it up. Is he still in detox? I would no lecture him. Just a gentle nudge.
Sorry for the other poster. I am sure they don't know your story.

Terry

chanandalerbong1 · Answer

thanks for the lecture. NOT. Mason is my husband.... i dont have kids. im not sure how you could have thought he was my child from that post... please dont post me any lectures- im not twelve.oh yea and neither is Mason!

heycaryanne · Answer

Of course you should confront him. Who gives a **** whether he "likes them" that is not this issue. The issue is you are the parent. Regardless of where he got them, he has them, and you speak of losing someone to an overdose and this is actually a question for you?.... Please lady... stand up and be a parent.