UPDATE FROM FRIDAYS POST

Sorry to say this but you guys where right . He has no concern for his own well being and my brother seems to be a different person. I guess we all learn from mistakes i just hope he wakes up and realizes that no matter what in the end i will still be his brother and i will be there for him again thanks for your replies it meant alot

[mimi1313]

It might be hard to sit back and do nothing but sometimes it's all you can do. You'll be there for him when it counts.

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

Sad to hear that news....he is lucky to have a brother like you - most of us on this forum have quit more than once - perhaps next time he will be ready.....but he has to want it or you are spinning your wheels....you have done what you can do - especially telling him that you will be there as his brother

[alienshadow]

thanks guys

[corey411]

How to help an addict by a recovering addict

Let them know you know,
Don't hide it.
Let them know you care'
But do not enable.
Say"I know what's going on"
Give them the books and literature.
Show them where they can get help.
But hardly can you ever force someone to get well.
Don't enable but support.
Be open, Refer as openly to heroin as you might to a glass of wine.
Don't nag or reprimand, But don't approve or collaborate.
Don't throw them out of the home immediatly, but if you have to save the rest of the family you may have to ask them to go.
Sometime there is a moment when they are ready
There was someone who tried to get clean for 16 years, the moment came, she did it
Spirituality can help. But it is not available to everyone.
If they arent ready, their not ready.
If their not ready maybe they have to go back out until they are ready. Maybe they will die before they are ready
Accept this is a risk you take.
Accept that when you've done your best, there is nothing more you can do.
Noone believes addiction is going to happen to them.
Everyone thinks at first they can control it.
The drug always ends up controling the person.
Understand their powerlessness
Be kind, suggest new options in life.
Let them know you know, let them know you care.
Be open Be strong. Do not cover up for them.
Do not tell lies for them, phoning in with false excuses for missed appointments.
Love them, Respect them, but do not enable.

Just wanted to post this again. It really helped me with my son. Its hard to find the line between helping and enabeling. Above all continue to let him know you love him and will assist in anyway that has to do with getting clean and sober.So sorry you are going through this with your brother. Corey

[alienshadow]

I will Corey thanks