Watching it all go to hell.

[Undertow71]

pretty much sums it up,wife is now addicted,her sone is too,has been,she thinks he cannot take care of himself.How can he when all she does is baby her 28 year old hueghy.
   I want out,i can deal with mine,but i have given so much i don't feel there is anyting left of me.
everything is always my fault as they go thru gobs of meds a month and spend hundreds more.i swore i would never go thru this again and here i am.
  Bout to become a hobbit.
thanx for letting me vent,only the strong survive i guess

[Pat1956100]

I agree with mama.  You have to protect you and your sobriety.  It has to come first.  Mothers should not be helping their sons get high.
I know it happens but that should be sobering enough and make her realize they both need help.
Time for some tough love here.
I wish you the best and please keep posting and vent away.
Pat

[mamaof4410]

We all do some pretty low things when we are addicted. We are the greatest manipulators there are. He goes back to his mom because he knows he can. And her being an addict as well does not help the situation. I hate to say this but if you feel as though yoiu have nothing left then leaving might be the best option. I told my husband the truth about my addiction and I knew I had to change not only for myself but because I would lose my entire family if I didnt. Only you know when you have had enough. No one can decide for you. They have to want to change...no one can force them. I wish you the best and I hope your wife gets help before she loses a great husband.

[dominosarah]

I am sorry to hear all of this is going on.  Have you taken over the finances?  

[Livingtodaylikeitsmylast]

Hi there, I totally agree with ABritt, I would never have quit if it didn't ruin me financially.  Are you kidding, it was awesome.  But when it gets to the point that it comes before the mortgage or food......it's a problem.  I used to take my husbands and ensure "we'd" some more and when we didn't and he got sick it was awful.  When you are done, you will know it.  Sometimes we are done at different times then our loved ones and that is pretty scary.  Keep on here, vent and ask lots of questions.  These people are amazing.

[smiles4eva]

I am so sorry undertow.  I don't have any advice just wanted to say how happy I am to see you reaching out! Vent away friend!

[abritt121222]

He can be an addict because she is babying him unfortunately. An addict will continue to use as long as we have no consequences for our actions I know that's how I was and I'm not the only one if we can use and never get in trouble or lose anything we have no reason to stop. And as far as everything being your fault that's also the addict part we are the most selfish ppl on the world while in active addiction and nothing is ever our fault and we are not responsible for anything wrong we do is what we think. I'm really s orry to hear about this and have u talked to her and really sat her down and told her you don't have to deal with this and will not continue to do it?

Good Luck and Godspeed
ABritt