What do you do when you feel like you've tried everything

[BeechyKeen27]

My sister is 22yrs old and had been abusing all types of drugs for over 5yrs. She has come to the comclusion that Roxy's are her favorite. Because of this drug shes sold herself. shes injected into her arm wrong and given herself cellulytis, she's been beaten my various boyfriends, and sold everything she owns. I feel like my mom enables her because she thinks there's no other way. My sister has been to detox atleast 11 times and goes to meetings every day. None of these things are working for her. I think part of her wants to be clean but at the same time she's waiting to hit even more of a rock bottom then she already has. She claims I don't understand her addiction and what she goes through because I tell her she disgusts me to see her this way. I can't take watching someone whho use to be so full of life now wiling to do anything they can to sell her sole to the devil(Roxy's). It seems like she's a zombie. When she cant get her hands on the pills she ends up having suicidal thoughts and cuts herself. She like to steal my moms morphine as a last result. What can a person who has tried basically everything to get clean do?

[mtgoat911]

i went to a narconon meeting tonight, heard some good stuff about taking on the addicts problem and how to stop
might help your situation to find one of these meetings, its good to hear she is going into residential treatment

[BeechyKeen27]

Everytime she comes outta detox she relapses. Shes been on suboxone aswell. Just last night while she was at a meeting she scored some roxy's from a so called friend of a friend. When i called her on it she said its her last time before she so away for a long time to a place called WaySide House. I have heard that excuse so many times im past the point of believeing or having hope for her. She tries to justify her addiction with her signature phrase "hey you asked, and atleast im honest".

[mtgoat911]

going to detox or meetings alone will not keep you clean, you have to stop using, so i guess she is willing to do everything but stop using
in that case a matience drug maybe her only hope to stay off the needle
its hard to say what people need, i had to want to get clean so the best start at staying clean is to want it

[scaredmom330]

My son is addicted to somas and alcohol, I know where you are coming from. I have tried everything to help him. nothing works. It was making me crazy, causing problems between my husband and myself. I finally after talking to several good people here starteded tough love. I refuse to talk to him when he calls if he is drunk or high, I tell him to call back when he is sober. you and your mother are victims of her addiction the same as she is. You have to just look the ovther way until she is ready for your help. belittling them does nothing but sends them for another pill or drink. As hard as it is look the other way, don't tell her what you think. As much as you love her this is her life and her choice. pm me if you want to talk anytime

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

I am so very sorry for you - - I can tell that you love her and are concerned for her - - These folks have all given you some good advice ........  from people that know what you speak of. Best of luck to both her and you...........

[Florida_Guy737]

Just a few thoughts....

1. This isn't your issue nor will it ever be; your sister owns her addiction and has to bear the issues (bad and good) that come from her abuse
2. There are groups for family members who have relatives/siblings/parents etc, that provide support - Alanon is one I can think of
3. Support is what your sister needs but telling her that her actions disgust you probably won't solve anything and may make the situation worse; it is what it is...listen, support verbally when you can and don't enable her

Just a few things I learned along the way

Take Care

[flmagi]

Yeah, sounds like Suboxone might be a place to start for her. Go to Suboxone.com and look into some Sub doctors in your area.

[allaboutmary]

If she really wants this then she needs to keep trying. Has she looked into Suboxone ?  It's not a complete answer to her addiction, but it might help her get her life back in order.  Keep reading and posting.