my daughter is 22 (grandson is 3). for 6-9 weeks the boyfriend (experienced) has been shooting opana's in her veins. she has no desire to quit. she won't be around her son, or anybody that cares about her. the boyfriend went to jail 2 days ago but will be getting out within a few days. can only get her to agree to the 'methadone clinic route' (better than nothin) right now. i know it's only gonna postpone the needles and other drugs. can i ""hypothetically speaking"" keep her sedated with some sort of anesthesia and try to find an opiate blocker . dont' seem to have many choices. don't have $7500 for rapid detox implant, and she won't do anything like that anyway on her own. they won't let me 'drag her into a place like that! she's already sayin she'll kill herself if i try to make her stop, she's found god in this drug and it's way too good..."i just don't understand" she says. she's totally malnutrioned, doesn't eat anything but candy, she was drinking pancake syrup outa the bottle today. If anybody has ANY insight or advice,,, pleeeeeze fill in this worried to death mom
I am so sorry you are going through this. You cannot force your daughter to do anything, especially get clean, if she doesn't want to. You especially cannot keep her sedated. The rapid detox is a waste of money if she doesn't follow through with intense counseling and she doesn't sound like she wants it. To make matters worse she is of legal age.
My heart breaks for all of you but you may just have to get to the point where you let her go. In doing so you would of course get some sort of custody over the little one.
As sad as it is sometimes it is the only way. You can't save someone who doesn't want saving.
You have decisions to make and they are tough. Please stay here and talk and listen to the good folks here who have a wealth of experience and can share theirs with you.
IBkleen is right. Its so hard to help someone when they don't want it. When I first started pills I thought to myself there is nothing greater. Its like sometimes you have to hit rock bottom to understand. Again, I agree with IBKleen. Sometimes you have to bite the bullet a let her go.
I know that is easier said than done because its your child but if you really want her to get better you might have to. I feel for you so much and I am very sorry that you have to go through this with your daughter. Keep posting because there are people with more knowledge than me that might be able to give you better advice. I am stumped. This is a very depressing story. I will be putting good energy your way, I hope it helps. Peace & Love
If she is threatening suicide, you can have her committed involuntarily. But there again, as IBKleen and Sky both mentioned - she has to want to be saved. I am so sorry that you are having to endure this.
My heart goes out to you - there is no way I could turn my back on my daughter nomatter what...I do not know what I would do.
This forum can provide you with an outlet for your feelings which could help you at this point just by having people to talk with.
You are in my thoughts and prayers...
I was right where your daughter is just 8 short months ago. Still to this day I fight the needle addiction. I know if my mother could have done what you are wanting to do she would have done it in a heartbeat instead she had to sit back and watch me throw my life away. You can only help the ones that want to help themselves. Finally I saw what I was doing to not only myself but the ones that loved me. I pray that your daughter gets her wake up call soon. It took me 14 long years to get mine and no matter what anybody said or did I wasn't going to stop until I decided it was time to stop. Because of her age legally there is nothing you can do to get her help. I know what has been said is not what you wanted to hear but all the ones that have posted before me are right. Unless she has it in her mind that she wants to stop nothing that you or anybody else do or say will make a difference. The only thing you can do is love her and be there for her. I will pray for her to wake up and see what she is doing to her life and her child's life. I had an easier time getting off the pills than I have with stopping putting a needle in my arm. I have been clean since Feb and just 3 days ago was I able to lay the needle down. You will find a lot of support on this site so keep on posting!!!
I don't know what your relationship with the boyfriend is. If you know he is at your house and has drugs, or has them with him. Call the police. It sounds harsh but he could very possibly kill your daughter with this stuff. Things could change for her if she stays away from him for a long while. You cant control any of this, but certain actions can be taken to make it harder. Sometimes ya have to do something next to impossible to give a person a different prospective on their situation. Not telling you what to do by any means. I know if I had drugs on me and my folks called the police on me, it may have been the wake up call I needed. Addicts think they are invincible right up until the get into a really bad situation. If she has illegal drugs, that may be a way to show her how serious this is. Plus if she or he is in jail for a bit, at least they are not on the streets doing what ever they can to get dope. I know when I went to jail for drugs, my prospective was way different when It was all over. Thats when I realized that way more was at stake. i dont know your daughter, but shes may be playing you with the suicide threat. Take it very serious, but also it may be a scare tactic. I used it as many others have before me. If some one tells you to stop or else. What better way to draw attention to something else than " ill kill myself". Then parents and friends seem to say "ok if ya dont kill your self".. Again take it VERY SERIOUS.... But dont allow the manipulation. If its a threat, get her to a place where suicide wont be an option if at all possible.
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