addiction

[AN1022]

I have been with the same guy for 4 years now and he has had an addiction ever since. He stops every 6 months or so and starts right back up again after about 3 months. I don't know what to do any more or how to help him he has gone to detox and all that but he continues to let this addiction overcome him. I along with his family have reached out to help him, if anybody has any advice for me to help and me it would be greatly appreciated because i'm all out of ideas!!

[benevolentlaughter]

I know this is going to sound crazy, but please do not leave him over this. I'm not saying that you are thinking about it or stated that you were... But please don't leave him.

I honestly don't know what to tell you other than to try and stick by but get him help all at the same time. Believe it or not, he will thank you for it down the line.

[theeagle]

Sounds like the kind of candidate that suboxone was made for............

[worried878]

geez///always avoid these postscos the person who needs help is not the one osting..and i do realize u need help...if i were dating me 2 yrs ago i wouyold run like a banchee///but u r u...and u may need to seek out a group in ur area for co-dependent persons// those in love with an alcholic or narcs etc///they r out there everywhere...and if this is the path u choose..to stay...u will need this support these groups can offer...me///having no addiction/aloholism in my immediate family was born of 2 parents who do not touch the stuff due to parents they had who burned then out on ever touching alcohol...guess it could go either way...my grandparents...3 of 4 were alcoholics..great upbringing i had..can never blame nuttin on nobody but me,,,but i do know i wouldnt date someone nor try to date someone who had any of the above..but if u already lov him u r a bit stuck....try and c  if he will post...addicts r self centered cos they r in active addiction as a rule...do what u need to do...but remember u exist..remember what u want and what u deserve,,,,his leftovers post highs or drunx may not cut it for u...just stick to ur boundaries///and know them from the get go...do not let someone step over ur boundaries u have or u will never be happy

[benevolentlaughter]

I couldn't have said it better myself.

[dominosarah]

Until he is ready to finally give it up there is nothing you can do for him.  There is on the other hand something you can do for yourself......you need to get some help for yourself.  Addiction affects the whole family.  Alanon is a very helpful support system.  They will give you the tools you need to keep your sanity if you choose to stay in this relationship.  It is very easy to be an enabler when you are living this lifestyle.  You sound like you have a heart of gold and i commend you for hanging in there as long as you have but it is time to take care of you now.....we addicts are very selfish people while we are using and we will stop at nothing to get what we want.  If he chooses to continue to go down this path of using you dont have to be a part of it.....We are not trying to be harsh here, just stating the facts.  You are important and YOU NEED to know that........all the best          sara