alcohol related paranoia

My husband is an alcoholic even though he doesn't think so.  Each night he "must" drink at least 3-5 beers when he gets home before he can function with the family.  I have become used to this and as much complaining as I do, he will not stop.  My latest problem I can not fix and don't know what to do.  
I have been faithful to this man for 37 years.  Never have I strayed.  One night he said he heard me moaning in my sleep and speaking the name of one of my sons friends.  Now I don't know if I did this or not, but I have no interest in this friend or anyone else for that matter.  I have tried to make it up to my husband in so many ways and I thougth I had.  Today, he is still miserable about it to the point where he will not even speak to me unless he is drunk and then he just says hateful things.  
At first I was upset and hurt for him.  Not wanting him to think that I would ever do any thing like that.  Now that I have done all I can, I am so pissed that I feel like kicking him out.  What can I do?  I have heard of alcohol paranoia and I am wondering if this is what this is.  To be truthful, his hearing is awful and he doesn't even hear me when I do try to be loving with him.  How could he have heard anything like this??? Help!!!

[gizzy32]

He has no right whatsoever to talk to you like this. His addiction is causing him this anger, not you. Since he don't want help and can't function without alcohol and face things like a man, then he does have a problem. He is the one that will need to do the work. You do have a choice though, nobody deserves to be talked to like this. Have you ever heard of alanon? If there are any in your area I suggest checking one out. You will get a lot of help and support there. Stick around here too, you will get some more feedback. Check out this link for alanon.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/