brother in Dallas back in rehab-Help?

[mominstress]

I just need to tell you the story.  My brother is 37.  He has been in andout of rehab for 20 years.  Everytime he gets sober, he is the most humble hearted, Good spirited, likable, Christian man I have ever known.  He is absolutely my favorite person in the world.  I pretty much took care of him growing up because my mom was active alcoholic at the time.  God loves him like crazy, saved his life a million times.  He has done time for DUI in TX.  WEll he actually had a life, nice girlfriend with a daughter, church, a bible study and they asked him to do prison ministry.  Good huh.  Well too good.  He drank on monday. hocked things that didnt belong ot him on tuesday for weed.  Girlfriend through him out.  He hocked his last possesion worth anything for a bus ticket to rehab on the other side of DAllas.  (not a good side of Dallas) and waited until they opened.  They took him for 3 days.  He is sober now.  lost, hopeless, and I am his lifeline.  Other than God.
i don't know what to do.  He needs a place to go, we have used up everyone.  If you guys know someplace he could go and regroup PLEASE tell me.  He doesn't know I have the same problem.  
He thinks I am the one person he can trust and count on.  He would be so disappointed in me.  I really need to help him find some REAL help.  Please direct me if you can.
Love to all of you who understand us.
M

[mslkpage]

Is he still in Dallas? What about the Salvation Army there? They have a long-term treatment program at the Carr. P. Collins building on Harry Hines.

[singha]

OMG sounds just like my 40 year old brother in Louisiana. I wish I could help you because I know what you are going through. I tried the tough love love and he didn't call me for 2 years. Good luck I hope someone can help you here.

[mominstress]

Yes he is in Dallas.  He has been to the SA before and mentioned that this am.  When he was there last time it was after his incarceration.  He spent a week in the 24 hour club about a month ago.  He will probably go back to SA if we can't find some other place.  I would like for him to be a resident of a out of Dallas program.  He has no insurance, so we are looking for  a charitable org.  Thanks for answering me.   We will def. keep the SA in mind. Have a good day.

[LIZZIE LOU]

i kind of agree with mslkpage...has he been to long term residential yet?  sounds like he has been struggling for a long time now.  i hope he finds the help he needs...and you too.

huggs,
kim

[mslkpage]

Freeman Center in Waco also has openings for males for 14-28 days at a time.

[mominstress]

thanks.  I am going to call them. now.  :o)

[mslkpage]

Here's the number- 254-753-3625.

If he meets the criteria for chemical dependency and wants the help, the treatment would be state funded.

Good luck.

[mominstress]

I called the Freeman Center.  They can't take him out of Dallas.  They gave me the names of the funding orgs.(Northstar and Value Options) who might cover him staying in Dallas, but Freeman Center that said where he is now has to set it up.  I called my brother and left a message to call me.  Thanks for all your help.  I will keep trying.

[mslkpage]

Really?? If you found a way to get him to Waco, they still couldn't take him? I'm sorry...I figured they could help you.

[mominstress]

No problem.  It put me on a trail.  So I will follow it.  Have you ever heard of a place called Lighthouse?  It is for men somewhere near Corpus Christi.  You stay 6 months.  

[athena-8]

Just an idea...
Sharing your addiction problems with him may not have the effect you anticipate.

• What if sharing your truth helped him with the awful shame/lonliness/isolation he must be experiencing?

• What if the two of you could then work togther to find solutions?

• What if getting honest with him made you more accountable with your addiction recovery process, and therefore actually helped you?

Just thought I'd throw out some What If's....

Well Wishes to Both of You,

--Athena

[mslkpage]

I've heard of that program, but I don't know much about it. You might also try this facility:

http://bayarearecovery.com/

It's in south Houston. Tell them that your brother is indigent and ask if they have any funding assitance or scholarship $$ available.