I am sorry you are having a bad day. It seems like you have a lot of things going on in your life right now. There is a lot of pressure getting married, let alone trying to get sober at the same time. I am new here and don't know your whole story but is there anyway you can postpone the wedding? Maybe give yourself more time for you. Once you get yourself well taken care of - I am sure the other things will seem a lot easier. I am sorry to hear about your dad too. I had an abusive parent and step-parent. I know those scars run deep but when it gets me down I try to tell myself that I am more then what happened to me then. The people we are today is not what happened to us in the past. It is what we make of it now. You have a very caring fiance and a bright future in store. Keep those things in mind. Look at all the loving people in your life now.
I wish you all the best!
Shelby
Hi once again,
Before I begin, I'm going to say it again: Your a WINNER and 10 days off, you are Winning the Fight! - PERIOD, don't give up!
I was wondering how you were doing. I'm so sorry to hear the confusion your fiance has.
I do know one thing, when anyone quit's the Hydro's or Norco's - That is (and is on of my) biggest side effect / withdrawal: Depression!
You felt better on the norco's because the stimulate the "good feeling brain receptors", and just like my best friend, he can't funtion w/o Hydro's because of 10 years of using, if he starts to come off, he has to pop another to lift his mood up.
I know that is one part of the deppression your experiencing, is simply the withdrawals from the norco's.
I wish that your future husband could focus on the present, and not the past!
YOU ARE DOING GREAT! - You could of took a shoot or more pills when you first went down to ER, but you didn't! Your WININING the Battle! Stick to what you have put all of your Strength and Efforts in -
Keep on Striving for that "Fruitfull, Productive" Life that we are all after! You are Winning! PLEASE.....Never Give Up!
As for the the depression with your father, I wish I could help (I know someone in this forum that can relate will), - But you have to keep going foward, toward that goal you started out to reach.
The depression will pass! With each and every day, that you keep Fighting the Godd Fight! Trust Me the withdrawal deppression well pass!
As always, my heart and prayers are out for you!
Your well loved here,
God Bless You,
With love...Todd
I broke my ankle severly and it was the worst pain of my life. Congrats to you on 10 days. Please try to focus on your wedding day and how great you are going to feel being off the drugs after 3 months. You will be able to enjoy your wedding and Honeymoon without being in a foggy haze. This is a day you want to remember everything, the smell of the flowers, the blue of the sky and you will be in such a good place within that time. Yoda (member of forum) has been free for 3 months from oxys. She can tell you how much better she feels after 3 months. Your fiance only wants the best for you and your future together. You don't want to start a new marriage with an addiction in the picture. If you need any support feel free to give a shout out.
Tim
My heart goes out to you... I do know that you can get through this much better with suboxone... an opiate also and docs who write scripts for this need special certification to do so. Go on the Suboxone website and type in your city. It will require getting off of that too but the symtoms are so much easier if you follow directions...
The first time I had it, I felt no wd's what so ever and actually felt good and this might be the ticket to your timely problems? Suboxone is very powerful so don't even think about messing the slow taper the doc puts you on.
Hey there sweetie! So sorry to hear of your sadness today. I am day 10 or 11 off norcos too. To us it seems like we are "through" it and should be back to the way we were before we started the norcos. Often our family members think we should be back to "normal" (whatever that is) too. It takes time.
Some of the depression could be withdrawal symptoms even though your body may have stopped feeling the wds.
You are amazing for sticking to your plan when you are in pain with your ankle! You are a strong woman! Also you are very compassionate.
I agree with two posts above. One is to possibly postpone the wedding a few months or if not, just know that in 3 months your body and brain chemistry will have more "practice" so to speak being off opiates.
About your dad. Let it go. We can't change people. He knows you want him to be in your life, right? If he knows that and chooses not to there is nothing you can do and its time to focus on those in your life who do want to be there. I'll tell you what, if I ever get married again, it is my daughter who will walk me down the aisle and she has said that if she gets married, it is I who will walk her. My dad is not involved and doesnt want to be. My mom died a year and a half ago, it would be nice to have a dad but its truly optional.
I am here for you and I care about you lots! Keep posting, ok?
for such loving words. It feels so good to be around such a wonderful group.
tztlady, can i have your email address?
Hang in there. I am so sorry for your pain, it comes through loud and clear in your post. I am not far from you, northern Indiana. I do not post often, but if I were in the Chicago area, I would be right there for a cup of coffee with a box of tissues in tow. Have you considered maybe having your son walk you down the aisle? My girlfriend who lost her father remarried and her son gave her away. It was very emotional though, her son's father was an investigator for our sheriff's dept and was killed in the line of duty. Are you and your fiance going to any pre-marital counseling? Maybe that would be a consideration. Most ministers require it, and I don't believe it is very costly. Please be strong. You can and will do this.
my son is walking me down the aisle actually, but there are things (like father/daugher dance) that make me really miss hime.