hopelesslee in love with an alcholic

[ang131]

i am 37 yrs and pregnant with my alcholic boyfriends 2nd child.  i know that i am a codepandent but i dont know what to do? every time he drinks it hurts the whole family he becomes very verbal abusive to me and my children. when he is sober he is the best boyfriend and father anyone could ask for, his drinking has taken a toll on me and on his body he now has ceroiss of the liver and he still drinks. he also has already ended up in the hospital with renial failur cuz of his drinking and using. my problem is i dont know how to leave him i love him so much and his children need him and i need him. but latley i hate the fact that i need him, i want to want him not need him and it is very hard to want him when he is always drinking u-no? so what should i do?
  singed hopeless.

[Clamity2]

He is dying isn't he? Ceroiss and still drinking? I don't want to be mean at all. He could get a miracle and live but he needs it now. Does he know he is going to leave his children?  I am a alcoholic then got sober for 13 years and started taking painkillers. But they were perscribed so I was in denial for a long time. I'm putting off getting my blood test to see how my liver is. I'm scared. Have you gone to alanon? there are alanon forums or chats online too.
God Bless

[dove3053]

I'm sure someone has suggested al-anon. You need to see some people face to face that share your problem. If nothing else you will feel less alone and make some friends that could come in handy. Good luck,

Dove

[marcatj]

you need help asap.  you need counceling, al-anon - SOMETHING.  the problem is not going to go away by itself.. and i'm sorry to say this, but it doesn't sound like there's any consequences to his drinking - he gets to stay with you, have more kids, etc.  why stop? he likes it.. and there are no repercussions.

do you see what i'm trying to say here? hun.. you have to get help.  we can help you here the best we can, but we're not professionals..

sweetheart.. if you don't do it for you, do it for your kids.  they deserve better than this.  please take some action and go talk to someone and get the help you need.. please.

[Chi708]

I hear you. I am the same way and was just going through a similar situation (except it was prescription drugs) but what i did was tell him, if you are going to continue this self distructing behavior then I am going to leave. I also called his mother for help and recorded him when he was high to show him how he was acting. Try recording him.

[GoingToMakeIt]

   He needs tough love. Are you willing to stay with him if he continues on this course? If not, you will need to act on that knowledge. He will not quit drinking unless he chooses to. I believe that there is also an alcoholic forum that you can also post to if you don't get the answers you need here.