how to tell if he snorts or not?

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I recently thought that my boyfriend was snorting pills so I left my pills out that i got from  the dentist and 1 came up missing. but he can always use an excuse like his back hurt. I feel  like **** because of all this and threw the pills away and he is so different. He'll never let me know that he's snorting them so I can't help and I've asked him and all he says is he crushes them to take them by mouth because there too big and they work instantly and take his back pai away.
My mouth is swelled up and I hate taking pain medicine I take advil.
I don't know the signs and he might be getting more from work but how do I tell that he's snorting?
Everyone gets a runny nose so I can't use that against him.
I don't know what to do or how long he's been using.
When he went to the bathroom one night I new he had a pill but didn't say anything before he went he seemed so sick and his stomach was bothering him but after he took the pill he was fine.
He even lied about going to the bathroom actually using it.
So, I ask anyone who can help WHAT DO I DO?

[122 Tactical Fighter Group]

See if you can get him to read some of the journals on the health pages and even some of the posts/archive posts............... Your boyfriend is flirting with disaster........and thats he way it starts. The crushing the pill for effect is pure BS - its part of addictive thinking. And spiking blood levels for dose effect.

Kim gave you some fine advice...... it will be labor intensive, but you may be able to help him - - best of  luck in  your efforts.....use the forum as much as you need to ..

[Amanda_Eve]

Hi. I am an opiate addict myself, but before becoming one was in a 3 year relationship with a heroin addict. Having lived with, and being an addict myself can say that we are very good liars. My ex would steal my anxiety meds, money (even when I slept w/ my wallet under my pillow!) and would also steal from his mom and grandmother. It was a really hard and emotionally exhausting situation and I really feel for you. I have to agree w/ the poster who said that until he's ready to admit what he is doing then there's not much more you can do. I think the best thing you can do is to know that it isnt your fault and that making an addict stop using is entirely on the addicts shoulders. Good luck and best wishes,
Amanda

[kim715]

I remember your last post about this.I believe you said that when he went to the bathroom you could hear him snorting and then coughing.You're right,everyone gets a runny nose from time to time,but people who snort their pills seem to have a constant runny nose.I think someone else also mentioned that when he comes out of the bathroom his eyes may be watering and when he's sleeping and you look you may find some residue in and around his nostrils.I understand that some of these things are not solid proof,but accompanied with the noises you are hearing and more importantly your gut instinct,they're a good indication that he is snorting them.To that I will say,go with your gut,it rarely fails you.

As far as what you can do.You can call him on it.Let him know how you feel and what this is doing to your relationship.Unfortunately,until he's ready to admit to what he's doing and want help to quit,theres not much more you can do.Perhaps you can get him to come here just to read some of the posts,let him know where he's headed and what he stands to lose.Sadly if he's not ready that won't be enough either,but you just never know what that one thing is that is going to make him wake up and see that he has a problem.If you love him then you keep on him about it,but don't lose sight of yourself and your well being in all of this.First and foremost you take care of you.Even if that means to do so you need to walk away from this relationship for a while.Keep posting.All the best....Kim

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[merrymaria]

i would just come right out and ask him if he has a problem and does he need some help.  i never did snort pills but he could have cracked the pill in half and took it.  it sounds like he might be telling some fibs...and more importantly has a problem with them.  i hope you can help him...maria