i confronted her

So my friend just stormed out of my house and wont answer my phone calls.  I asked her if she trusted me enough to confide in me and she said yes.  I told her that i thought there was something we needed to talk about and she told me she didn't have much time and had to go.  So i just came out and said it.  I told her I knew about her taking the pills and that I wanted to help her.  She got extremely defensive and started saying things like, "how could i ever accuse her of such a horrid thing, and i'm her best friend, and that i'm so "messed up" for even thinking that way. etc etc...she started yelling and telling me she didn't want friends who could trust her and accused her of lying and stealing and stormed out of my house.......so now what?

[IBKleen]

Me thinks she protest to much....

I would have done the same thing that she did. That is familiar addictive behavior.

Since you are certain that it was her--maybe give it a few days and call her. Tell you that it is ok and you want to help her. See if she will open up to you. As you have heard, she has to want to get help. And, she has to be able to admit that she has a problem.

Good Luck. Let us know how you make out.

P.S. You can post your answer right here, you don't have to start a new post. It is often less confusing that way.

Take care.

[road2recovery]

There is your answer...WE lie, we steal, etc etc....The problem is she is not going to stop unless she wants...
Since you tested her the second time and know IT is her, let her think about this for a while..I am really sorry, but i promise you, it has nothing to do with YOU...I know she loves and adores you, it is her addiction talking not her..
I hope she takes your help and tried to stop before it gets worst...My guess is if she is stealing them she is at the end of her road......God bless and know you DID NOTHING wrong....It would just really suck if you are in pain and you don't have any.......
good luck
r2r

[Stacy79]

I agree with IBKleen.  I would have done the same exact thing, and tried to hide as much as possible, even if I knew you knew I was the only one it could possibly be.  When you are chasing an addiction, it doesn't matter how you get the pills, and I've stolen from friends (sadly) many times.  I would give her time to think about it, and i'm sure she values your friendship enough to speak to you again.  But when she does, if she tries to talk about other things, tell her you aren't going to talk to her unless it's about what happened.  Make sure she understands that you aren't really mad, just worried, and that you want to help her.  If she ignores you, I would leave her a message, either on the phone, or a text, or a note, every few days that says you aren't giving up on her.

[Stacy79]

I must have been writing my comment as you posted yours.  Didn't want you to feel left out: I agree with road2recovery too :)

[howcouldshe]

well she finally answered her phone...she's on her way over.  She sounds like she's a mess and she's at the end of her rope.....i'll let you all know what happens after she leaves....thank you so much for your help.......

[troubleinohio]

im so glad to hear she is going to talk to you. This may finally be her rock bottom and she may be willing to quit now. Be there for her.