kicked my son out on the street

[islandcat]

I'm new here. I am going through tough times with my 23 yr old son. He was jobless and took him in. He is addicted to oxy, percs and pretty much any type of pill. Did not know this.  He has good days where not sure he is taking anything as he will never admit to it. Then days on end where he is high and abusive to me. Then the days on end when he sleeps for 4 or 5 days straight, detoxing I guess. I have talked to drug counsellors to understand these drugs better. I have done everything I can to help him but he wont even admit to his habit let alone help himself.  I find pills everywhere and worry about my granddaughter finding them. Last nite did me in when I found out he had stolen from a friend, obviously to get money for more pills. I hate myself, it hurts so much to shut the door on him but I cant live like this anymore and am probably responsible for enabling by giving him a bed and food. It doesnt help that I have already lost a child and am always waiting for the call that he has overdosed again. Has anyone else been through this? Not sure this is where to post this but need to understand what is happening with him and these drugs.  I have to be strong because I know the phone calls and his tears to come home will start but cannot trust anything he says anymore.  Any advice would be very welcome.  

[skwerllee]

I stumbled across this forum because I just kicked out my adult son. He is not a drug addict. He is, however, addicted to the Internet. I know that sounds silly to some people. He has problems with depression and anxiety, and I have seen him drink often enough that I think if he had more money (any money), he would become an alcoholic, but the Internet is a convenient way to avoid life and escape without spending extra funds.

Anyhow, I just wanted to say that I agree with Yaya1212. Every word. I cannot take the stress of living with a grown person who never lifts a finger, doesn't work, doesn't go to school, and won't take his meds or make his Dr. appts.

[DoingTheBestWithWhatIKnow]

Wow!  I know that must have been difficult, but good for you for taking care of yourself.  

[BuddhaBlessMe]

Yes I told our son not to come home.  That I had no interest in anything he had to say unless it was "I'm going to treatment".  After he overdosed on heroin in my home and I happened to hear him fall.  I called 911 and began CPR.  By the Grace of God, he 'chose' to OD in my home, when I was awake, when I could hear him fall, when I could call 911, when I could try and revive him... IF it was 2 minutes later, IF he had done this in his car, IF the kids in our neighborhood weren't dropping like flies... IF I hadn't said PLEASE GIVE HIM NARCAN.... I think he might have done HEROIN...

Things might have been very different.  I thank GOD I had the chance to kick him out when he said - I am fine.  I don't need rehab. I only did this once.  I don't know why I did it....

I snapped.

That was 3 weeks ago.  That image flashes in front of my face EVERYDAY.  Him lying unconscious... blue lips his neck turning blue.  This was MY turning point.  MY wakeup call.

Things will be very different in my home.

I do not know where he sleeps.  Where he works.  What he does.  If he is alive.  I am grateful God woke me up and I pray everyday God wakes my son up and he takes his chance again at life.

Like I am.

God Bless us all....

[katie91157]

We kicked our 28 year old son out of our home tonight. I hope I did the right thing. I really can relate to your pain! Maybe we can help each other through this. Please reply....

[katie91157]

I have read your post and I seem to be able to relate to you the most! Tonight, I kicked ny 28 year old son out of our home tonight. He has been kiving with us for over 3 years. He works in the summer doing lawn work and I think he still is working but he lies so much, who knows. In the last three years he has ran up our credit card twice, at least 2300. He's pond my husbands jewelry,sterio, 2 tv's, dvds, several bar signs,anything we had of value, always saying he'll get them out when he gets money. He smoked spice for years but said he was off it. Tonight we had it out because he pond our lawn mower and other things. Tonight I told him to leave and he said no.I told him you don'y leave, I'm calling the police, he said go ahead and when he heard me he went crazy , calling me every name in the book. He said, he hated me, he hopes I die tonight, he hopes chock and die. He called me a fat bit.. and cun. He got in my face, I thought he was going to hit me. The police came and he left calmly with his dog. Later the police came back with the dog and Ryan, saying he's making arrangements but needs us to take the dog. We did. I feel so bad, I can't sleep. Please tell me I did the right thing. I really need to talk with someone who's been there. I noticed your post is an old one but I hope U will get this and respond. Thanks for listening!

[laurel453]

welcome here, dbdone.... there is a  great forum here  !living with an addict" that could help you and  give you support if you need it. All the best

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Addiction-Living-with-an-Addict/show/1176