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[Jester2005]

Hi everyone,

Some of you may remember me... my Hubby is an addict of percocets and we've been trying to get him to quit for what feels like forever now. I haven't been on here in months and regret it. I really like the support I get here.... I've come back to ask your opinion, advice, views, etc about a rehab centre. We've looked into one that's about a two-hour drive away (as there's nothing in our city) and wanted to know what to expect... I’m drawing a bank now. I suffer from BP myself and my concentration is very poor lately as I’ve put my own health aside to help him. I know now that this isn’t helping him, but we’re about an inch away from rock bottom at this point and we’re both trying to get better so we can move on with our lives. Anyways, for those of you who have been to a rehab centre, what’s it like? How did you deal with the “3 day detox” that he has to go through before being admitted to the rehab facility? He’s been given chlanazapam (sp?) and it’s like his miracle cure! I can’t believe how much better he is on it. It doesn’t turn him into the Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde he usually does. He does sleep a LOT, maybe too much, but he isn’t going through the major WDs he normally does. I guess what I really want to know is how do we prepare for this next step? And then when he comes home, what should I expect? What do I need to do to make his transition easier? I really want this to work, as does he, and I NEED to know how to make it work (from my point). I know this is his battle and I can only support him, but I want to know how to be of better to support to him. I want to know what to expect.

Thanks in advance,
Jester

[leeisgettingclean]

hey i just want to wish you much luck, sounds like you know what you two have to do.

[Jester2005]

thank you, lee... much appreciated  : )

[avisg]

I think he going to rehab with be the best for the both of you the worse his addiction gets the worse you bp will get and vice versa .
I am not aware of the drug they are giving him but I am betting its a benzo .Not only will he get clean the will teach him some tools to stay that way .
  Durning the time he is gone you have to take care of you get your BP under control .
also take the time to go to AL ANON meeting because things will change when he gets back and you both need to be prepared .

You both can do this I am proud of the both of you ..

avis

[Jester2005]

yes, clonazepam is a benzo of sorts... I do want to start going to NA for myself so I can have some in-person support as well... he's not ready to take that step yet, but I feel that if I go he may join me one night... at the least he has agreed to see a counsellor, but he doesn't want a sponsor... he says he wants nothing to remind him of this time in his life... he truly believes that once he's clean he'll never go back to using, that he can FORGET about it rather than DEAL with it, the struggles of temptation, on a daily basis... I don't want to push the idea too much in case it sends him off the wagon, but I don't want him to relapse to realize he needs after care...

any ideas on how I can convince him that after care is the way to go?


- thanks for your words of wisdom