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Well day 13 and guess what my marriage is over!! I thought it was just him being mad at me still since when I told him he said we would make it through this as long as I really wanted to stop. But I guess it hit him after, how ****** is this!! I can stay around and try to fix this but I can see where that is heading right back to the pills. Or I can try to figure out how to just forget that the only family I have besides my kids is gone. OH yea I have my dog to. I just thought he loved me, now I get it. Im to much trouble, should have never told him and just figured out how to stop on my own. GOD IM TO TIRED OF LIFE TO EVER START OVER! dont post about killing my self thats not what I was talking about. Im just pissed off that this going on, and that I have to be an addicted at all. I hate this ****!!!
He only calls me that when we are fighting or I say something dont like. No not in front of them. I know that he has every right to mad at me, but in a healthy way, i know that kinda stupid. I am willing to take my part in this. I am the one with the issues and problem. But he should have never said we would make it through this if we were not. why wait till this far into it and be so nice to me up till yesterday. I CALL IT MALEOPAUSE! i love men no man hater, I say stuff about woman all the time as well.
even though "what goes around does come around", this should not be the rationalization one uses for WHY verbal and mental abuse is tolerated. Now, not saying that every story doesn't have two sides, but he should not be calling you names. Does he say it with a smile? is he joking? does he call you that name in front of your kids? I hope not. Men are weird... no ofense to the men on the board- just a very vague generalization... but that men are weird is the only reason I can conjecture for WHY he is now being nice... maybe he say you typing on the computer and started to realize that you had other people to talk with and didn't NEED him; but now wants to make sure that you still WANT him...
huhhhh.. now he is being nice to me. i wish i could him some hormones maybe it would help with maleopause. I know I have put us through so much I am in no way trying to say I am a great person really i am not. I just know I am trying to get it right, and you would think he would want me to. and if he calls me a pill head one more time... I am going to hurt him. I dont call him a drive through even though he is a little over weight b/c it would hurt his feeling. i am not asking for anything i am not willing to give back. I did tell him before we married (right after we meet i told him of my past and my issues with drugs). so does any one else ever just think f&*^% this is not how life was suppose to be. i know i brought this on i do know that. im just ready for that time in my life that i have the other half of me that loves me know matter what. maybe its true what goes around comes around cause i have done some ****** things to guys before i remarried.
Oh sweeite,
I just sent you a pm back ! Im here day or night ! Just hang in there and try to talk to him , maybe sitting down and telling him how you told him because you wanted to be clean and clean with him also , Im sure that this is overwhelming for him right now ! Remember that im here
Becca
I just sent you a pm back ! Im here day or night ! Just hang in there and try to talk to him , maybe sitting down and telling him how you told him because you wanted to be clean and clean with him also , Im sure that this is overwhelming for him right now ! Remember that im here
Becca
well he is not the one with the drug problem, i am. but i did come clean with the day i told myself this was going to end this. i went to him and told him everything... i mean everything. even my drug dealers name. i knew if i did not it could not work. but its not as easy to just a break from a marriage with everything that has to be done. you cant just walk off with kids and say well i need a break. or i cant.
maybe just take a step at a time. things are always changing. maybe this is what you both need to come clean. after could be another story.
something has to give, right??
i found that i couldn't quit while i was still seeing my boyfriend. so, i moved away and i quit!! about 11 or 12 days now i think. we are still in love and not sure what's gonna happen in the future. but at least i'm clean now and that's a start! Wish the best and keep headstrong.!
something has to give, right??
i found that i couldn't quit while i was still seeing my boyfriend. so, i moved away and i quit!! about 11 or 12 days now i think. we are still in love and not sure what's gonna happen in the future. but at least i'm clean now and that's a start! Wish the best and keep headstrong.!
well im not going to just walk out but I am not going to let him take this from me. I wanted to go to an aa meeting tonight and he had a fing fit. then when i stood my ground he said well i just did not understand that you had to go to one almost everyday! well fuuuu im only 13 days clean. I love him but the thing I feel in love with was he was so sweet to me well there goes that. maybe im just the kinda of person who cant be loved b/cs i have so many issues (drug past no family except my kids) I dont know Im just mad mad mad at myself and him. the one thing i can give him is he not the cause I had problems before we met, I just went back to a diff kind after we got married. but he does not understand anything about me, now i understand that. when we meet I thought (b/c i was told by him) he understud me and did not care about it. i guess everyone can change there mind. anyways im a strong person and ill get through this as well.
Fck that. if he's unhappy, tell him to find somewhere where he an get happy. you have every right to be there. if it's anything like my situation, HE'S part of the WHY you started abusing to begin with. he can't handle you sober, or you can't handle him sober... what's the point? I am saving making any major life changing decisions until I am sure wd's are not factoring into my decision. BUT if it comes down to the wire- if he starts- sh1t will hit the fan. i'm not even playing anymore- wasted too much of my life fcking around in this marriage, if it works, because he is my BEST FRIEND, MY ONLY FRIENDand is always very honest with me...but, if it doesn't work, it just doesn't work. people do grow apart, and that's ok. my health and children's mental health is more impt that trying to remain together just for the sake of it... lemme know.
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