my spouse is abusing pain meds

my spouse is abusing pain meds & I am the one suffering but feel guilty.

[Ella789]

Hi lonnie and welcome to the forum!!  We have several posts from people just like you who have loved ones who are addicted to pain meds.  I think I was pretty much addicted after 5 yrs of opiate use( prescription lortab ) I know the struggle it is to just come to the conclusion that I had to be clean and see just where my pain levels really were.  A person has to make that decision on their own, you can't do it for him only he can do it.  He must decide for himself.    You know addiction is an illness and the pain meds do not take a whole lot of use to become addicted to.  If your husband is in real pain, then that is a different story.  But if useing just to get high, then that;s another.  Read these posts and the ones on the other pages and see for yourself what a struggle it is to get clean.    He will have to want this more than he wants to use. More than anything he will need to commit to quit.  I do not know much more to tell you hon, except that you are not alone!  Please post again on this same page and tell us what he is taking and how much and for how long.  

Hugs
Ella

[snowflake620]

why are you feeling guilty? is your husband using to get high or is he in pain either way you say he is abusing and that is not good but you have nothing to feel guilty about he is the one with the problem and only he can fix it and he will only fix it if he really wants to no matter how bad you want it for him
snowflake

[Florida_Guy737]

ditto what snowflake said....you have no control over someone who is abusing, dependent or addicted to meds.  Stay strong for yourself because living with a person dependent on meds will require strength and commitment or a decision to change your living conditions.

Guy