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I JUSY RECENTLY FOUND OUT THAT MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN TAKING LORITABS AND SOBOXAN. AT FIRST HE TOLD ME THAT IT HAS ONLY BEENMONTH BUT OF COURSE THE PLOT THICKENED AND NOW IT APPROXIMATELY 6 MONTHS. I HAVE DEALT WITH SITUATIONS LIKE THIS WITH OTHER PEOPLE BUT I NEVER THOUGHT THAT IT WOULD BE MY OWN HUSBAND. I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ABOUT THIS.HIS ANSWER TO ME IS THAT HE DOESNT TAKE THEM EVERYDAY JUST "EVERY ONCE AND A WHILE". HE APPARENTLY GOT THE TABS SOMEONE AT WORK AND THE SOBOXAN HE  GOT FROM HIS BROTHER WHO IS A RECOVERING HEROIN ADDICT. I WANT TO HELP HIM BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO AND  I KNOW HOW BAD HIS PROBLEM REALLY IS. SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!!
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Hi I'm 20 years old so I am not very old but I have a lot of experience. What your husband has everyone has,just in different ways. And what may that be, you may ask. I will tell you. It is a constant escape from suffering do you understand? If you don't you can not help him because you must first find the root of this problem. How this problem entered into his life.Why he is suffering or what is he trying to escape from. Because he is trying to run from something. One thing I tell you is that you must be very patient with him but mostly with yourself because if you give up he will DIE! And I state it very bluntly because that is the reality. You are dealing with a very delicate situation which means that it must be managed very carefully. Because you are touching and dealing with a very dangerous theme, which is his addiction but mostly his inability to see the problem and most important to acknowlege it. You have to see that he is not in the right state of mind, that he does not think rationally. No addict does. If you love him help him which means show him that he is important to you and that you love him which means you will probably suffer more then he will and let him see how important you are to him as well. Do not threaten him in anyway, especaily when you don't see any progress in him. Don't despair! Courage! First he has to realize that he has a problem. From what you have stated in your text, it does not give, for a minute a doubt in mind that he's is lying about how many time a day he takes them. And I know this because first he is taking them Illegally and if you still doubt that I am not sure of what I am saying the next time when you bring up the subject and he doesn't say a word. Look in his eyes the next time you talk to him about it. and you ask yourself, and you be the judge if what I am saying is just a lie. He crys when you talk about his problem which means he sees that he is guilty of lying. I tell you why he is crying because he is suffering but he doesn't see a way out,but weather he may believe it or not he is denying in his head that he has a problem and its not that he doesn't want to see the damage and suffering he is causing to himself and you but he can't because the drugs have taken control of his senses,resoningetc. and weather the drug fact may say on it that it causes denying or not an addict will live in denial be patient and don't give up. Its a fight I can picture it. Its not easy I know.
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1283286 tn?1312911966
Up at the top of the main forum page you will see "post a question"..This is an old thread..A couple years old..If you post a new question, people that might have advice for your situation will be more likely to see it and respond....
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my husband is legitamately subscribed pain meds and I am addicted to them.  How am I supposed to not want to take them while they are in the house 24/7????  I was on suboxone but if I tell the doc that they are in the house he'll want to call his doc and tell him.  Then, my husband, who needs he meds, might get cut off?  Is there anyone with this situation?  
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i think that i made a bit a progress with my husband yesterday...i hope.he came home from work and we talked for a little while...i take that back i talked. of course he started to cry because that seems to be the thing tht he uses to get me off of his back. i was very calm and cool and i told him that i want him to be honest with me but the only way that he can do that is that he has to be honest with himseslf. now from what i knew saturday night compared to what i know has made me feel a little better. yesterday he told me that he started taking tabs about 9 months ago. that he was getting them from someone at work.but the thing that is bothering me is the fact that i asked him how much he was taking and he told me that he wasnt taking them everyday.maybe 2 one day then nothing for 3 days to a week then he would take 2 more.the reason was that his back wasd hurting himso he took them for pain  but i asked him about the times when he wasnt in pain and he said it was just to get high.he keeps saying that he is in control  and that he doesnt have a problem but obviously if this has been going on for 9 months then there is a problem. i dont even know why he started taking the subs.those he was actually getting from his brother who is a heroin addict(trying to recover)
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I would have to agree with r2r. Lortabs and sub don't mix too well. Suboxone is used to ease the withdrawal symptoms off opiates. It has an ingredient that when combined with opioids will make you go into withdrawals, at least this is my understanding.
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first off, it is good that you came here, we can also offer you support because you will need it...
How did you find out??  I would think that he is not telling you the whole truth, that is what addict do..I am an addict, clean almost 5 months..
I would sit him down and tell him the only way you can help him is if you know the whole truth.
i knew someone who had sub's and lortabs...They only used the sub when they ran out of lortab to not get sick...that could be what he is doing...
I hope things work out ok for you, but first try to talk with him and find out what really is going on...Stay strong, and remember this is not your fault....
r2r
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401786 tn?1309152034
Read my comments "TO whoever wrote about being on the fentanyl/Duragesic patch" in answer to Troxy.  Then you might want to read it together.  At first when you mentioned the Suboxone, I thought he was already in treatment and you just were never informed.  Since this is not the case, and he's not taking the meds for their intended purposes, and really think it would be informative to him at the least to know that when he has trouble acquiring the meds. this is what he's going to go through.  I think trying to talk to him reasonably like about jobs and relationship trouble down the road will not work at all.  No one who is an addict and is not experiencing those problems will even consider those things laudible at this point.  Signs/symptoms from withdrawl will likely happen to him first.  I'm telling you right now, as a really, really strong person, that this caused me to wrestle with sanity and still does to just get through every moment of every day.  I actually was really upset on Saturday, day 7, when I didn't feel markedly better.  I thought surely then.  I also thought surely, I'll not be without any sleep at ALL by day 9, but here I am.  Obviously, my topic of thought to both of you is not the only reason to help him, but it may be a start that he'll consider, even if he blows you off initially.  He'll privately be thinking about what I wrote for sure, because nothing does go on forever, and he knows there'll be a day when he won't use (whether because he decided to stop on his own, or a problem arose).  He'll have to face this and the point of mentioning it now is that the sooner he stops, the less severe and prolonged his s/s will be.  I happen to be a nurse as well, so I'd be happy to help if you need it in any way.
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I WOULD HOPE THAT HE WOULD TELL ME THE TRUTH  AND HE TOLD ME OUTRIGHT THAT HES TAKING SUB FOR THE BUZZ. I AM WORRIED SICK. THIS HAPPENED SATURDAY NIGHT AND I ALREADY FEEL LIKE IVE BEEN PUT THRUOGH THE RINGER. I KNOW THAT THIS IS NOT ABOUT ME BUT I NEED TO BE ABLE TO HELP HIM. I HAVE BEEN IN THIS SITUATION BEFORE WITH OTHER PEOPLE. BUT EVEN THEN I  DIDINT KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT SO I WOULD JUST NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH THAT PERSON ANYMORE I DIDNT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THE PROBLEM. I CANT DO THAT NOW THIS IS MY HUSBAND.I HAVE BEEN TRYING VERY HARD TO KEEP A LEVEL HEAD ABOUT THIS.I MYSELF HAVE SOME ISSUES... I JUST RECENENTLY WAS DIAGNOSED WITH DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY AND I AM FINALLY TAKING A MEDICATION THAT WORKS FOR ME AND I CAN ALREADY FEEL MYSELF SLIPPING... IM LOSING MY PERK...AND I NEED TO BE THERE FOR HIM. PLEASE HELP!!!!
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will he tell you the truth? The whole truth? Does he uses sub for the buzz? He is lucky to have a caring wife. The room is slow Im sure others will be of better help. teach
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