now I AM GETTING SCARED

OKAY.....MY HUSBANDS ADDICTON HAD GOTTEN TO THE POINT OF i AM TIRED OF WAITING FOR HIM TO CHANGE OR TRY TO STAY CLEAN.....i AM NOT AN ADDICT BUT DOES HE EVEN REALLY WANT TO STOP??? HE HAS FALLEN ASLEEP WITH CIGARETTES AND i HAVE TWO CHILDREN IN MY HOME.....HE LOVES THESE KIDS AND WOULD NEVER HURT THEM.....BUT I THINK HE IS MIXING HIS PILLS. HYDROCODONE, VALUIM AND CYMBALTA AT TIMES. ONLY AT NITE HE WILL SLUR HIS SPEECH AND NOD OFF WITH A CIGARETTE..............HE CAN KILL US ALL............................................WHAT IF i WASNT AWAKE AND GOT THE CIG OUT OF HIS HAND????? WHAT IF WHAT IF WHAT IF????? i LOVE HIM SOOOOO MUCH BUT NOW ITS A DIFFERENT BALL GAME CUZ HE WONT GO BACK TO TREATMENT..................HE KNOWS HOW HE IS HURTING US AND HIS ADDICTON IS RIPPING OUR FAMILY APART...........IS THERE EVER A MINUTE OF THE DAY THAT HE GETS THAT???????????????????

[GoingToMakeIt]

You can't make him change. You need to make a decision fo your own safety. Let him know that this is not acceptable. Go to counselors. Get some help. Behavior like that won't get better and will probably get worse. Please, get some help. Others will chime in with their input too. Good luck. I am sorry this is happening to you and the kids.

[flmagi]

I'm sure there are a few minutes of the day where he does get that, but then the addiction jumps in and graps him by the balls to get his mind away from that. You are up against a very powerful enemy,not your husband, its the drugs. The drugs have your husband held hostage.
To try to explain addiction and the cravings we get, imagine someone covering your nose and mouth with their hand. Imagine the desperation and panic you would feel to get a breath. Realize that you would do anything for that breath of air. Your going to die if you don't.  This is what addiction is like.
But you need to take care of you and your kids. You must be safe. This is your first priorty. You cannot live with this kind of fear. Your husband may need to hit rock bottom before he wakes up and decides to fight this demon.
This is such a hard situation, especially when you love him so much. Would he be willing to get on this forum and do some reading, maybe talk with us some?

[liscamdave]

No, he does not get that he could hurt his family. My husband used to do the same thing. He would mix xanax with oxy contin and he would literally fall asleep in the middle of talking to me. He would just dip out...and it was horrible. I hated seeing him like that. But he didn't see it. He didn't realize hoe bad he was. I didn't either. We were both addicts not seeing what the pills were doing to our lives, and I eventually lost him to the pills in July of 05. So, to answer your question, no...he doesn't know what he is doing.. All you can do... it be there for him. Help him and love him. I hope and pray you get through this....

Luck to your family

[ChronicCaroline]

I know how you feel...this may scare you but this is my story of years of trying to save an addict that I knew deep down she was gonna die. I share my story to let people know how SERIOUS this is.
My mom was a like that about two months before she died in her sleep from the same type of combo. What took her life was some doctor prescribed her METHADONE for pain management...she lasted two weeks before the toxicity of all the meds was to much of a deadly cocktail. My mom died while napping one evening, she never woke up to my dad telling her dinner was ready. She had been dead for two hours. My best friend, my everything, my two chidrens grandma that shared equivalent love for eachother, is dead. My moms addiction began with heroin thirty years ago, I never thought someone could be worse mentally and physically on prescribed drugs. She was addicted to everything she touched, but pills and immense amounts of alcohol were all she did for the last five years. The falling asleep while smoking, I know that all to well she would stay awake on all that sleep medicine and pain killers, I can't tell you the 100 billion holes in the carpet, recliner, pajamas ect. It was terrifying.

You have to confront him respectfully and let him know this could be him. I will prey for you.

Have your husband read this!!!!! He doesn't have to take methadone to end up this way.

[tasha44]

My husband and I have been married for almost 25 years (may). But for the last 11 years I have been dealing with his addition to pills. We do not smoke in our house. But when I got home one night from work, I found him talking about things I had no idea what he was talking about. He got on the computer and was deleting all the programs. And when I walked over to the computer I looked down and saw ashes on my wood floor. When I looked closer I found a burnt out cigarette butt and a burn mark in my floor. My husband was going into kidney failure and I didn't know. He was in the hospital for a week that time. Due to the pills. He has detoxed many times, been in 4 different programs, and has had seizures, kidney failure twice. Oh, he has also lost his hearing, due to the pills. I watched him many nights fall asleep on the couch with food in his hands and practically fall asleep at the kitchen table eating dinner. I have pleaded, yelled, cryed, been to meetings, nothing had helped him. In December I found out that he had stolen RX pads from a doctor and was signing the doctors name. The doctor did not press charges (as far as I know) But that was the last straw for me. I made my husband leave the house. I can understand how scared you are or even the anger of him not getting clean. But the only way he is going to do it is "WANTING IT HIMSELF". Nobody is going to make him do it. Not you or your children. We just had a grandson in August and he was doped up on the pills at the hospital. I stood by him for many years trying to be supportive of his treatments and his meetings. But I just can't do it anymore. I am so sorry that you are going through this. But you have to put yourself and your children first. You have to do what is right  for you!! And you husband is going to do what he wants to do. Be strong...And hold your faith tight...It will be okay.

[oxyaddict420]

My dealer of pills takes oxycontin, soma, valium, and a bunch of other meds all mixed togather and lives alone.. But 1 month ago he was in his room and nodded off while smoking his cigerette, and the ash fell onto his lap were there was something that was flamable and it caught him on firea long with his bed.. He ran to get his fire extinguisher and it was empty!  Well long story short.. He got badly burnt and his entire bedroom and kitchen were entirly up in flames before the fire dept. could get it under control.

He is now still in the hospital with major burns and has lost everything(priceless photos, and much more) from nodding off from being addicted to painkillers. This is just one true story of one drug addict.  Imagine if that was your home! Imagine if that happened to you!

You need to get some professional help in my opinion for your husband. Maybe even go to cousnling togather to have a dafe enviorment to share your true feelings of this matter.. in other words DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO MAKE SURE THOSE KIDS AND YOURDELF ARE SAFE!

god bless and good luck-- please keep us posted on how things turn out..