please help someone tell me what the right thing to do

[no1beeze916]

I am 31and my mom 48 she is a diabetes really bad now all my life she been on drug and off she lost her baby my sister she die in her crib ,,,so never got over that and it started from there ,well i got my own family and life it's so hard on me i want to walk away because i don't want to find her dead she has too take shot all day and using meth and her mood are all way up and down it jail again or prison and the worst of all gone ,what can i do too help her this is killing me in side every day and i got to worry about my life and kids and put on a smile but i am tired and i am worried if i give up i well regret it for the rest of my life ,i gave up on my brother and he in prison for life i all way worry about every one but me

[msdelight]

I'm here everyday so no rush ok. Anytime you feel a need to vent or ask a question just go to my page by clicking my profile picture and then click leave a message. I'll be here for you. Thanks for your condolences love. Its not your fault, hang in there.  MsD xo

[no1beeze916]

Is that a place i look up on line ill take her *** there and make her stay she needs help or i cant let her bring me down she need help or u cant do this no more thanks so much for your time

[no1beeze916]

Thank you i would like that it is nice for you too take the time to talk to me  sorry about your mom i know how hard it is to watch it ,,i would like to ask you some questions but don't have time to get in to it but thank you so much

[EvolverU]

Hi there & Welcome :)

I'm so glad you posted & want you to know that this is YOUR place. It sounds like you might have been in care-taking mode for much of your life & caught in between. The frustration of watching someone you love in the ever-plummeting spiral of addiction is a special kind of pain. As msdelight said, love her but protect & focus primarily on yourself & family.

So, is she open to counseling? Therapy? AA/NA? It sounds like maybe she's got some grief to digest which she's been masking with drugs & booze. Is there any way you can get her to the site for initial support & so that she can see it can be done?

We're here & pulling for you both :)

[msdelight]

Sweetheart I so understand. I just watched my mother kill herself with alcohol over the last 5 years. She passed away 6 weeks ago. I want you to know this is not your fault. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them drink.  Provide love and supportive care, but concentrate on you and your family.  Please pm me and we can talk if you want. Don't let her drag you down baby ok. Warmly,  MsD

[no1beeze916]

Yes shes ready but she can't do it bye her self and she keeps trying and then she uses and say she cutting down in June she gos on ankle bracelet so she dont have a chose but she won let someone help her thank for your help

[liliansdream]

Don't give up on her....my daughter is the only one who did not give up on me.

I know you have your own life, and children to look after.. ?Don'd neglect them or yourself.. Addiction is a huge issue in our culture.. She lost a child, that is huge.   Does she ever express a desire to stop?  There is not much you can do until she does in the way of real practical help, but let her know what this is doing to you...

I don't know if this helps but it may help you to come here so you can learn what she is facing re having the disease of addiction.  It is not easy and no easy answers.  

All the best
liliansdream