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186166 tn?1385259382

"times like these"...

it's times like these i wish "I" had a pill...what am i talking about?  i do have pills...a whole bottle of hydrocodone...minus a couple.  why do i have to be the "strong" one?  why can't i just do like so many others and just hide all my problems in a bottle?  wish there was a magic pill for me...

sorry to vent but i am so hurt right now.  my mom just called me to say my brother and his family would not be coming (for the first time)to her house for easter.  apparently they are "afraid" of my son.  WHAT?  WERE THEY ALL PLANNING ON HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX WITH HIM OR SOMETHING?  my feelings are hurt and i know how christian is going to feel when he finds out.

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186166 tn?1385259382
i want to just call my brother and say "F**K YOU" you ignorant S.O.B.  

tell me why i should reach out to him?  it seems to me that he should reach out to me...his sister...and show a little compassion for what we are going through.  this is not happening to him...it is happening to us...F**K HIM!!!!!

kim  
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It is so sad that your brother is not educated in AIDS and I am so sorry that he hurt you. I hope in time he becomes informed and will regret his Easter absence. I know it is easy for me to say, but please try to enjoy this Easter with Christian and the rest of your family. I wish you well and you are in my prayers.

Happy Easter

Mariyah
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I know what you're saying, and it is one of the terrible things connected with this illness that people get uneasy around persons with HIV because of sheer ignorance and stupidity (as if you don't have enough problems as it is). Everyone should know by now that you don't just "catch" HIV and - as you say - they would have to have unprotected sex with your son in order to get HIV (couldn't help smiling even though it certainly isn't funny for you) - it is just so ignorant and stupid that it is actually embarrasing. But I just think that if you otherwise have a good relationship with your brother, you really ought to call him and talk to him about it, it is fear and ignorance that makes him react this way, and family is very important, especially right now in your situation, you need support (which he ought to be thinking himself!!!) and not problems in your family right now.

But having said this I can certainly understand that you are pissed off, it really is unbelievable. Still, I hope you get the problems sorted out soon.

Minnie
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I really feel for you that is horrible did you tell him he needs to educate himself that the most ignorant thing I ever heard.  He must have no education or emotional intelligence at all. that disease should not be misunderstood in this day and age I have lots of friends with it and they are doing great.  it a cause close to my heart I 'd like to straighten your bro out for you. geez  what a jerk sorry I can't beleive people are so unfeeling and ignorant . My hearty with you I know we don't converse but I read your posts all the time I think about you a lot.  easter is about love your brother is going to miss out he might come arounf after he does some reading on the subject.
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186166 tn?1385259382
you all are so sweet AND understanding...wish my brother was.

i can be extremely stubborn at times...well most of the time...especially when it comes to my kids.  sorry, but i will not reach out to him...turning his back on christian and i is something that he is going to have to live with...i can make it without him...

huggs,
kim

p.s.  hope your easter is happier than mine...
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Hi Lizzie!Sorry you are upset.Enjoy your family anyway with or without your bro!I think you should ask your bro if a smallpox outbreak ever happens and he cought it would he want everyone to shun him?I don't think so.But dont take it too hard i have ignorant peeps on my family too.They say blood is thicker than water but i wonder sometimes.Happy Easter......Bruce
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I would call my brother and try to change his mind before I would tell my son of his ignorance. Your son is going through enough, and doesn't need unnecessary added pain.

That is why you should reach out to your brother. Try to stay calm, and explain to him that there is no danger to him and his family, and try to get him to see the pain he is causing/would cause if he cut your son out of his life.

It's worth a try, before you tell your son what's going on...

And congratulations on not giving in and taking a pill or two. That is amazing strength, not many would be able to pull that off at a time like this...holidays with a dysfunctional family are h.e.l.l. Trust me, I know.
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186166 tn?1385259382
i would NEVER tell my son that...he will figure it out for himself with their absence.
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Is it possible to say your brother's children have the flu and he does not want to make Christian sick because of his immune system? If everyone could agree to that excuse (family) then Christian will not have to know. I would hate for him to have to figure it out tomorrow. If this could be casually mentioned to Christian today, it would be more comfortable for all. Just an idea.

God Bless,
Mariyah  
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omg that's terrible... We have a friend that lives next to my motherinlaw and he has HIV... we kiss and hug him.  He's been great to our family.  He has a heart of gold.  You can't get it by being near him, much less by hugging and kissing him.  That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard of people not coming over because of that reason.  He definitely needs to read up on it.  This friend of ours is the sweetest caringest man and I could never even think of living without him.  My thoughts are with you and your son today sweetie!!  luvs ya lots, Lil.
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186166 tn?1385259382
i've already got a story...just going to tell him that they went to my sister-in-law's mom's house for easter...of course he doesn't know that she and her mother haven't spoken in years (does that tell you anything?)

i'm going to his apartment in a few and i'm going to go ahead and start talking about easter and all and mention it then.

thanx,
kim
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Hi

Just read the comment about the ignoprant family member and as sad as it is - sometimes our family hurts us more than people we don't even know.  All I can say is pray for him and let God handle the rest.  It is hard I know--I am a daughter of a minister and alot of people in my family are so religous they don't see the reality of alot of things going on around them and SO JUDGEMENTAL!!!!!  I know I have created the majority of the issues with my family but also always had an excuse for everyone else to act like nuts and condoned their behavior even if it hurt me.  So all of that to say I will be praying for you and hope he will open his eyes and ears to see and hear the truth about HIV and any other issues he may have.  I know you were the first to respond to me so nicely and accepted me regardless as to my "issues" and I thank you for that in the midst of your own problems.  I have a scripture for your brother but I have to find the exact location in the bible.  I know it is in Romans and also know sometimes when you are going through you do not want to hear ascriptures and such so just let me know if you want me to find it - try and enjoy your wknd in spite of any foolishness, ok?
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