will I ever trust again

My son was/is using opiates. He told us..his parents. How will I ever trust again or let him out of my sight? He is 19 and I can't keep him under my wing 24/7. He regrets telling us.

[catmagnet]

He took a chance telling you, remember back when we were kids and we were terrified of telling our parents stuff. I think you should encourage him in the right direction, but since he is a young adult, he will have to make up his own mind. I'm sure all of us have done things to shock our parents, in time the trust will return, just don't let it be one-sided. Trust is a two-way street.GL...cat...;)

[SmartYetStupid]

Don't make him regret telling you.  He's asking for help.  Give it to him. Love him and encourage him just like you would through anything else.  He needs you now.  You should be there for him. Addicts like us need all the help we can get.

[ronny3]

yes he is asking for help....dont not trust him, i needed my parents support at that age and if your on top of him with everything it will make things worse...please support him, when your young you make mistake that you sometimes regret...maybe hes just asking for help and believe me its really hard to tell your parents something like that at that age, remember that...

[newmanagment]

Trust is something that is earned , not just given. Sure, he fessed up to a problem, n as his folks ya gotta have unconditional love and support him thru it. but as a 19 year old MAN, he also needs to realize where his life is heading while using, and that it is totally on HIM to quit using. you cannot make him quit by babysittin him all the time, or by threatining him. Only he can make up his mind to no longer live life addicted. I become addicted at a young age, and stayed addicted for alot of years because it steady became harder to quit. so he has to kick it now , and you need to help him by not enabling in any way, and letting him be responsible for his actions and their consequences.
best of luck to you and your son, and this forum is always here with different opinions and views, but all of our goals is to make it easier for addicts and their families!

[B33]

I'm sorry that this has hurt YOU and your trust in him.....sorry to be harsh but your son took a HUGE step that I, at 33, could NOT tell my mother...I was very ashamed and embarrased and didn't have the COURAGE your son has....
I'm sorry to sound blunt in a way because YOU are gonna have to GET OVER IT!!! Your son is the one with the problem and evidentally he really trusts you or needs you and is asking for help!! You have the power of what to do...he did NOT do this to YOU-he did it to himself...and only himself....
I know trust has to be earned and it will be but if you want HIS trust (evidentally it is important to him) you have to be there for him and slowly work on getting to the point you were at with him before. It will not be overnight but PLEASE try!!!! He needs you and he is very courageous for telling you!!!!

[bluespence]

This is a tough situation, but like everyone said, you can't watch him 24/7 and if you try too you will just push him away. Technically he is an adult (now we all know at 19 he knows nothing) but he is not an 8 year old child who has to listen to what you tell him. He felt comfortable enough to tell you and he needs help and support, not judgement and mistrust. You just need to love him and be there for him...I hope you can do that otherwise you will lose him! Good luck!