without significant other

Is anyone else out there trying to do this without a significant other?  I do not know if it would amke it harder or easier..I am alone trying to do this with recovered people's elp and a friend who is also trying to quit...sometimes i feel as if i would have more support if i had a partner in life

[exhostage]

actually, you might be in a really good position to figure everything out, without all the hassles inherent in a relationship. i see on here alot of people are dealing with a partner that does not understand etc...sounds like you have a great support system.

[broknbck]

Everyone is different. I found that I couldn't do it with my boyfriend. I had to get away from him. He doesn't take drugs or anything. To me, it was just too demanding to be in a relationship at the time. He was very understanding but I did better on my own. This really is all about you right now. Friends are immeasurable now and people who know what you are going through.

[VicUser]

Read several of the post in the past week, you will find that the feelings and support of a "significant other" can go either way. Some seem to have great moral and physical help and others have had their mate walk out or be very mean. I think that the people on this site are very understanding and very supportive of those that really want to stop using.

[IBKleen]

You are not alone. You have everyone here to help. If you want more support..which I suggest..go to an NA meeting. You will find a lot of support there also.

Please be careful trying to get through this along with a friend who is trying to quit. that is a dangerous situation seeing that you are not in a controlled environment.

[jessejames31]

absolutely hate doing this alone, but on the other hand, cannot contribute anything to a relationship while doing this.. guess i didn't really help did i..?    sorry

[addicted2itall]

im in a messed up situation, ive been wondering the same thing.  my husband is addicted to pills just as i am, but i have moved out of his house temporarily. he is trying to quit too.  i dont know if either of us will have more success if we are apart to detox or if we try it together.  hmm....

[road2recovery]

For me, i did it while hubby was at work for 2 weeks..He knew and would of helped, but i wanted to be alone, and had so many to talk to on the forum...I guess , i knew he would not understand, and i didn't want him to see me that way...Plus he would of wanted to talk, and that was the last thing i wanted to do...And also i didn't want to keep him up all night...everyone is different..
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[ohisleguy]

Yes....I am going through it now, alone, and have been through it too many times...alone....i think just having a partner to share anything with....even this....would enrich one's life. One thing though....you have plenty of time for reflection when you are alone. Be strong and hang tough....find support here, and anywhere else you can!

[desperate1111]

i quit ct with no one except the people and readings on this site. its been 22 days.  i feel great and the energy is coming back.

[FAITHFUL74]

You will be fine... I told my husband and now when he gets really mad at me he calls me a pill head. Even though I've been clean for almost a month and did them for 7 months and nothing before that. Its a very ugly thing to say to someone who is trying to help themselves. You dont need anyone. What he didn't realize is that he made more angry and more determined than ever by saying such selfish things. Keep your chin up!!!

[toxictome]

I did this w/o a significant other.....it went very well...I am on day 5 clean...i was glad there was no one here when i was going thru w/d....I read on here for 2 days(had started my taper the day I started reading)...got all the things I might need from the Thomas recipe, then started posting and did it w/ the support of all these people on this forum. The only other people who know are my sis (and shes very supportive)and I started seeing my therapist again and told her.

Keep posting!!!!   GOOD LUCK!

[ruby441]

Not really, but my partner doesn't really want to listen or hear very much about my addiction. She ask as though she is totally not like me, after her only addiction has been to weed. She doesn't see it as being at all like my addiction to oxycodone.

[worried878]

I know that I do not even need to date right now...until I taper down and quit..and I am on day one of taper...hard....scared...a friend introduced me to a guy...I said hello but did not push it...I think that I can not get in a relationship right now....i do not want to hear the pill head comment..i want to tell my x-husband...but have not

[worried878]

I am going to NA tonite...went 3 times last week...helps

[IBKleen]

Excellent!!! Good for you.......

[worried878]

I am cutting my dose...dying for another right now...harder than i thought...gonna get back to work and get busy!