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There's an upside and downside to every mood altering drug. I would at least talk to my pharmacist before taking anything new. They will usually provide you with a printout of side effects. Incidentally, many people complain about sexual problems while taking AD's including me. It's frustrating! J.B.
I can relate to your loss of your best friend. My best friend of 28 years and I parted ways a couple years ago. I was devastated. What had happen is we both lived on the West coast. we were inseparatable all through junior high, high school and after. I moved to the East coast and although we didn't see each other all the time I flew out once a year for a few weeks. the distance didn't hinder our friendship. One year her and her husband flew out to visit and it was the trip from hell. She was way out of line. Obnoxious, fighting for the center of attention etc. anyhow, she ended up leaving two days early to go home. I was so upset and felt I failed as a hostess. Later I found out she was abusing pain pills plus a lot of other issues. It has been a few years and we have just started talking. it is hard to repair a friendship 3,000 miles away via telephone. I also had a very dear friend here where I live whom I have parted ways with. This has also caused me a lot of grief. But the thing I have learned is...sometimes these friends are gone forever. Sometimes they return. Sometimes we find the relationship might not ever be the same but with new boundaries and guideline there can someday be a relationship. Either way it is very painful. And I guess that is how you weigh their importance while in your life by the void it leaves when the relationship has split. I also found this one more reason to numb myself with pills. I know it is a great loss. My heart goes out to you.
Shea
and then i'll be dammed, (some) just resurface!it has a spooky
effect sometimes, like my past (i have way to much oast) starts
breaking in to the present.
only 1 of the people i started out in heavy drug use is still
alive. when i was living in so. mpls we used to sit in the kit-
chen all night and get loaded on what ever was at hand(usually
black tar H and/or methadrine). grouch, my friend would drink
several pints of cabin still (stab and kill) whiskey. he would
also lick the residue out of the cooker spoon if you let him.
many nights he would put a beter buzz on his head than i could!
i did a midnight move out of mpls. yup just threw a blanket on
the floor, toss anything you wanted to keep, pickup all four
corners and start bookin'. see my house and the one on either
side was under survalance, but thats another story.
the next time i saw grouch was at the Minnesota regional AA
blow out. I'd been clean about a year and to my amazement he
had a year and a half clean. a new friendship started. after
a little bit of what ever happened to who, i learned that an
old shooting buddy was livining in the house i left so quickly
years before. i also learned this person was really in a struggle
trying to get clean. OF COURSE I HAD TO HELP. when i arrived at
his place he was just in the process of fixxing. it was awful
i sat and watched when i should have just walked out. when
he was done, i set about the task of really jumpping him
emotionally. i said things i will never forgive myself for say-
ing! i went back the next day to make amends for my behaivor.
the door to his house was slightly open, but no responce to a
nock. i went into the front room to find him all blue and quite
dead. his ty still around his arm and his rig still in his arm.
i had never seen an OD when i was clean! words fall short of
saying what i felt to this very day. i dialed 911 on his phone
and split. i know he put the dope in his arm that killed him,
but i wish i had not been so judgemental and program-pushy!!
maybe things would have been different if i'ld practiced a little
more humility and acceptance!
i'm still in touch with Grouch. he stayed sober 13 years, got
devorced from his wife and started using again. i see him several
times a year- he is usually wasted. although this is painful
for me, i believe i can help him more if i first respect our
friendship and never preach or cut off from him!
i've never told anyone about this....i hope i didn't bore anyone
telling it. Life is short, even shorter for a junky. the worst
hunk of drug using sludge, deserves to be treated with kindness
and repect that a "normal" person takes for granted.
Grouch: if you read this call me!
keep an angel on your shoulder
kip
You certainly have been there and back and then some!!!
I respect your strength, you're an amazing person, and don't you ever let anyone tell you different!!!!
I have my angel sitting there on my shoulder through the good times and the bad!!! Never hurts to have one closeby! :)
Lv Jenny
I'm sorry you are feeling so poorly these days with your treatment.
I've been way too busy, not getting nearly enough time to spend with all of my 'forum friends'!! Never forget how truly special you are, and if you do forget for some reason, there will always be someone on this board to remind you!!! :)
Take care, and i hope you feel better soon!!!!
((HUGS)) from a friend!
Lv Jenny
I'm sorry you are feeling so hurt and sad about loosing your friend.
I too went through this a while back. My best friend, growing up, and I had a falling out. She had moved down to Florida because she liked it here, with her new boyfriend. They ended up getting married, but her was a bad alcoholic. We just didn't have a whole lot in common anymore, and didn't really see eachother too often. (this has a good ending so hang in there). Anyway, they had a baby, and then she became pregnant again. During her second pregnancy, they decided to separate and then divorce. Well my friend had her husband's parents there to help them with ANYTHING, but she refused there help because she wanted to be controlling, and didn't want them to enjoy her 1st daughter. So instead, whenever she needed help with anything, it was ME that she called. She even called me to pick her up a cake while she was pregnant because she didn't want to drive because she was getting very pregnant. She was taking complete advantage of me, and i drew the line and told her i couldn't do it. We ended our friendship. A year or two later, i had a call from a neighbor of my friends whom i used to work with. My friends husband had hanged himself in their garage. He had a driving accident while drunk and was due to get sentenced that day, but decided to kill himself instead.
I sent my friend a card and told her if she needed me to call.... what a stupid ass i was, i should have gone running as fast as i could and made sure i was there for her, i'll never forgive myself for that. She called me a few years later, i was 8-months pregnant with my (now almost 9-year old daughter), she brought her two girls over, and we never talked about our falling out, and we've been friends ever since.
She now lives in Jacksonville,FL and i live 250 miles south. I just saw her and her, now three girls, for the first time in almost 6-years during 4th of July. She was the one who urged me to get my husband into treatment. She told me no one should suffer like he was suffering. She's known both of us for a long long time. We talk all the time now, so you never know what will happened in the future. She is now going through a second divorce from a man (who is her 3rd child's father). He's a mess, a recovered alcoholic, drug user, but has a lot of mental problems. We went to high school with him back in NJ.
Anyway, maybe things will work out between you and your friend, maybe not right way, but in the near future!
Good luck Jules!
Lv Jenny
Jenny -- Bless your heart, it's my dad who's undergoing radiation & chemo right now. Fortunately he's halfway through, and they expect a complete recovery. Hope you're doing well! -- Little Milo
You are completely and totally out of line.
Get a life!!!!
to read, ever hear of Philip K ****? the movies "total recall" and "blade runner" were both based on stuff he'ld written.
blade runner was based on the novel "Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?" total recall was based on a short story by **** called "Memories For Sale." Philip k ****'s most important works were in a serries of novels: "radio Free albemuth," "valis" (vast active living intelegence system), "the devine invasion," and the "transmigration of timothy archer." Philip K **** was a SPEED freak. anyhow he wrote all these books in the 1960's. he sort of predicted the internet. while he was writing these 4 novels he was also in the process of becoming a born again christian. good reading- take the short cut and read radio free albemuth and then the devine ininvasion. This man's writing is delightfullt para-
noid. he also really nails the internet and where it is headed,
perhaps. gees, listen to me...
now about that dog! from what i know of you, a Pug would be a
very good match for you. i am owned by a Keeshound. this breed is
an excellent match for kip's personality. remember my suggestion?
you can either name the dog after me, or appoint me as it's God
Father!
well i hope i didn't put anyone to sleep!
keep an angel on your shoulder!
kip
wierd and boring...either that or incoherent! sorry to all who
tried to make sense of it.
need you all
kip
I remember taking a statistics class back in '83 or so -- we ran data on punchcards through a foreboding mainframe ... Then I worked on an old Honeywell OAS for a while in '87 & '88. Now I'm a Mac person, though I was surprised to see how similar my friend's Gateway with Windows was...I never would have imagined skipping around the Web like I'm doing now. I used to be very intimidated by computers, and now they've opened up this whole new world for me. "Pugs Not Drugs" -- Milo
will visit you... lets not talk about that othe machine-the devil's
******* box, and i don't do windows...except at work, where long
ago i sold my soul for cheap wine and job security.
in all seriousness, windows is almost as good a mac was 10 years
ago.
keep thinking, PUG, PUG, PUG.......... I'ld even bet if wiz were
here he would agree with me on the pug!
this forum not only saved my ass, gut i got some really neat people
to "bother" with my sometimes flawed thinking!
keep an angel on your shoulder!
kip
I know that Zyban and Wellbutrin are both used for depression and smoking cessation. These two drugs are generally used because
they DO Not cause sexual side effects compared to other anti- depressants such as prozac,zoloft,and paxil. But any drug can effect your libido or sex drive! I have red some instances where zyban has been prescribed to improve sexual relations. Take a look at other things, such as nutrition,exercise, and whether or not you are getting enough rest. All these things are important and essential for a healthy sexual interaction.
Best of Luck.
Danincc
Danielincc, do me a favor. One day, try to post a new question.
See how far you get. I have tried several times when I'm in need of support from my friends (and that doesn't mean from you) and it is impossible to post a new question. It's usually reached it's limit of new questions. The only time I've been able to post is around 3:00 am.
So I have no choice but to post under a thread. But if you notice, most of us do try to help the person with the original question. WE JUST CAN'T POST A NEW QUESTION. GOT IT?
Besides, if you notice when you post a comment in a thread it says
"Post a Comment
(Please do not post a new question here. This form is for patient-to-patient
COMMENTS only and is not monitored by the forum staff.)"
Sometimes we just like to talk and don't always need a dr. comment. So just how do you suggest we all talk amongst ourselves? Find another board? You'd probably just follow us there and raise some more hell. You've made enough enemies here. Why don't you lay low for awhile. If you are in the business of helping people....I feel sorry for the people you "help."
Maybe you don't understand the concept of us being friends and wanting to talk to each other. Do you even know what a friend is or how to be one?
you actually think your character is so free of defect that you
can call anyone on this forum rude? oh, i forgot your a substance
abuse professional councelor type. don't you have a client who's
program you can run? it wouls seem to me if your not busy you
could put your nose up your coucelor supervisor ***.
there is always room for one more addict who needs fellowship &
would maybe like to ask another addict's advice. i am of the
opinion however, we don't need no "top gun professional substance
abuse counselor!" anyone else have an opinion about this?
keep an angel on your shoulder!
kio