weed

[mariaahm]

Hi. My husband is weed addict. He says hes not but hes been smoking for years now. He promised he will stop but never does. I dont know how to help him. He reduced the amount but recentally he started to smoke more heavily. He complains about chest pain and he cant concentrae and he forgets things so easily. And he feels so low and very angry when he dont smoke. We expecting out first baby is july and he said he will stop by then but i doubt it. He never gives the reason for taking it but he wittned alot of violence between his parents. Since the age of 15 and he had anger problem but he calm down alot now. Is just the weed, hes only 20. And i know how much damage he caused himself already. Can you help me of ways i can help him stop but not get him angry or encourge him to do more.
Thank you

[mariaahm]

Congr.... wow..thats nicee... thank you so much.. ur advice gives me confidence of even workin harder towards helpin ma man. Good luck with ur pregnancy... i still got quiet a long way to go.

[hapiehayes]

If he's protective I think that's great. My husband is a lot like yours is. I'm 34 weeks pregnant with our 4 th child and he acts like I'm a piece of thin glass. Each pregnancy is the same he spoils me and makes me very comfortable. Your doing everything right by " standing by your man" being there for him is one thing he will never forget. Understand him and be patient. I don't think it's the weed that makes him protective, I feel that's love and his way of caring for you. Each relationship has a life of its own and comprising together will help it grow into something that can last forever.

[mariaahm]

Thank you for ur advice. I actually learned to not nag at him n understand him. I do stay night up with him n actually helped him to go bed to sleep. Hes over protective when it comes to me n he goes over the top. N when i say that i mean it, he gets very annoyed if i touch hes work cloth cuz they dirty is like the germs wud make me ill. Hes not like that wid anyone else. So it kinda worries me is it the weed or needs help in different ways.

[hapiehayes]

I myself smoked weed for 13 years heavily, probably more than snoop doggy dog . I got to the point by the time i was in my 30's i smoked a half ounce by myself every three days. Just like most I had to quit. The first three days were very hard for me emotionally. I was always wanting to toke. Literally take my word for this " all the nagging from people I love didn't mean anything to me at all" it took my own discipline and dedication to myself to stop. My tips to help you help him is to let him vent on you without judgement. Be understanding at all times. When he can't sleep at night stay up with him. Plan activities in places smoking can't happen. Reassure him when he gets past this it will all be after thought. This type of addiction is all in the brain. More or less its a selfish addiction, and being selfish is a hard habit to break. Good luck Hun I wish you the best, congrats on the new baby and I hope it all works out for the best.

[mariaahm]

Thank you

[Julia M Aharonov, DO]

You are very young and in a difficult situation.  Your husband is addicted and until he is ready to quit, you are quite helpless.  You can try to use the baby card, but he will use all his excuses - anxiety, anger, pain, etc. to explain to you and himself why it is necessary for him to smoke dope. You need to decide whether this is the right environment for you and your child. If he chooses to quit smoking, it is not so very simple, but entirely possible.
Up until relatively recently there was a general misconception in the medical community that there were no physical withdrawals from cannabis. However now we know that even though those symptoms are not life threatening, they do exist. They start usually  24 40 48 hours after cessation of use and last for up to two weeks. Most can be described as depressed mood and appetite and increase in anxiety and sleeplessness. He should try to stay active during the day, eat small healthy meals and stay  well hydrated. It will get better in a few weeks and he will be so proud of himself for doing this and so grateful to be done with it. Good luck to both of you.