How can i start to find my bio-parents

[james1393]

How should i begin to look for my bio-parents? At a loss on where to begin. I have medical questions and i would like to know if i have siblings. For the record i am fully prepared to walk away if i find them and they would not like a friendship, but would like some nessesary family medical history. Also the chance of them being together are a long shot so i would be on 2 different searches.
Any Suggestions?

[ZevasMom]

I would start with questions to your adoptive parents...

[sharonanne]

hello james i was put up for adopton when i was 3 months old and i think i might be able to help with a few sugestions first of all can you tell me where you live then i can do some look=ups for you and we can go from there. by the the way after many years searching i did find my birth mother it was truley wonderfull please get back to me thank-you and good-luck

[jtssteph]

After speaking with your parents to see if they may have any information on your birth parents, the next thing I would tell you to do is find out whether your adoption records are sealed. If they are, you can get a physician/psychiatrist to give a medical reason as to why you need to know your fmaily medical history. This will give you non-identifying information as to your biological parents.

As for them possibly rejecting you or not being thrilled with a reconciliation, I'll just give two completely different outcomes from when my brothers found their birth parents. My oldest brother was acceptive or her and she of him from the get go. He has 3 step brother/sisters and they vacation here and in California together. They have a great friendship.

My other brother was found by his birth mother. She called him on the phone and said, "Hello, this is your mother." Well, that didn't sit well with my brother, who basically told her to "F" off becuase you have never been my mother, and you will never get to have that priviledge again. He basically told her to get lost. I think alot of that stems from being hurt at being rejected at a baby, and then her ego in thinking they would just resume a mother/son relationship as htough nothing ever happened.

Good luck to youl. I hope that everything will go well and that you will be able to find what you are looking for.