re finding birthparents

I am a 46 y.o. female who was adopted and found my birthparents,1 at a time, at 20(Birthmother) and about 38(b.father).While I was really glad to have done so,I was also somewhat disappointed w/what I found,esp. w/my B.F.Anyone else felt that way?However,it turned out to be very important from a medical standpoint w/both parents.