what should i do?

Im 16 years old and 4 weeks pregnant. I want the best for my child but I only make $350 a month. I've been thinking about what I need to do but im not sure if adoption is an option right now and I still haven't told my baby's dad.

[Krissy0804]

You should definitely talk to your parents and inform your baby's dad of whats going on, he has a right to know.

[Mrs_Mason0515]

You really have to do what's right in your heart... it's amazing how life can happen...

My husband was adopted by his parents at birth, later in life... they were already in their late 30s and early 40s. His adopted mother had given up a child 17 years previous to adopting him.

When my husband was 16, his adopted mothers birth child found the family, and was welcomed with open arms, she is still a big part of the family today.

When my husband was 17, he met his biological mother for the first time- it was the only time, thus far. She is a friend of both of ours on facebook, and once in a blue moon will email us, but never replies to anything we send her. It's a very strange situation, to say the least.

Both my in-laws and my husbands biological mother have expressed that at the time they had their respective children, they knew they could not handle it, but now that everyone is grown up, things are alot easier. I don't know if that helps at all, but fate has a funny way of playing everything out the right way. You can give up a child, but still watch that child from a distance grow, by keeping in touch with the adoptive parents, as my in-laws did with my husbands bio-mother.

[Im_a_proud_adoptee86]

Talk to your parents, find an adoption agency in the area and set up an appointment to talk with a Social Worker about adoption. Gather as much information as you can on all of your options that way when you are ready to make a decision on what is best for you and your baby you will have all the facts.

Remember talking with an agency and Social Worker does NOT commit you to anything.

[amandas20]

if you deside to keep your baby there is a place called crossroad pregnancy that will help you get everything for your baby. you could even get on wic for baby formula and if you dont mide used clothes you could always look on craigslist and thrift stores for baby clothes. just trying to help i know its your choice

[singhabhishek251]

I know it is very difficult situation for you and for your husband also. try to talk with them and make them calm before telling them the things. You should also think about the child's future not only yours. Think by your heart and if your heart says that this is the correct situation then you can go for it.

[baleighsmom7]

Keep your baby! I got pregnant with my first at 15 she is now 3 and her and my boyfriend are the loves of my live I don't no what I would do without her!!! I'm now 18 having my second and I'm keeping him also!!!

[Pandamomma5]

I am 16 weeks pregnant and couldn't imagine giving my peanut up. I know times seem hard but think how much harder it will feel after your baby is taken from u. On the one hand u will have the security of knowing that ur baby will be safe and well taken care of but on the other hand u can become depressed and much worse: you could regret ur decision. I would talk to ur parents since u r so young and see if they would be willing to help in anyway and the baby dad has an obligation to help too. Also keep in mind that most everywhere a law states that both parents must agree to the adoption so if baby dad doesn't agree and u do then he will get full custody cause the courts will take ur decision of adoption as an action showing u have no interest in keeping ur child which means he won't be obligated to let u see the baby. I had a friend go through that and decides if she can't give it up cause of him then he isn't getting full custody and the only other option is to keep the baby :/ lots of legalities involved so again I say talk to ur parents. Hope this helps