I don't know what to do anymore

[Erock26]

I,m a 26 yr old male who thinks about living on my own and it scares me to death why? My whole life i was living with my parents or with someone where I didn't have the whole responsibility of the bills but now I'm living with my girlfriend so its like i don't have real responsibility yeah i pay rent and phone and bed and truck payments and have a job but thinking about going to work the next morning and start to sweat and feel like I can't do but once  I'm there I feel fine then the end of the day comes and i get that anxiety feeling of going home and living life if that makes sense My real question is why am I scard to grow up?


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[Jason Greenberg, Ph.D.]

I think you answered your own question to start with -- there is something about having the responsibilities of taking care of yourself that is causing a great deal of anxiety.  I think the next question to ask yourself is, "What is the risk of growing up and taking on all this responsibility?"  This is a common anxiety for people by the way -- some worry that without the protection of their parents they will fall flat on their face and be a failure, others worry that when they take on the role for themselves that their parents had, this will be the end of their relationship with their parents, and other people have other concerns (of note, it doesn't have to be one or the other, it may be a combination of different concerns).