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Adulthood: Transitioning Into (Expert Forum)
Responsibility for 24 years old
Answered by
Jason Greenberg, Ph.D. - Anxiety, Depression
Dr. Jason Greenberg
New York - NY
Questions in the Transitioning Into Adulthood forum are answered by Dr. Jason Greenberg, PhD. Topics covered include Anxiety, career choice struggles, depression, drug/alcohol abuse, job issues, living on one's own, relationships (parents/family), relationships (romantic), responsibility issues, separation issues, sexual issues, sexual orientation issues
Responsibility for 24 years old
by Joy48, Aug 03, 2009 07:30AM
Our daughter is going on 24 years. However she lacks responsiblity in areas such as paying her bills. She recieves mail from the electric company, charge cards and ect but does not open them and seems to ingore all of these.
What is the problems that might cause this? She has been treated in the past for anxiety/depression but at present is not being treated. I am unable to get her in due to the fact she is of age and I can not help her.
What do you suggest that could help and how we could help her become more responsible?
What is the problems that might cause this? She has been treated in the past for anxiety/depression but at present is not being treated. I am unable to get her in due to the fact she is of age and I can not help her.
What do you suggest that could help and how we could help her become more responsible?
Doctor's Answer
by Jason Greenberg, Ph.D., Aug 03, 2009 12:08PM
, Aug 03, 2009 12:08PMTo: Joy48
It is difficult for me to say if her struggles to manage independently are because of anxiety or other reasons from what you've said. If you are motivated to stop helping her out, and she is motivated to be financially independent, perhaps you should connect her with a certified financial planner. A financial planner would help her to figure out what she is or is not doing to develop greater financial independence, and as their name implies, help her come up with a financial plan. If after seeing a financial planner and making out her own plan she continues to have problems paying bills, then it may be something else psychological (for example, a way for her to avoid the anxiety related to being fully on her own).
She is living on her own and has been for 3 years. She does have a job however she is not totally financially independent yet. We often help her because she "does not manage her money well" and then needs $ for items such as food/rent. We buget about $200. per month to help her. She was treated for depression/anxiety about 2 years ago, apparently she was in a relationship that she did not want to be in during that time. She finally broke up with the guy and now is in a relationship that she wants. She states she has panic attacks sometimes but is trying to learn to cope with them. (I do not know if she has very good self esteem and do not know how to help her with this.)