is my family pushing too hard? or am i just having issues??

[Jackie267]

im 16 and ever since i was about 14 my parents have been lecturing me about getting a job, doing chores to prepare me for the real world, calling me lazy, saying that i need to pay for all the things i want and some of the things i need. but i dont feel ready! i put off chores, and erase things from my mind that my parents have told me to do subconciously, really not meaning to. i also am extremely afraid to call businesses by myself or even to apply for a job and go into a business and talk about things like job openings. i am constantly stressed out by thoughts of my future and how everyone in my family yells at me for not being dependent on myself. i feel im truly not ready, and i feel like my parents dont give me a choice; either i am sooo afraid and freaked out and try desperately to do what they say dispite my extreme fears, or i get yelled at and am disapproved of. my family thinks all of this is "bull" and that im just lazy, but im really worried that this might be a real problem. please help!!!!! thank you.

[Jason Greenberg, Ph.D.]

It sounds like you are aware of the issues you are having (being freaked out about the future) and you feel your family is pushing too hard.  Have you tried talking to them about how you're feeling?