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worried about a past sexual experience

My son is very worried because he had a sexual experience with a boy friend when he was 13 ,he is now 17 and has a steady girlfriend ,with whom he is sexually active .However he cant get his past experience out of his mind.He is digusted with himself  and is worried that he might be guy .

Can any one help to put his mind at rest?
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While I do not know what you mean when you refer to a "sexual experience" your son had, as well as "put his mind at rest," all I can suggest is that he seek out a therapist to talk to if he is continuously bothered or "traumatized" by the experience, and the anguish is interfering with his life.  
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I concur helpmedude. Well said. Perfect actually
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Its kind of odd that i stumbled on to your question.
My fiance has the exact same problem.
When he was 13, his best friend (who is gay)
tried to do things to him in the middle of the night
and he was scared he couldnt move but he enjoyed it
at the same time. He was also afraid
that if he said something to his friend, then their
friendship would end. And he didnt want that even
though his friend did that to him. For years, he was scared
that he was gay but in all reality, he was young and
was just experimenting. When you are the age that my fiance
and your son is, you are just hitting puberty or just about to
so you are confused about what is going on and your
hormones are going crazy. during that time is when most people
experiment or at least have thoughts about the same sex.
IT IS TOTALLY NORMAL.
But you as a parent need to explain that to him
and you need to ease his mind about the whole
thing. My fiance didnt have anyone he could talk
to at the time to help him so he had to wait 11 years
to hear that he was normal. Tell your son that he is NOT GAY
and that is a perfectly normal 17 year old boy.
And that if he does end up turning gay, that he is
not a freak. He doesnt need to worry over something that
has happened 4 years ago. I hope this helps.
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yes that is exactly what is occuring he can no longer concentrate and feels depresed constantly he also believes that all his actions no matter what they may be in some way relate him to beeng gay
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